The Phoenix man offered to give him a gift of 300,000 yuan, but the girl broke up angrily: No one owes you anything, what's going on?

People are different. Some people can rely on their parents from childhood to adulthood, while some people can only rely on themselves from beginning to end. People who can rely on their parents, whose parents can contribute money and efforts in all aspects, will naturally have everything go smoothly. And people who cannot rely on their parents have to rely entirely on themselves, which will be very difficult in many aspects. If nothing else, just take the matter of marriage. Women are actually fine, but for men, marriage requires a lot of expenses. Whether it is a house or a betrothal gift, it is not a small amount. Whether parents can help or not, will There is a big difference.

Having said that, people are what they are, because no one can choose their parents, and no one can choose their origin. It can only be said that if you have parents who are not in good condition, then don’t have any illusions. You have to rely on your parents, the only one you can rely on is yourself. The reason why many men become Phoenix men is not because they want to be so, but because they have to be so. There is also a difference between phoenix men and phoenix men. Some phoenix men get the life they want through their own hard work, while some phoenix men have always lived a very difficult life with all kinds of difficulties. The Phoenix man below is a relatively unsuccessful person. Although he has achieved some results through his own efforts, when tested in reality, he feels that he is still far behind. Teacher Donglin:

See you There is a sentence mentioned in the article: For some people, the more active they are in front of feelings, the more humble they will be. I don’t know if this sentence applies to others, but it does apply to me anyway. I am a person who becomes more humble the more active I am. Although I didn’t want to follow the traditional path of “men should marry when they are in college and girls should marry when they are in college”, I still couldn’t get rid of the shackles of this traditional concept. Unknowingly, being bound by age, I began to care about marriage. Something happened.

My ex-girlfriend and I met through a blind date. After talking with each other, I felt that she had similar ideas to me, so I decided that we were a good match and began to slowly move closer to marriage. Before we got engaged, I explained my family's situation to her in detail: I am a single-parent family, my mother is gone, and my father can barely take care of himself, so I hope that we can get married entirely by myself and not rely on family members. The reason why I dare to say this is because I have a little money. I feel that I have made it on my own for so many years, and I can definitely continue to rely on myself in the rest of my life.

She had no objection to my idea at that time. She thought that anything would be fine. As long as two people were together, there was nothing to fear. With this agreement, when we got engaged, my dad didn't contribute a penny, and I was responsible for all the bride price and the house. As long as the couple repaid the loan together after we got married. However, just a few days after we got engaged, she changed her mind. Although the change of heart was not because of her, but was instigated by her parents, I still felt very uncomfortable hearing it from her mouth. The so-called change of heart is simply this: She raised the price and asked my father for a gift of 300,000 yuan, saying, "How can I not pay for my son's marriage?" Not only was she putting pressure on my dad, but her parents were putting pressure on my dad, which disgusted me.

I am not a person who relies on my parents, nor can I. As I said before, my dad can only barely take care of himself. He doesn’t have much money at all. If I could get him to pay, I would have let him out earlier. It was precisely because he had no money that I went with her before we got engaged. Explain the situation. I couldn't bear the persecution she and her parents put on my dad, so I regretted my marriage and told her, "You are marrying me, not my dad. I told you that my dad has no money, and you still worry about it." , then don’t get married!”

She first decisively accepted the repentance, and then changed her mind and said that it would be okay if my dad didn’t pay for it, so I didn’t continue to marry her. If there is no conflict between us, I won't be afraid of any problems. But there have already been incidents of going back on one's word, so I can't pretend that nothing happened. It seems that I'd better not rush to get married, otherwise all kinds of bad things will not have any effect except disrupting my life. Preparing the groundwork before marriage is very troublesome, but you still need to make the preparations!

If they are two inanimate things, if you just put them together, they will always be together without any noise or noise. But for living people, it is easy to cause conflicts if they just put them together without caring about anything. Marriage is like this. Many people who fall in love and get married will have conflicts after marriage, let alone those who get married without any emotional basis.

Many people say they want to get married to the right person, but in actual practice, many people downplay this important point. They feel that it is troublesome to prepare for marriage, and just want to get married once and for all. If you just get married without caring about anything, you can indeed omit a lot of things. However, marriage is not a matter of three or two days, and it does not mean that you can separate immediately if you are not suitable for marriage. The responsibilities, obligations and various interpersonal relationships involved cannot be easily omitted.

In other words, many things you ignored before marriage will appear after marriage. Especially those things called problems, if you don't figure them out before marriage, they will make you miserable when they appear after marriage. The man in the above case did not make much preparation before marriage. He was a little too anxious to get married, so he just explained the situation to the woman, but did not get to know whether the woman could truly accept his ideas through getting along with him. If he could spend more time with the woman before getting engaged, he would then be able to identify whether she is suitable for him. Without an engagement, there would be no farce of getting engaged and then regretting the engagement. Preparing the preparations before marriage is very troublesome, but you still need to prepare the preparations. Worrying more in the early stage will save you worry in the later stage; if you only think about saving worry in the early stage, then you will be worried in the later stage.