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Best man and bridesmaid Chinese saying:

In the past there was a folk custom that newlyweds could not light the lights when they got married. But it was said that a pair of young people came to the church and got married. In the evening, the bride and groom have just been sent into the dark new house. The groom will go to bed and make love with the bride. The bride said, "We have already gone to the wedding hall to get married. There are still many relatives and friends in the family. You should go and accompany them to avoid being laughed at." The groom walked out of the bridal chamber to accompany his relatives.

There was a swinger among the guests who liked to pick flowers and steal willows. When he saw that the groom was not sleeping but came out to talk to relatives, he thought he had an opportunity, so he sneaked into the dark bridal chamber and groped his way into the bride's bed. After the slut had enjoyed herself, she put on her clothes and ran away.

After accompanying his relatives, the groom returns to the bridal chamber to rest and then woos the bride as soon as he goes to bed. The smart bride immediately understood what was going on and kept silent.

The next morning the groom got up and went to the front room to see off his relatives. The bride thought about what happened last night and felt shameless to face the groom. She was also afraid of getting an advantage from the man who was talking nonsense. After thinking about it over and over again, she hanged herself in the bridal chamber. .

After the death of the bride, the family members believed that the bride’s death must have been caused by the groom, so they sued the groom to the county government. The county magistrate personally went to the bridal chamber to inspect the scene and found a poem written by a bloody finger on the bride's skirt: "The bridal chamber is darkly blocked by flowers and candles, and the lewd thief takes the opportunity to get into the bed. It's a pity that a chaste woman in her life expected to suffer disaster today. The bud is shy and still knows its shame." How can I betray my husband? It's better to stay clean and avoid any disputes in the future." The county magistrate finally found out the criminal and beheaded the young man.

In order to prevent this kind of fishing in troubled waters from happening again, the county magistrate announced a new rule. From now on, if there is a new marriage, the bridal chamber must light up the lights all night, and the bride must choose a companion to accompany the bride in the bridal chamber when she gets married. . In the evening, a fat boy is chosen to press the bed in the groom's home. From then on this wedding custom has been passed down to this day.

Western parlance:

The idea of ??having bridesmaids, boy boys, best men, and ushers at a wedding stems from the belief that evil ghosts jealous of the couple's happiness will Ruining the wedding of the couple and hurting the couple on their wedding day. But if there are many people dressed similarly at the wedding, the ghosts can be confused and protect the couple from completing the wedding ceremony.

Therefore, in Western weddings, the bridesmaids and groomsmen will wear attire consistent with the bride's dress. And because ancient Westerners believed that fragrant flowers, herbs and spices could drive away evil ghosts, bad luck and disease, in addition to the bride holding flowers at the wedding, the bridesmaids also needed to hold bouquets.

The custom of being the best man dates back to barbaric times, when the groom often brought a friend to kidnap the bride from her natal home.

The flower girl, also known as the bridesmaid, refers to the little girl who holds the wedding dress for the couple (bride) or throws flower petals in front of the bride and groom during the wedding ceremony. They are usually 4 or 5-year-old little girls. In some places, a 5- or 6-year-old "boy" is used to accompany the mother, which means "to have a son early".

According to Christian allusions, the flower girl is Cupid, the little angel at the wedding, who comes to the bride with the joy of blessing. The cute little angel symbolizes the pure love of the couple and a sign of future descendants. It also adds a touch of agility to the wedding.

The flower girl is a symbol of angels, used to confuse the devil. He will throw flower petals to the bride and groom, wishing them happiness on the road to marriage. In addition, in the West, little flower girls will hold bells to guide newcomers and drive away devils and ghosts.

I am Li Yaruo, a wedding planner. If you have any questions, please leave a message on the blog!