How much psychological harm does being born in a family that favors boys over girls have?

Preference for boys is like the cancer of many families. In such a family, girls are despised by their biological parents because they are not sons. This kind of injury affects the girl's life, and the preference for sons makes a protagonist and son actually victims. Isn't the doting and partiality of parents a kind of poison?

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Colleague Xiao Fei is very happy to have your daughter, so go and congratulate her. Xiao Fei, who has not finished this month, looks very sad. She said that her mother-in-law was in the delivery room and was told by the nurse that it was a girl, and she had a cardiac arrest and was admitted directly to the hospital. The first thing I woke up from the rescue was that the second child must give me a boy. Angry and funny. My first reaction at that time was to ask Xiao Fei's mother-in-law, do you have a throne to inherit? Died in the early hours. It's so interesting. In the concept of preferring boys to girls, the main force of practitioners to improve men's status is women! Women are the direct victims of the idea of son preference, but facts show that women are also the inheritors and inheritors of this idea. Why do women embarrass women?

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In a patriarchal family, the status of women is despised. If the wife doesn't have a son, you will be considered "useless" if you have a son, and it is the daughters in this family who suffer. They not only have to bear the hurt that their parents don't love them enough, but also take care of their younger brothers, help their parents share housework and even make a living. When I was a child, I lacked calcium; when I grew up, I lacked love. In all kinds of toxic families, girls often don't get enough care, resulting in inferiority, rebellion, paranoia and other bad personality traits, and even being affected and hurt all their lives.

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Korean actress Choo Ja Hyun once told her unfortunate life story in tears in a variety show. Because my mother only gave birth to two daughters, she had to endure the neglect of her grandmother and father since she was a child, and her parents' marriage disintegrated because her mother's temperament changed greatly after her sister died. These unbearable injuries have become the biggest reason for her to leave her hometown. Because I am a daughter, I am not recognized and unloved. So I want my proof of life, or run in the opposite direction and try my best to escape. However, a child who lacks love is doomed to be insecure. It is also difficult to establish close relationships with others.

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Fan in Ode to Joy is the victim of son preference. At the age of 30, I dare not jump ship. The blind date only depends on the economic situation. I have to save money when my income is high. And the source of all this is the preference for boys over girls. She has to support her brother's family and parents. Even though she tried her best, her mother was partial to her brother who had accomplished nothing. This is the epitome of many patriarchal families.

Because of the lack of love, money and security, the cognition of love is incomplete. So I tried to please my parents, hoping to be affirmed. Because of lack of love, inferiority has been accompanied by growth. The girl's apparent strength can't hide her inferiority.

Just like Fan, if you want to get rid of the poison of son preference, you can only start again if you leave the original circle.

The first cry of a child should be the happiest time for parents. I don't want parents to frown because of their children's sex. Boys and girls can do it!

Su Mingyu suffered this kind of "injury" because she didn't get enough care from her parents and warmth from her family for a long time, so she became very indifferent.

However, this "injury" made her strong. In the process of her growing up, she did not rely on the support of her family, but achieved the success of her career entirely by her own efforts, and resolved the harm of her family, and chose to reconcile with her father and brother and live a better life.

Due to specific historical reasons and specific traditional concepts, most families have a son preference, but this concept is changing with the imbalance between men and women.

What injuries have girls suffered in Born into a Family? (past years)

We find that it is precisely because of this neglected injury that girls are "married daughters, spilled water". Girls become in-laws after marriage, and some no longer communicate with their parents and family. You go your way, I'll cross my wooden bridge. There are also daughters who won't stay in bed after their parents are seriously ill. Wait, this could be revenge.

But most people still choose to forgive, because they know that it is not easy for their parents. They know that their parents don't have much knowledge and don't know what it means to come from a family. Because parents are also the inheritors and inheritors of their parents' "parenting style".

In order not to make this traditional "family concept"-patriarchal, intergenerational transmission. Those female compatriots who have suffered this loss should understand a truth.

I need to treat my children equally.

I need to forgive the harm my former family has caused me.

I need to make peace with myself and forget the pain of the past.

As long as the balance is asymmetrical, it will definitely tilt. A patriarchal family will affect all members, and any one will be affected. Since parents have brought their children into this world, please be kind to them. If you don't take good care of them, why do you want him? There is no doubt that the girl who can hurt the most will have a negative impact on her personality, values and cognition of the world and people, including her personality journey, communication with people, and even her future marriage and children, which are irreversible. On variety shows, it is the kind of programs where dads discuss their daughters together. When a daughter comes out, some people will say, I saw your father's shadow in your daughter's eyes. From her confident words and deeds, we can see that she didn't lose her role as a parent when she was young and gave her enough love? I was surprised at that time, and I skipped a little unnatural feeling in my eyes. I am thinking, is the child shaped by a good family really that good? What would it be like for a child to grow up in an unbalanced family without parental roles?

Girls born and brought up in families will have three consequences if they are accompanied by the environmental influence that men are superior to women:

This kind of girl will have shortcomings in marriage, friendship and affection. They will not have a strong sense of professionalism, and they are in a subordinate position in marriage and have no autonomy. It is difficult for them to have friends because they will have social fears. There are brothers at home, and they will sacrifice themselves when necessary.

For example, in the old society, girls lived in that big environment and could read and write, most of which were just accessories of men.

Such a girl is stubborn and eager to prove herself and build her own kingdom with success. They will be extremely harsh in choosing a spouse because they have capital. But it may also lead to loneliness, because it is difficult to meet someone who can match her.

A female netizen, with a successful career, has reached marriageable age, but hates marriage. Because she lived in the shadow of her younger brother since she was a child, her parents had no eyes for her. Forced to drop out of school early to work, but succeeded with amazing perseverance. But the scars left by her family forced her to refuse to get married, especially for male chauvinists.

Such girls may have to meet mentors and friends, and may have had strange experiences, which have made them form a mature world outlook. They are very lucky.

The preference for sons over daughters is itself a decadent idea. Living in such a family, the best thing is to make some mentors and friends when you are confused and show you the way.

Well, I always thought there would be no preference for boys now. Give you a hug. If you meet such a family, please be strong. I only do what I have to do for my family. I don't want moral kidnapping, let alone virginity. You can't change the family's loopholes and deep-rooted ideas unless you have enough ability to protect yourself.

As a girl, it is selfish, especially in a patriarchal family. Don't think that you can change those ideas by doing something. They don't want to know clearly, and you can't change them. What's more, I personally think that as long as you do what you should do and what you think is right, there is no way for your parents to give birth to you and raise you, but for your brothers and sisters, this is your first time to be a child. Why did you let them do this? So, be strong and come on. Try to make yourself strong enough that others can't hurt you and strong enough to protect yourself.

I can't mention it. There is a knot in my heart that I can't untie for a lifetime. I am a woman, and I have a younger brother who is older than Xiao Jiu. Everyone knows that.

I felt sick when I was a child. Now when I am old, I still tell you as a joke, and my family relationship is still very good.

The biggest influence is the inferiority complex for most of my life after I grow up. Unless I can meet thousands of husbands in Qian Qian who love me, I will always feel inferior, and no matter how capable I am, I can't escape from inferiority.

It definitely has an impact! Let women work harder and make themselves more confident and independent.

Very big, now some women are emotionally unstable, extreme and hysterical ... all related to this.