Causes and countermeasures of students' lack of self-confidence

Causes and countermeasures of students' lack of self-confidence

The reasons and countermeasures of students' lack of self-confidence, more and more people complain that "my life is not happy". Then why is there such an emotion? A large part of the reason is lack of self-confidence. Let's share the reasons why students are not confident and the countermeasures.

Causes and countermeasures of students' lack of self-confidence. The main manifestations of middle school students' lack of self-confidence

(A) in collective activities

(B) in interpersonal communication

(3) When encountering difficulties,

Second, the main reason for the lack of self-confidence of middle school students

(A) the characteristics of students themselves

(B) the scope of transmission is narrow

Inappropriate adult education methods

(d) Excessive expectations and demands.

(5) Improper evaluation and comparison methods.

(6) Requirements for convergence, lack of exercise

Third, measures to enhance the self-confidence of middle school students

Respect and tolerance

(2) Expectation and encouragement

(3) Stimulation and creation

Accumulation and success

1, scientific comparison

2. Choose the right direction.

3, determine the goal

As an important social psychological quality, self-confidence is an important part of middle school students' good psychological quality and healthy personality, and it is also the basic requirement of talent quality. From a psychological point of view, self-distrust mainly refers to people's psychological feelings of "inferiority" caused by their excessive understanding of their weaknesses and deficiencies, such as shame, shyness, shrinking back and even losing confidence. Lack of confidence is mental suicide. Like a wet match, you can never light the flame of success. However, the current situation of the development of middle school students' self-confidence in China is not optimistic, and many middle school students generally have the phenomenon of lack of self-confidence to varying degrees. Therefore, it is necessary to explore its manifestations, causes and countermeasures.

The main manifestations of middle school students' lack of self-confidence

(A) in collective activities

Dare not or rarely take the initiative to raise your hand to speak in class, dare not speak in front of the group, be nervous and fluent in answering questions, and dare not take the initiative to ask for participation in other students' group or collective activities; Dare not put forward their own opinions and suggestions, lack confidence in their own abilities, dare not participate in competitions, dare not compare with others, especially afraid of joking; Lack of self-confidence in the results or process of their own activities, often seek the affirmation of others, dare not act boldly, and dare not show their achievements in front of others.

(B) in interpersonal communication

Dare not take the initiative to associate with other students, often shrink back, go shopping or play games alone, speak in a low voice and be timid, dare not or rarely take the initiative to express their wishes in games and put forward their own views and opinions. Lack of self-determination, always follow the capable classmates and listen to other people's arrangements, instead of being led improperly.

(3) When encountering difficulties,

When encountering difficulties, they tend to be afraid, shrink back and give up easily instead of trying to solve them. I am afraid to try new things and activities. I always choose activities that are easier and avoid new activities that may be difficult or challenging. When you have conflicts with others, you often lack your own opinions and can't find a solution yourself. Instead, rely on the help of others, complain to the teacher or go home and tell your parents.

The main reasons for middle school students' lack of self-confidence

(A) the characteristics of students themselves

Due to the differences in appearance, personality, behavior and intelligence caused by genetic quality, physiological development, family environment, education and other factors, they feel "inferior to others", lack positive self-experience and doubt their self-worth. All these have affected the formation of middle school students' self-confidence to some extent.

(B) the scope of transmission is narrow

Now most middle school students are only children. Parents spoil and spoil their children too much, take care of everything as soon as things happen, attach importance to intellectual education and ignore the cultivation of children's ability. Some teachers also regard students as weak individuals and try their best to do all kinds of things and solve all kinds of problems for students. This excessive concern and care makes them not only lack the necessary self-care ability, but also lack independence. When they encounter difficulties, they will be at a loss, shrink back, and be more vulnerable to setbacks and failures, resulting in inferiority complex.

Inappropriate adult education methods

Some parents regard their children as their private property and have a strong paternalistic style. They ask children to obey themselves in everything and impose their will on them. They are too strict, rude and even harsh, lacking care and positive recognition. Some teachers often ask them to be tough. When students have problems, they criticize, reprimand and deny too much, which leads to students' feeling of "self-incompetence". Over time, I feel good and depressed, resulting in helplessness, inferiority and lack of self-confidence.

(d) Excessive expectations and demands.

Having reasonable expectations for children can stimulate their inner motivation for achievement and make them work harder. But the expectations of children must be appropriate, meet the needs of society, meet the possibility of achieving goals, and meet the personal conditions of children. If the expectation is too high, it will make the child daunting and cause excessive psychological pressure to the child. Once the expectation fails and the result is lower than the expectation, it will make the child frustrated, seriously affect his healthy physical and mental growth, and move from constant self-doubt to inferiority.

(5) Improper evaluation and comparison methods.

Middle school students' self-evaluation lacks independence and is easy to believe and accept the evaluation of adults. Some parents and teachers don't pay attention to the influence of their own evaluation on their children's development, and often criticize, deny or even accuse their children at will, while some parents and teachers blindly compare the advantages of other children with the shortcomings of their own children, making children feel stupid and poor, which seriously affects the formation of their positive self-image and self-confidence.

(6) Requirements for convergence, lack of exercise

In teaching, some teachers can't teach students in accordance with their aptitude, ignore the needs of students at different stages of development, and put forward a common goal for all students, so that some students are often frustrated because of lack of successful experience. In addition, due to the disadvantages of exam-oriented education, students lack opportunities to practice, use their brains, operate and explore, and cannot feel their own abilities and experience the happiness of success, thus affecting the establishment of self-confidence.

Countermeasures to enhance middle school students' self-confidence

Enhancing middle school students' self-confidence requires the joint efforts of schools, society and families. So how to enhance middle school students' self-confidence in school education?

Respect and tolerance

Students respect teachers and teachers love students, which is an important condition for achieving good educational results. Middle school students generally have strong self-confidence. They are extremely sensitive to the evaluation given by the teacher, and every sentence may make them excited, and this self-esteem is often the driving force for progress. In school, if you get the teacher's proper evaluation and sincere trust, you will get spiritual satisfaction, have a successful emotional experience, and have a "self-motivated" psychological state and corresponding self-confidence psychology.

As a teacher, all the students are the objects of his education. He should have the belief that all the students can be educated well as long as the methods are right. Although due to the different living environment and educational conditions, each student has different psychological characteristics, especially self-confidence. But they have something in common, and they are all eager for teachers' understanding, support and tolerance. As a teacher, we should be full of enthusiasm, care for and respect students, and we can't decide whether to respect them by their academic performance and obedience. Theoretically speaking, teachers should adopt an understanding or tolerant attitude when criticizing students' wrong behavior, treat people with things and avoid insulting students' personality. If so, students will not only fail to correct their mistakes effectively, but will have rebellious psychology, which will seriously hurt their self-esteem and self-confidence.

(2) Expectation and encouragement

Teachers should treat every student with expectation. We should put forward different requirements for students with different psychological states, instead of imposing uniformity. We should have more confidence and expectation. But not too high, nor too hasty. If a student fails many times in his studies, his competitive spirit is frustrated, which is a great psychological blow to him. Emotional trauma still needs emotional healing, students need love and warmth, and students with low self-confidence need teachers to influence them with sincere affection full of expectations. As long as students have made progress in a certain aspect and achieved certain achievements, even insignificant achievements, we should also see their bright spots, affirm, encourage and praise them in time, so that they can fully realize that they are exactly the same as other students and have enough talent to treat and deal with everything. Sincere treatment, emotional treatment, active guidance, targeted help and encouragement to improve, so as to strengthen their psychology of being happy because of success and constantly enhance their self-confidence.

(3) Stimulation and creation

Self-confidence has the functions of activating orientation and maintaining adjustment in learning activities. Therefore, teachers should be good at stimulating students' self-confidence, so that they have inherent independent psychological requirements. At the same time, they should create certain conditions, consciously let students with low self-confidence do some easy things, give students a chance to succeed, and then increase the difficulty after success. Even if students fail, help them analyze the reasons, let them try again, and let them know that they can succeed through hard work. While getting the teacher's affirmation, I will have an emotional experience of "I am born useful", so that every student can live and study with confidence. At the same time, teachers should also pay attention to give students with low self-confidence more opportunities to contact with other students, create a harmonious and relaxed environment where they want to say (do), dare to say (do) and love to say (do), and overcome their shyness. It should also be noted that when cultivating students' ability, they should not replace others, nor should they rudely deny others, so as not to let students lose the opportunity of exercise and success, and at the same time, they should not blame children for being too hasty. It is necessary to create conditions, carry out more psychological counseling, help students with insufficient self-confidence to eliminate psychological obstacles, enhance their psychological self-adjustment ability and increase their self-confidence.

Accumulation and success

Success is an important factor to improve students' self-confidence. The more chances of success, the easier it is to gain self-confidence; The stronger the successful experience, the higher the self-confidence. If a person always fails, it is easy to doubt his ability and his self-confidence will be reduced. So to cultivate self-confidence, the most important thing is to increase the chances of success:

1, scientific comparison, find the advantages of self. You can find your own advantages by comparison. Comparatively speaking, don't just compare your own shortcomings with others' strengths, so you will be easily frustrated and be inferior to others everywhere, which will shake your confidence; Don't just compare your own advantages with others' shortcomings, so it is easy to feel that you are stronger than others everywhere and have pride, which is not conducive to personal progress. Only through scientific comparison can we see our own advantages.

2, according to their own advantages to determine the direction of efforts. Choosing the right direction of efforts is not only conducive to giving play to one's own advantages, but also avoiding one's own disadvantages, so it is easier to succeed. And every success will inevitably enrich your experience, enhance your ability and enhance your confidence, and you will be more confident to strive for greater success.

3, the determination of the target should be appropriate. People's success or failure is often related to goals. So, don't set your goals too high, or your lack of strength will lead to failure. Therefore, we should lower our expectations, do what we can, start from a low level, climb up step by step, and slowly develop from small success to great success. With successful experience, self-confidence will be stronger and stronger.

Causes and countermeasures of students' lack of self-confidence II. The main manifestations of middle school students' lack of self-confidence

1, in group activities

Dare not or rarely take the initiative to raise your hand to speak in class, dare not speak in front of the group, be nervous and fluent in answering questions, and dare not take the initiative to ask for participation in other students' group or collective activities; Dare not put forward their own opinions and suggestions, lack confidence in their own abilities, dare not participate in competitions, dare not compare with others, especially afraid of joking; Lack of self-confidence in the results or process of their own activities, often seek the affirmation of others, dare not act boldly, and dare not show their achievements in front of others.

2. In interpersonal communication

Dare not take the initiative to associate with other students, often cringe, retreat, go shopping alone or play games alone, talk quietly and timidly, dare not or rarely take the initiative to express their wishes in games, put forward their own views and opinions, lack opinions, always follow the capable students, listen to other people's arrangements, and even never want to be a leader.

3. When you are in trouble.

When encountering difficulties, they are often afraid, flinch, give up easily and can't work hard to solve them. I am afraid to try new things and activities. I always choose activities that are easier and avoid new activities that may be difficult or challenging. When you have conflicts with others, you often lack your own opinions and can't find a solution yourself. Instead, rely on the help of others, complain to the teacher or go home and tell your parents.

Second, the main reason for the lack of self-confidence of middle school students

1, students' own characteristics

Due to the differences in appearance, personality, ability, behavior and intelligence caused by genetic quality, physiological development, family environment and education, they feel "inferior to others", lack positive self-experience and doubt their self-worth. All these have affected the formation of middle school students' self-confidence to some extent.

2. Inappropriate evaluation and comparison methods

Middle school students' self-evaluation lacks independence and is easy to believe and accept the evaluation of adults. Some parents and teachers don't pay attention to the influence of their own evaluation on their children's development, and often criticize, deny or even accuse their children at will, while some parents and teachers blindly compare the advantages of other children with the shortcomings of their own children, making children feel stupid and poor, which will seriously affect the formation of their positive self-image and self-confidence.

Reasons and countermeasures for students' lack of self-confidence 3 There is only one reason for a person's lack of self-confidence, and there are three ways to regain self-confidence.

Psychologists have found for a long time that the fundamental reason why most people lack self-confidence is that they can't express themselves. Today, we will analyze the root of a person's lack of confidence from the perspective of psychology and how to become confident.

There is such a story: there is a white-collar worker with higher education in the consulting room. She has a stable job, beautiful skin and an enviable figure. However, she said that she was unhappy and stressed in her life and work. Her friends turned to her for help, even if it was difficult. Even if it is very hard, I will work hard and take on the responsibilities of her colleagues. She is afraid that if she refuses, she will be excluded. Never dare to express her inner thoughts, because she doesn't know how to satisfy others and how to talk about herself.

Psychologists learned through communication that her mother was very strict with her since she was a child and often failed to meet her requirements. However, her mother died when she was eight years old. In later life, she not only had to obey her mother's request, but also had to face the world alone, fearing more dissatisfaction and contempt. I never dare to express my thoughts, but constantly cater to and obey others, hoping not to be ignored and laughed at.

Before her mother died, she needed to cater to her mother constantly, and her mother's death made her feel uneasy. She has to face the demands of so many people in the world alone. In this case, you will lose your subjective consciousness for a long time and accumulate too much fear and resentment at the same time. Afraid of getting in touch with more worlds. Lack of self-confidence will make people have no hope of living.

How to make yourself more confident:

(1) Dare to express yourself truly; In early childhood, parents will give their children enough support and security. Children who grow up in such an environment will naturally express their feelings. In the story, working girl lost these things when she was young, so she had to constantly abandon herself. With the feeling of self, the true expression can enjoy life normally and happily. Self-confidence is the affirmation of self and the premise of daring to express.

(2) Spiritual separation from the closest relatives: Our bodies are born of our parents, and we should be infinitely grateful to our parents, but we are also independent individuals in the world, and we may treat things differently from our parents. At this time, we should have our own independent thinking according to rational judgment, and this process often leads to spiritual separation from our parents. As an adult, you must have complete confidence in your ability to analyze problems independently.

(3) Distinguish the difference between negation and projection: You will often encounter such a situation in your daily life. Your friends will often say that your solution is wrong, and your mother will tell you how to deal with such a problem. "How do we face this situation, is recognition or struggle? The question is whether people deny you or you fall into the trap of projection. Projection is the inner denial of yourself when you do something. You will become more confident after others express the same intention. "

This subconscious self-denial will keep you away from self-confidence. But the negation needs to be judged according to the actual situation. When others say no, they can check whether they still have room for improvement, but this is completely different from projection. Denial needs to be done better, and projection lacks self-confidence.