For the rest of your life, know how to love yourself

In the blink of an eye, it is a day, in the blink of an eye, it is a year, in the blink of an eye, it is a lifetime.

Time flies so fast, and I have already reached middle age before I even have time to realize the beauty of youth.

Looking back on the past, I have too much helplessness and a lot of emotions, but I have to face it. Pain, sadness, failure, suffering, and mixed emotions linger in my life.

The older you get, the more clearly you can see yourself and understand others. The more I live, the more transparent I become, but I don’t want to talk less and less. Take everything lightly. No matter how hard the days are, you can still smile.

Some people say: "Go out in the sunshine and you will be in a good mood all day long." But the sunshine always hides behind the wind and rain, or in other words, after the sunshine, the wind and rain will come. A person cannot live a happy life every day. There will always be some time when life is very miserable and life is worse than death.

I always think that if I treat others a little bit, I will get rich rewards. However, in these years, I have paid too much and received too little. When you love someone, you put in a lot of effort and spend all your money, but he doesn't take a serious look at you. In the end, he turned around and left heartlessly, leaving him alone, squatting on the ground and crying, with tears streaming down his face. The people around him just looked at the joke, thinking that you were too childish and that you had brought it all on yourself.

The job is neither good nor bad, and the salary is neither more nor less. I really want to start a business. I have had this idea countless times, and I have even written a resignation report, but I never have the courage. I often wonder, if I lose this job, what else can I do? Will starting a business be successful? After reading a lot of articles, some people said: "If you haven't found a good way out, don't resign casually." Yes, from the day you resign, there may be no way out, and not everyone can succeed easily.

Finally one day, I learned to turn around and completely abandon the person I once loved behind my mind, and then mustered up the courage to always imagine love. After going around in a big circle, I met the person I liked. At the wedding ceremony, someone vowed: "I love you, I will love you all my life, no matter how hard it is, I am willing to do it." I believed it.

Falling in love is always easy, but getting along is too difficult. For families, they have a lot to say, but don’t know where to start. There are too many trivial things running through my mind, making me feel dizzy. I increasingly believe that "marriage is the tomb of love" because these years, I feel like I am living in a "grave". The person who keeps saying he loves me is no longer even willing to hold hands and walks his own way. Rather than being a lover, it is better to say that he is a relative or a friend.

"Don't overestimate your position in the hearts of others." This sentence is familiar to everyone, but I often mistakenly think that I am very important.

I would rather wrong myself than be kind to others, hoping to establish a good network of contacts. One more friend, one more road, at least in a strange city, you won't be unable to find anyone to talk to.

When talking to others, you are cautious and look at other people's faces. Especially in front of the boss, I have to bow my head. Even if I have done nothing wrong, I still maintain a humble state.

When communicating with relatives, you also believe that relatives can help you at critical moments. Especially those who are rich relatives, contact them often, they may be useful in the future. I really think so.

When I was down and out, I suddenly discovered that relatives and friends were all "face-to-face interactions". If I wanted to have in-depth interactions, I was probably overthinking them. For example, when I wanted to borrow money, I found that my relatives and friends were hesitant, and in the end I made some false excuses to shirk the loan. It is difficult to borrow money, but it is difficult to reach the sky. This is what I realized after borrowing money.

It’s not that there are no true friends, but it’s hard to find them. If you have a true friend, you must cherish it.

When people reach middle age, they really want to meet a close friend.

A confidant is the one who truly understands you, and understands you more deeply than loving you. Because we understand that we feel the same way about each other and cannot be inseparable, but we can be in touch with each other.

I once met someone on WeChat who I could talk to about anything, and I mistakenly thought I had met a confidant.

But then, the other party suddenly said, "I'm in the tea business recently, you must help me." Oh, I finally understood that the person who was talking to me came prepared and wanted to get close to you and then take a sum of money from your pocket. It's really abominable.

I have also tried to communicate well with the people around me, hoping that my lover will be my confidant. But when the two of them were together, they started to quarrel without saying a few words. Your lover will also complain that you make too little money, magnify your shortcomings, and complain that you are not good enough for your family. After getting married and starting a business, love is no longer love and is crushed by the exhausting life.

Some people say: "Meeting a close friend of the opposite sex is the most beautiful fate, but it has side effects." The implication is that you must grasp a certain degree. If you can't, it's best to stay away. Don't ruin it. family.

It seems that meeting someone who understands you is just a dream, which is beautiful but unrealistic. One day, you will realize that the only person who can understand you is yourself.

I really want to take a quick trip. Or go wandering. A place far away from right and wrong, leave all your worries behind, and go far away alone. Go to a place where no one knows, slowly look at the scenery, and feel the pleasant wind. The scenery does not need to be beautiful, the key is that it can relieve your fatigue.

I really want to cry loudly, let the tears wash away the vicissitudes of time, and let the tears flow happily. But when I really cried, I found that there was no one to hand me tissues. After crying, I wiped away my tears, tried my best to smile, and continued to live. There is nothing easy in the adult world. Even if you are crying, you have to run.

I really want someone to give me a hug, or find a shoulder to lean on. But on whom? Rely on yourself, this is the only thing you can rely on. Look at the people around you. They all count on you to eat and make money, but no one can count on you. Parents are getting older, children are underage, brothers and sisters have their own families, relatives are just relatives, friends just eat and drink together, the road of life, even if it is climbing, you have to climb it yourself.

The autumn of grass and trees, the whole life, and decades pass by in a flash. For the rest of your life, know how to love yourself, love yourself well, take a rest when you are tired, eat when you are hungry, and sleep when you are sleepy.

If no one understands you, then learn to comfort yourself, give yourself a hug, and warm your heart.

Author: Buyi coarse food.

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