Suddenly feel very tired. I found that my parents and wife were really suppressing me, not helping me. I'm depressed and at a loss.

Life is like a river. Harmony is a boat, temper is a wave, and atmosphere is a shore. There is no boat, the river is sad, the waves are turbulent, and the other side is the end.

A person's life is just a practice, grinding his temper into a harmonious atmosphere, putting it into the stove of life and refining it into an atmosphere.

1. Harmony and win-win

Shakespeare famously said, be kind to people, but not too affectionate. Kindness not only means gentleness, but also means teamwork and creating a harmonious atmosphere. Kindness does not mean being a good person, but treating others with a tolerant and considerate heart.

Peace is auspicious, while good is resentful. Zeng Guofan's governance of Xiang Army was based on "sincerity" and "harmony", and he was generous and kind to his subordinates. As a student of Zeng Guofan, Li Hongzhang described Zeng Guofan's daily life and said: Zeng Guofan always waited for them to have dinner together in the camp. After dinner, everyone sat around and chatted. At this time, Zeng Guofan always likes to tell a little joke, and everyone laughs stagger.

In the eleventh year of Xianfeng (186 1), Li Xiucheng led the troops to attack Zeng Guofan's camp, and Qimen was in danger. Some people packed their soft clothes and prepared to run away. After Zeng Guofan knew it, he ordered: "The thief is in such a situation that he wants to pay it back temporarily and give him a salary in March. It doesn't matter if he still comes to the camp. "

In the face of the soldiers who planned to abandon the war and flee, Zeng Guofan did not hurt his hand, but was lenient and considerate of the difficulties of others. Hearing this order, the soldiers were ashamed and refused to leave again.

Some people commented on Zeng Guofan like this: Zuo Shuai (Zuo Tang Zong) is strict, and people dare not bully; Li Shuai (Li Hongzhang) knows that people can't be bullied; Zeng Gong (Zeng Guofan) is kind, and people can't bear to be bullied.

Only by being kind to others can you make others be kind to you.

We often say that "the spring breeze is harmonious", and harmony is like the spring breeze on your face. When it meets the soft wind, the mountains turn green and the ice melts.

Meeting people is not a war. You don't have to score to win or lose. Only by seeking harmony with others can we achieve a win-win situation.

Harmony is different, and discord is invincible.