What's the game for dinner?

The end of the Lunar New Year is a time to sort out the past and welcome the New Year, and it is also a time for meals to get together. At this time, it is essential for China people to have different dinners with acquaintances, strangers, colleagues and clients. Dinner is of special significance to China people. On the surface, it is entertainment, and behind it is human feelings. Wen Junyi and Gu Tingting eat rice. What they want is that we in China always attach importance to eating and drinking. Joey, eat. Also eat sad things. There are wedding banquets, full moon wine for children, birthday wine all day, and various dinners on holidays. In short, find all kinds of reasons for not being established and set a table for dinner. From birth to death, our life, every important or unimportant period, can not be separated from the word "eat and drink." Once the word "bureau" is added to the matter of mouth and abdomen, the meaning becomes profound. It has something to do with feelings, circles, the way of the world and the shady psychology of China people. It is said that linking eating with the word "bureau" was an invention of scholars in the Song Dynasty. The word "dinner party" has a long history, and it has been said in China population for 1000 years. But turning such a simple thing as eating into a game was long before the Song Dynasty. The elegant dinner has a winding Lanting banquet. On March 3rd, 9, Wang Xizhi, Yonghe Emperor of the Eastern Jin Dynasty, and forty-one people, including Xie An and Sun Chuo, gathered in Yinshan Lanting (now Shaoxing, Zhejiang) for the purpose of "repairing the tomb". At this dinner party, Wang Xizhi, a middle-aged man, wrote a preface to the collection of Lanting, which is his own masterpiece of calligraphy and has been handed down through the ages. There are more dangerous meals. Far away, there is a famous "king's feast"-Hongmen banquet. More recently, Zhao Kuangyin, the founding emperor of the Song Dynasty, gave a banquet to entertain the founding dignitaries. There are other kinds of mood dinners. For example, the banquet depicted in Gu's long scroll Han Xizai's Banquet Picture. Han Xizai, assistant secretary of Zhongshu in the Southern Tang Dynasty, pretended to indulge in debauchery to avoid the suspicion of Li Yu, the king of the South, and hosted a banquet every night. Of course, today's dinner is naturally not so complicated and there are fewer disputes. But dinner is more closely related to the lives of ordinary people. There is a saying on the Internet: "One meal a week is a normal person, one meal a day is a celebrity, three meals a day is a social butterfly, and one meal a day is a plate." This shows that a normal modern person can't live without meals, and meals also permeate people's daily social activities. Inviting guests and eating are the basic components of communication. People engaged in public relations, sales and marketing are the people who eat the most in daily life, and they also eat the most. Because the object of dinner is mostly customers and people who need to maintain good relations. For those who talk about business in dinner, dinner not only connects feelings, but also undertakes the function of "business". Of course, there are also relatively light meals. I once heard a book editor who drifted from Beijing to work in Shanghai complain that "there are not as many parties in the same industry in Shanghai as in Beijing, and I feel very drifting." Among the dinners she misses, "Tucao" is the most important: which book is tortuous, which author is difficult to do, how is the boss, how is the translation ... These sorrows can only be understood by insiders and can only be told to insiders. Out of this door, you have to shut up. But when eating, I can spit out my grievances and naturally feel comfortable and relaxed after eating. Although there is a word "rice" in the dinner, once it comes to the competition, "eating" has been ranked last. Sometimes, instead of rice, you eat circles. You can see a person's social situation and circle from the dinner. There are many dinners, which shows a wide range of communication. Lao She wrote that camel Xiangzi can earn more money when he pulls a rickshaw when he meets a customer with a lot of meals: "When he meets a master with many social contacts and a lot of meals, he can spend an average of two or three yuan a month on the rickshaw." This, of course, also explains other things. Dinner also promoted social economy, not only contributed to the income of various restaurants, but also promoted the development of surrounding industries. Looking at a person's socialization, in addition to the number of meals, there are also people who participate in eating, that is, meal partners. Does the flat peach banquet of the Queen Mother count as a meal? Bureau, of course. The Monkey King wasn't invited, and then he saw that all the immortals didn't accept their own nature. Even if he stood in the street of Bi Marvin, he was not an insider. So he flew into a rage and made a scene. So what matters is not flat peaches, not eating, but people. It depends on whether you are invited or not, and whether you are in the circle. Wu Cheng'en observed the human feelings of the world, which also revealed the sadness of those who were "out". Eat not rice, but pay attention to it. Pay attention to a lot of eating, who is the main banquet, how many guests to accompany, how many dishes to order, and when and where to order are all related to the success or failure of this "bureau" and the happiness of "rice". Pay more attention to eating, how to arrange, when to sit down, when to move chopsticks, when to propose a toast, how to speak, when to break up … all have rules. If you don't pay attention, everyone will be unhappy and the whole dinner will end in discord. The best meal is naturally enjoyable for both sides. The main thing is to contact feelings and mix circles. Everyone has a good chat and is very speculative. The main thing is to ask people for help. Of course, the host and the guest are happy and know that "things have come to this." There are many jokes about dinner. For example, someone laughed at himself, "If you make an appointment one day in advance, you are really invited. I will accompany you half a day in advance, and please make up the number before serving. " This road shows several identities of people in social intercourse. Most people with rich social experience can't help smiling when they see the dinner for many years, which shows the important position of treating people to dinner in China's life. There are games and social-related dinners all over the world, which is not unique to China. There is also a westernized "dinner" in Shanghai at night, which is a banquet. The more common name is "Party", and the original name is directly called "Party". So-and-so fashion dinner, in the name of eating, actually how many people come to eat this meal. There are also some banquets in the name of charity, and how many people go to raise money. Most of them wear dresses and suits and talk politely about literature, art, fashion and movies ... in fact, they are building relationships and connecting feelings. These foreign parties and dinners are just variations of China dinners. But the so-called banquets, parties, cocktail parties and cold meals ... are really not as human as dinner, and they can be promoted and demoted, and they can be literate and martial. It can not only adapt to the unrestrained atmosphere of eating large pieces of meat and drinking heavily, but also adapt to the elegance of eating, drinking tea and listening to music. It can not only save a game between literati, but also save a game between stars; There are both bureaus in the same industry and exchanges between different industries. Bread is the pillar of life. Eating is a big deal. Every country has different dietary customs and rules, but only China people associate rice with the local bureau and form a profound and subtle wine table culture. Eating is a disguise. Gu, reviewer and director of Life Weekly and Reader's Viewpoint: In your opinion, what kind of "eating" can be called a game? Gu: I think it can be called entertainment. I ate this meal for a purpose, both personally and collectively. Whether you are a guest or an invited person, everyone wants something. If friends eat together, they won't expect anything after dinner. Dinner, eating itself is not as important as before and after eating. At the dinner party, one party must be passive, judging by whether the other party is happy or not, not by himself. Generally speaking, both sides can eat whatever they like. Of course, the politeness of eating is another matter. If there is a dinner party, there will be more people, with leading roles, supporting roles and accompanying guests. Some people are responsible for taking care of others, while others are responsible for adjusting the atmosphere. Life Weekly: What about the dinner in the circle? This kind of dinner is not aimed at achieving things. Gu: The dinner in the circle is mainly about exchanging feelings. People who know each other very well get together just as animals need to get together. Sit together and chat, chat. Life Weekly: There are many dinners at the end of the year. Some people are too tired to vomit, but they still have to attend various dinners. What do you think of "having to attend"? C: This is "hair dia". I don't want to go this way or that way, but I still want to find everyone. If you are controlled by the dinner, it proves that you have needs. A large number of meals prove that you are in great demand. Just like everyone else wants to fall in love with you. It is annoying to be asked too much. Not once, but also lonely. Eating too much proves that your social circle may be a center. You're not happy if you eat no meat, and you're not happy if you eat no meat. Life Weekly: What is a better and happier meal? Gu: Eating happily means chatting happily. If you eat well and talk badly, that's not good. Every friend has a thousand cups, and the dinner in China is just a conversation. If there are annoying people at the dinner party, it depends on whether the person you like is attractive enough for you to attend the dinner party, and the proportion of those who hate and like to attend. Life Weekly: In your opinion, why do people in China attach so much importance to dinner? C: Yes. Talking about things seriously, if you don't talk well and don't hide it, it will be a bit embarrassing. China people like to hide and come empty-handed. If you talk happily, you will eat happily; I'm unhappy and have an excuse to eat. This has nothing to do with the smoothness of the personality Committee, but with hypocrisy. It is not only a social field, but also the executive director of Xu Ping public relations company in Tucaokeng. Life Weekly: In your opinion, Xu Ping: Dinner can connect feelings, get information, get things done or be done. The focus of the dinner is the bureau, not the meal. Where to eat and how much to spend are more important than what to eat. Since it is a game, we should play it. Food, sociality and lifestyle all need to be taken into account. Life Weekly: Since you want to make an appointment, are you particular about it? Xu Ping: The appointment time is very special. Monday is busy, and there are more personal arrangements on Friday. Saturday and Sunday should not disturb family time. It is best to put the business hall at noon or Tuesday to Thursday. The members of the dating board are particular, one-on-one is too dry, and one-on-many is insincere. One-on-two-three depends on whether the other two or three people's ages, constellations, gas fields, hobbies and positions match. People who plan a dinner party should not be hasty, and the time, place, personnel and even the names of the people who make an appointment should be carefully arranged. Life Weekly: What kind of game is a good game? What kind of games are not good? Xu Ping: It's not the best. Find the right place and the environment tastes good. The worst thing should be to attend a dinner organized by others. There are many people, and the atmosphere is not necessarily the same. It is embarrassing to be late or say the wrong thing. The best partner needs to be easy-going, sharing, chatting together and eating. If the people who have an appointment with the bureau are in the same group. Life Weekly: Do you prefer to eat with more acquaintances or more strangers? Will you attend the dinner party attended by annoying people? Xu Ping: I like dinner where acquaintances chat and eat together, but I need a dinner where I can make friends with strangers.