Why do the elders come to mourn, and the eldest son and other relatives have to kneel and wail?

It is a false proposition that relatives must cry when they die. Just like values, there is no really right answer. If a loved one dies and wants to cry, then the problem comes. Why do you want to cry? Some people may feel that the person who accompanied them is very sad and crying. Some people may think that the old man has relieved his illness and is glad that he didn't cry. The key is to look at the person's own point of view, either pessimistic or optimistic. Originally, everyone is a different individual, so there is no need to worry about being different.

In ancient times, dutiful sons were afraid of Qingming. In the drizzle, people who came out of thousands of households, dressed in plain clothes and with sad faces, came to the graves of their ancestors and presented a bunch of small flowers and a pot of sake to the deceased, expressing their grief, respect and gratitude to their ancestors by crying on trombone for the first time. Ouch! For an instant, yesterday's love is still there today. Where can I find my voice, my face and my smile? Three feet of loess will last forever.

Sad and bright, sad and sad. Filial piety is everywhere. What emotion is filial piety? It is a feeling of respect and gratitude for relatives and the basis of all filial piety. Confucius said, "Be polite when you are born, when you die, when you are buried, and when you are sacrificed." In other words, children should respect their parents from birth to death and not do anything that violates filial piety. Life is a matter of life and death. When our parents are alive, what we should do is "make trouble". First of all, we should respect our adoptive parents. "Today's filial piety means that it can be raised"; Then there is parents' worry about illness, that is, they care about their parents' physical and mental health, let their parents spend their old age safely, and be "born with courtesy"; The completion of filial piety also has the content of "death", that is, Confucius said: "burial with ceremony, sacrifice with ceremony", that is, the filial piety of "sacrifice with respect" is a great event. "Love and respect in life, sorrow in death, exhaustion of life, preparation of life, and completion of filial son." Express grief, respect and gratitude to the deceased relatives through funerals and sacrifices.

The ancients believed that from "filial piety" to "filial piety" was an uninterrupted process. They think that parents should still be filial after death, and they should be grateful and remember their late ancestors. Twenty-four Filial Pieties recommended three filial models. First of all, Yong Dong "sold himself to bury his father". Yong Dong was born in a poor family, so he moved to Anlu with his parents to avoid mutiny. Unexpectedly, his father died and his family was poor, so Yong Dong had no money to bury his father. He couldn't bear to throw his father's body into the wild. In order to repay his father's kindness, he sold himself into slavery in exchange for burying his father. Yong Dong's filial piety touched God and got the help of the seven fairies in heaven. The second song is Ding Lan's Carving Wood for Relatives.

Ding Lan's parents died when he was very young, but when he grew up, he wanted to support his parents, but he couldn't. But he "missed the hard work", so he carved the portraits of his parents with wood. He visited his relatives every day, treated them with courtesy and offered sacrifices to comfort him. The third is Wang Pou's "Mourning Tomb". Wang Pou's morality is noble, his words and deeds must follow the etiquette, and he serves the people he loves with the greatest filial piety. When his mother was alive, she was very timid and afraid of thunder. After his mother died, she was buried in the mountains. Every time he encounters a storm and hears thunder, Wang Pou immediately rushes to his mother's grave, bows down and cries bitterly, saying, "Wang Pou is here, mother, don't be afraid!" These three stories of ancient filial piety come from the family affairs of the people and the reality of life. Although it is not worth imitating in specific ways, it conforms to the Confucian filial piety theme of "burial with ceremony" and "sacrifice with ceremony", which reflects the gratitude and nostalgia for the late parents and the memory and inheritance of their hard work. In this way, their filial piety is earth-shaking, and their filial piety is admired by everyone and has been handed down from ancient times to the present.

Life is colored by emotion, and Qingming is meaningful because of filial piety. The essence and core of filial piety culture is gratitude. Gratitude in a narrow sense means thanking parents, while gratitude in a broad sense means thanking all those who are good to themselves and even the country. Gratitude is the embodiment of filial piety and a form; Filial piety is the premise of gratitude, and it is for the soul. Misfortune is ingratitude, and ingratitude is unfilial. Filial piety is human nature, filial piety is a virtue, and filial piety is fundamental. Thanksgiving, first of all, we should be grateful to our parents, be able to support, respect and respect them, don't let them worry, but also let them be distracted and reassured. The second is to push others. In getting along with others, we should sublimate filial piety and push ourselves to others, just as Mencius said, "The old man is old, the young man is young, and the young man is young." Respect both parents and elders who love themselves and those who love others. The third is to remember the ancestors, which is for the deceased. We should never forget to remember our ancestors, follow their stories and carry forward their heritage. Tomb-Sweeping Day visited the grave, and the living mourned their ancestors, which is a concrete manifestation of being cautious in pursuing the future, caring for their loved ones and filial to their parents. Through this ceremony, the soul is entrusted to the ancestors. Sam has a spirit without a master, and his ancestors have a master without a spirit. If you feel the same way as your ancestors, you can get more mountain gods and immortals.