Socialization: It's hard to say why people are in the workplace.

Dad said to his mother, "The company is going to have a dinner tomorrow, so I can't go home for dinner." The son asked his mother curiously, "What is entertainment?" "Entertainment is something you don't want to go, but you have to go." Mom replied. The next day, after breakfast, my son put his schoolbag on his back and said to his mother, "Bye-bye, mom. I went to socialize. " Of course, this is just a joke, but after a relaxed smile, what do urban white-collar workers think?

As a manager, I have many social activities. As for entertainment, I think there are good and bad points. The so-called goodness is helpful to people, such as learning and making friends; Some of them are bad, such as eating and drinking that is purely "destructive" to the body, without any information. In fact, sometimes people really expect to get something from entertainment. This kind of gain may be invisible, but it may be helpful to your work and career. You can't ignore what you get and put all the "sins" on "entertainment".

I have dinner at least three times a week, and now it's the end of the year, almost every day. These social gatherings include what I call good social gatherings and bad social gatherings. Because we are in the securities business and a small company. Customers are very important, especially big customers. When the funds are not in place, I am so worried. I panic as long as I don't see a big client. Push a cup for a change, and when you see the voice and smile of a big customer, your heart will settle in half. The remaining half is not just for entertainment, but mainly depends on the company's strength and service quality. But without entertainment, people don't even know you exist. How can they notice you? Therefore, people in the workplace, entertainment is unstoppable.

I'm not very good at drinking, but fortunately, my clients are more polite when drinking, so I'll just have some Berry Bros. & Rudd. Therefore, I have never worried about drinking. But entertainment means more than dinner. Drinking tea and playing ball with customers should also be entertainment. Times are different, entertainment is different, and the level is also improving. In order to socialize, I practiced eighteen kinds of "martial arts", bowling well and singing well ... I am distressed that socializing has seriously affected my sleep.

It's hard for me to sleep. Sometimes I eat several times a week, then I play ball or sing, then I wash my feet or sauna until one or two in the morning. Sometimes there are several entertainment parties in one night, so we have to "catch up" like singers and stop to be exhausted. My subordinates are tired. I can let them go to work later the next day, but I can't. At the thought of such a stall of things to be implemented one by one, my sleepy head began to wander again and I couldn't sleep.

Only people who suffer from insomnia can realize how painful insomnia is. I've seen all the traditional Chinese medicine and western medicine, and it's useless. My sleep is seriously overdrawn, and I know my body will collapse sooner or later. But what can we do? My New Year's wish is that God bless me to wake up naturally in the new year. I used to think that it is really a kind of happiness to have a good sleep and not be disturbed. Now I think falling asleep quickly is a kind of happiness. I hope I can taste this long-lost happiness.

Weekly comment: The sleep situation of urbanites is not optimistic now. China Psychiatric Association announced that according to the investigation in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Hangzhou, Nanjing, Shandong and other places, the incidence of insomnia in the population has risen sharply in recent ten years, with mild insomnia and significant insomnia accounting for 43.5%, while the incidence of insomnia in Shanghai has reached 35%, among which white-collar workers are the majority. Work pressure is one reason, and so is entertainment after work. You know, too little sleep will cause a "sleep debt", and your body will always pay this debt. Insomnia, we should find out the cause and treat it symptomatically.

A man entertains the whole world, and I entertain his family.

Do you think it strange that I use the word entertainment for my family? The word entertainment makes people feel a bit perfunctory. But my understanding of this word is: something to do for face. The situation in my family is that I have been entertaining relatives from all directions for many years.

My family relationship is simple, but my husband's family structure is a bit complicated: his parents divorced when he was 6 years old, and he was with his parents. When the stepmother married her father, she also brought a child of her own. Then the stepmother and father gave birth to another child. In other words, my husband's parents alone have two teams. His brothers and sisters have half-brothers, half-brothers, and more half-brothers. Before I got married, I only knew that his parents were divorced, but I didn't know that there were so many relatives who were constantly cutting and cutting.

His stepmother is very kind to him, and he is a grateful person. In addition, it may be that his parents divorced when he was young, which brought psychological harm. He values brotherhood more than anyone else. He asked me, who had been loud all the time, to speak softly and smile at my family-God, is this like family? Not bad for customers. To tell the truth, my mother-in-law and my husband are probably not physiological reasons. They are very polite and respect each other. You see, my husband and his mother are both "guests", and I am an outsider. So the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are more polite. I always think twice before I speak, for fear of any adverse effects if I am not careful. My husband's younger brothers all work in his company, and in her mother-in-law's words, they are "thanking the boss". She seems to be afraid that my husband will be unkind to his brother, so she is careful what she says. As a family, how do you think this is not a dinner party?

There are also many relatives. And because my husband started his own company, it was not bad, and they also came to him one after another. He is busy at work and has many social activities outside, so these relatives at home want me to have social activities. Winter vacation and summer vacation are two reception peaks. In addition, in winter, I began to prepare my bed-because they would fly to the south in cold weather like geese. I work at leisure, and organizing activities is my strong point. Now I fully use my advantages in socializing with my relatives.

I arranged it in perfect order as soon as they came. Generally speaking, if you go out for dinner on the day you come, have morning tea the next day, and then rest, you will become a tour guide for the N-day tour in Guangzhou in the next few days. I know all eight scenic spots in Yangcheng by heart. Take them to Tianhe City and Beijing Road between classes. Some relatives are satisfied after staying for a few days, and some relatives also propose to go to Shenzhen and Zhuhai-the toll depends on the blood relationship to decide who will pay. When relatives come, we should entertain them with food and entertainment. Relatives are gone, and we have to buy gifts for our relatives at home. Of course it costs a lot of money.

Of course, we had a fight about it, but my husband said, "Family ties can't be bought with money. Think about it, our children have grown up and don't even have a brother or sister. And in the future, besides us and a few old people, aren't the people closest to him descendants of these relatives? " What else can I say? In order to prevent my son from falling into a miserable situation without "brothers and sisters" in the future, I am now ready to fall into a busy entertainment circle with many hands and feet.

I think relatives are just connections, and human feelings are just entertainment. People may not remember your kindness when you go out for entertainment. My relatives always remember my kindness and often bring me local products in sacks. Once, I just casually said that the lotus root in my hometown was delicious, and as a result, no matter which relative came, I was given a big bag of lotus root with mud on my back ... Of course, I accepted the idea. Now I'm used to the communication between my in-laws and relatives. There is a saying that "men conquer the world and women conquer men." In my place, I entertain the man's family except for his social intercourse-my social intercourse may be a little helpless, but I have no derogatory meaning.

Weekly comment: Men who often go out to socialize often say, "I go out to socialize for this family." So I solemnly left my home to a woman. I don't know, when you are wandering among the wine glasses of grapes, wine and wine, women are silently "socializing" the whole family and everything related to it.

Just for fun. Why take it seriously?

I am an office manager, unlike a salesman, and I basically don't need to socialize with the outside world. My social activities are generally "internal". That is, interpersonal relationships within the company, such as attending colleagues' weddings, eating with colleagues and so on. I am an unsociable person and I am not used to social occasions. Moreover, to be honest, entertainment is just entertainment after all. Don't take it seriously and don't expect too much from it. Why do you say that? Because, I have suffered from yabakui in this respect.

Three years ago, I resigned from a company and faced the problem of finding a job. At a friend's children's birthday party, I met a man named "President Hu". "President Hu" is the kind of "focus" figure, which is very eye-catching. Everyone is listening to his speech all night. Because of his presence, the atmosphere is very warm. I had a few drinks with him out of courtesy. When he heard that I was unemployed, he patted me on the shoulder and said, "Meeting is fate, and drinking is brothers. There's nothing wrong with you. Isn't it easy to find a job? If you can't, come to our company to be the personnel manager! "

With this sentence, the dinner immediately surpassed the nature of general entertainment. We drank one cup after another, and the more we talked, the more speculative we became. When I got home, I sat back and thought that I had become "brothers" with my boss for no reason. This is really fate. I waited at home for a few days, but I didn't see this man calling me. Because I was busy, I waited a few more days. A week later, I made a phone call and reported to my family. "Brother" said, "You are ... Oh, oh, you are ..." It took me a long time to remember, and my heart sank. Then he said, "I'm on a business trip. I will arrange it and call you when I return to Guangzhou. " So I began to wait again. Half a month has passed, and I still haven't seen my mobile phone. I was disappointed, cheated, angry and sad. My wife said, "The promises made on the wine table are like the vows made by the prodigal son in love. Can you believe it? It's not that you don't have education and qualifications. Why hug his tree? " That's what I thought, so I went out to find another company and was hired soon.

The world is small, and soon, my "brothers" and I will get together in another social occasion. At the banquet, "brothers" still dominate the discourse. He patted me on the shoulder and said, "Brother, just say something." Will I go to him again if I have something to do? Not anymore, not anymore. In fact, there is nothing wrong with missing him, but I am too serious. Entertainment is just an atmosphere, and what you enjoy is a kind of excitement. How much heartfelt words can be expressed in entertainment, just listen, there is no need to be serious, there is no need.

Weekly comment: Drinking can be a truth or a joke. The key lies in how you grasp and judge yourself. Besides, you don't have to blame others for making promises casually. After all, sometimes entertainment is mostly a matter of scenes. Just listen to what you say when you eat, and then don't worry about it.

Look at the entertainment group.

"Alcohol test" is intimate: no matter how important dinner is, health comes first. If you really have to drink alcohol for entertainment, please note that vitamins A, C and E can be supplemented on the eve of the wine game, which can reduce the harm of alcohol to the liver; Before going home to sleep after drinking, be sure to drink a large glass of boiling water to replenish water to your body to prevent dehydration; When you wake up the next day, you should gulp down boiling water or fruit juice, which will help to balance blood sugar and restore water content in your body. You can have some soft bread for breakfast the next day after drinking. Be careful not to eat ham, fried eggs and other foods. Of course, keeping enough sleep is very important for physical recovery.

Oppose talking dirty jokes: For those who hate talking dirty jokes, if you can know in advance that there are people who like talking dirty jokes and don't have to go, you may wish to take time off and avoid them completely; If you have to go, when the yellow jokes begin to fly all over the sky, you can actually say "I'm sorry, I don't like such a topic" euphemistically, or say "I heard that …" more subtly to divert the focus of discussion; Besides, you can also collect some humorous and healthy jokes for dinner. Of course, men should also pay attention to their personal words and deeds, and don't make obscene jokes, especially when there are ladies present.