Do you hate relatives during the Spring Festival?

"When I go home for the New Year, I'm most afraid of meeting my relatives, because as soon as they meet, they just urge marriage and ask about their income, and then compare you with their children."

I don't know when relatives became an annoying group.

Many young people have said more than once: "They stopped visiting relatives last year, and there is a high probability that they will not visit relatives this year, because they really don't want to face all their relatives, who are even worse than strangers."

I am deeply convinced of this.

Perhaps the greatest sorrow of a person is his own misfortune, which has become a joke in the mouths of some relatives.

Just like that sentence: "When you succeed, there are often few relatives who are really happy for you, even worse than friends around you."

Some people say, "I'm afraid to meet my relatives during the New Year because I'm introverted and withdrawn."

But in fact, most people who don't want to meet their relatives are not really introverted and withdrawn, but really don't want to meet some relatives.

Because some relatives compare with each other as soon as they meet, they like to rub salt in other people's wounds and improve themselves by belittling others.

As a result, more and more people are afraid to meet relatives in the New Year.

in my opinion, it is better not to make friends with some relatives, because they are not worth it at all.

Go home for the New Year, and stay away from three kinds of relatives.

Go home for the New Year, and stay away from showing off your relatives by belittling you.

A relative who shows off by belittling you is by no means a good relative. Such a person is best to stay at a respectful distance from others.

imagine, when your big family get together for dinner, this relative asks about your income in public. You say that your monthly income is 3, yuan, and he will immediately advise you to change your job, saying that your job is worthless, and then his son earns tens of thousands of dollars a month, and even said that he will introduce you to a good job after the end of the year.

but after the new year, they disappeared, and they didn't introduce you to work again.

in fact, they will say, which is to help you sincerely, but to belittle you and raise yourself.

such relatives are by no means really good relatives, and there is no kinship at all.

When you are not as good as him, he will belittle and ridicule you in various ways, and when you are better than him, he will smear you in various ways to prove that he is not worse than you.

relatives who are really good for you, they have empathy, know how to take care of your self-esteem and are willing to help you, so they often don't reveal their real income and money, but ask you about your difficulties and secretly help you if they can.

A really good relative is more than just lip service. They will do something about it. Those relatives who just talk are just trying to show off.

When you go home for the New Year, stay away from "fake relatives".

There are always a few relatives around us, and they may only see each other during the Spring Festival. They are basically strangers and don't know how many generations have passed, but this doesn't prevent them from "meddling" at all.

they are strangers, but they always like to ask questions and questions.

When you know that you are capable and rich, you will ask for help and borrow money in various ways. If you help once, they will ask for more. If you refuse them, they will smear you everywhere and call you a heinous ingrate.

and when they know that you are incompetent, they will simply ignore you, a poor relative, and won't even bother to pretend when they meet next time.

Someone once told me his story: "His career was just right that year. When he came home for the New Year, a relative was very enthusiastic about him and asked for help, so he was embarrassed. During the New Year, he bought a lot of new year's goods for that relative."

in the second year, the company closed down because of business losses, so I went home early for the New Year. In order to save money, I decided to stay at that relative's house for one night first, but I didn't know that just because I stayed for one night, I was told a lot of gossip by that relative.

He understands this, too, because they are fake acquaintances, and there is no kinship at all.

Fake relatives are often snobbish. No matter how enthusiastic they are, they just pay lip service instead of taking action.

Everyone says, "All the hustle and bustle in the world is for profit, and all the bustle in the world is for profit."

Most fake relatives come and go for profit, so stay away.

when answering Chinese New Year, stay away from nosy relatives.

they all say, "shallow friends are not deep."

The same applies to some nosy relatives, because those nosy relatives simply can't keep their mouths shut. As long as you say it, the whole village is bound to know.

They are nosy, not really worried about some people, but to satisfy their gossip psychology.

In their minds, the more depressed and miserable you are, the more satisfied they will be when they say it, because all your misfortunes and valleys will become the biggest jokes in their mouths.

Just as Mr. Lu Xun said, "People's joys and sorrows are not connected, I just think they are noisy."

and when you are excellent, they will not spread the real you, but spread you with all kinds of embellishments, which can't make you have a good reputation.

Of course, the above three kinds of relatives are only a few.

In reality, most relatives are kind-hearted. Even if they envy you in their hearts, they will not take the initiative to harm you. What makes them annoying is that they just choose the wrong expression.

Relatives don't have such advanced speech skills. They can only express their concern with unpleasant or even excessive words. Simple and old-fashioned persuasion often becomes meddling.

And don't be flustered and angry when faced with the "meddling" of these relatives.

You might as well say to them, "Thank you for your advice. I'll think about it. Let's talk about something else. "