Adults, put away your emotions. Who are you kidding?

In adult communication, learning to control emotions is a compulsory course.

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After graduation, classmate X joined a good listed company, and all his classmates were envious. But less than three months later, she was fired from the company.

She complained in the class: "Don't think that listed companies are great, there are many inside stories you don't know!"

People are gossiping and want to know what the inside story is.

classmate x said, "a lot of data in their company are fake, and they don't take newcomers seriously at all! I've been there for almost three months, and I haven't been asked to do anything serious. I've just been asked to do odd jobs there all day. "

"What a mess of sorting and copying documents, even buying a printing paper!"! I went to work in their company, not as a handyman! Why should I do everything? "

someone asked, "isn't there any training for new people in your company? Or who will take you? "

classmate x went on to say, "I get angry when I talk about this. When I first went to the company, the leader asked an experienced old employee to take me, but he was so busy all day that he had no time to teach me."

"But what makes me most angry is that another girl who is behind me in the company, a junior college student, was let to become a full member in advance by the leader just because she is more beautiful than me!"

At that time, all the students sympathized with her, but later, everyone realized that X's resignation was not because there was something shady in the company at all, but because she had a bad mood when she did everything.

Don't say that a company is afraid to hire employees who are in a bad mood. Even if a person makes friends, he certainly doesn't like to make friends with those who are in a bad mood.

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However, it is undeniable that what X complained about is precisely the workplace confusion that many newcomers will encounter now: when you try your best, you finally get out of the many applicants and finally join the job.

But before you could fully enjoy the pleasure brought by this job, you were slapped in the face by reality.

Because your colleagues didn't show much interest in your arrival; The job opportunities you are proud of are actually so much in their eyes;

add some "little things" assigned to you by the leader; Old employees are too busy to take care of you, and other new colleagues quickly become full members, all of which have caused you a huge psychological gap.

So you are very upset and angry, and you want to rush over and shout at them, "Why? Why is it so unfair to me? " It seems that the world has become so manic and uneasy because others have not cooperated with your performance.

at the same time, you never think: in the eyes of people who know you, who are you in the eyes of people who don't know you?

It's your business to start your job, and the money you earn is not in other people's salary cards. Why should others applaud you?

it's only a small matter assigned to you by the leader, but you have a bad mood when you even do small things. Who will trust you with the "big things"?

besides, in this high-speed job competition, everyone has their own functions, and they are still busy. Who has the leisure time to take care of you?

you see, you blame everything on others. once others don't do what you want, you will be unhappy and get emotional.

but I'm telling you, it's useless for you. You're nothing. Your mood is a joke in the eyes of others.

No one will pay for your performance except yourself, and all the emotions you make will eventually be "repaid" on yourself.

the final result will only be: you are paying for your troubled mood, and others should do what they want.

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Being in a bad mood will not only affect yourself, but also people around you: relatives, friends, colleagues, roommates, and even strangers who pass by you at that moment.

This kind of influence is negative, negative. Happy people are easy to become unhappy when they are infected with it, while people in a bad mood can easily turn into volcanic eruptions when they meet it. When two volcanoes collide, it is a terrible fire scene.

you must have quarreled with someone when you are so big! Was it particularly cool when the noise was just right? Are you particularly sad after the quarrel?

you thought you won, but you didn't.

Most of the time, you will feel that you are alone in the whole world. If there is a third person, you will be embarrassed, and you will want to find a place to be alone. Even you need to spend a long time mediating by yourself.

then you mediated, but the other party didn't.

I remember a book friend who told me that when she filled in the college entrance examination, she made a particularly fierce remark to her parents, saying, "You don't know anything, and you can't give me any advice. I filled it out and you are whining here. What do you want from me?"

The parents of the book club are ordinary farmers, who have never been to college, so it's true that they don't understand. But just because the book friend didn't control his emotions and said it casually, her mother has been remembering it until now.

Sometimes when a book friend calls home, her mother will sigh and say, "I don't read much with your father, and there is no good relationship at home. Otherwise, it would be nice to work in the county or town ..."

Every time, the book friend feels guilty and wants to strangle himself.

You see, the damage that has been done, even if the wound heals, it will scab; Even if the scab falls off, it will leave traces.

and these marks will last a lifetime in the hearts of those who care about you.

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Being in a bad mood is a disease that needs to be treated.

People who are in a bad mood often have these characteristics: the situation is too small, they take themselves too seriously when they get along with others, and they ask for too much from each other in the process of communication.

the situation is too small. I remember a saying: it is often not the ability that determines the upper limit of your life, but the pattern of doing things.

classmate x doesn't like other newcomers to become full-time employees quickly, and dislikes that the leaders assign her "trivial matters", and doesn't like the attitude of old employees towards newcomers ...

You see, people with small patterns will dislike this and dislike it. People who are really powerful are indifferent, no matter who they meet or what they do.

you take yourself too seriously when you get along with people. Generally speaking, you take yourself too seriously and have too strong self-awareness. Once others don't do what you want, they will be beaten black and blue.

It's a good thing for her that classmate X joined the job, but she takes herself too seriously and wants everyone to applaud her. Please, the workplace is not your mother, and everything doesn't have to follow you!

asking for too much from each other in the process of communication. Man's desire is endless. The greater a man's desire, the more he intersects with people and things in this world, and the more disputes he has.

Many people will base their happiness on whether their desires are satisfied. Once hard power fails and their desires cannot be satisfied, happiness will be stranded.

how good can a person who doesn't even have happiness be?

So, emotions are very important. Good emotions need to be cultivated and bad emotions need to be controlled.