What good strategies are there to solve the problem of children crying for no reason?

A child's crying is like a "biochemical weapon". Hearing it from a distance makes adults want to make a detour, but parents are always at the center of their children's crying, like "soldiers who rescue and rescue the disaster", "who else" and "death"

Coaxing children is really a matter that requires great patience. Some parents coaxed themselves into crying. "Little ancestor, please don't cry." Some parents tried to "cross the sea" with sweet milk, but it didn't work every time.

The baby cries for as little as a few minutes and as much as half an hour. Some babies are so strong that they can even cry for hours. Babies with good physical strength continue to cry, and physical strength will generally cry and rest to play a "protracted war." But you should know that the baby has been crying like this, which is actually a performance of "seeking attention".

What is the specific expression of "crying at will"

Babies are different. They have their own tricks. Many are "impulsive" crying. They often cry with their mouths open because of what they see. They may feel scared after seeing it, or they may feel "ugly" because of something, or they may hurt themselves because of their clothes. In a word, there are many reasons. However, this "impulsive" baby is also easy to coax. Parents pick them up and Doby, the children will smile through tears.

However, there is always a baby who can't stop crying. Even if we help them solve the problem, the baby won't stop crying, and parents are not allowed to let go of themselves, otherwise they will cry. As long as it is a "reason", they can "use the topic" to cry endlessly.

What is even more "exasperating" is that these babies will cry even if there is no reason. If you stay with them and don't actively interact with them, they will cry, probably because they are angry with "why don't you talk to me".

As can be seen from the above description, the biggest feature of this kind of "unreasonable" babies is "willful crying", and "willfulness" represents their attitude towards things-"crying before things are decided". This kind of baby is what we call "attention-seeking" baby.

What is a "attention seeking" baby?

The "attention-seeking" baby is literally understood. Every minute of the baby's heart is full of "seeking attention". What they long for is the attention of their parents.

Babies in infancy are very insecure and want to have physical contact with their parents, so that when they can't see clearly before the age of one, they can judge that they are safe by touching, and their parents are around and they love themselves, so that the baby will feel happy.

Babies who "seek attention" will need this sense of security twice as much. They may not only need their parents to hold them, but also need their parents to kiss them, so that they can have more extensive contact with their bodies and shake them more comfortably.

As the baby grows up, during the period of 1-2 years old, the baby still can't restrain his mentality of "seeking attention". Maybe other babies have begun to divert their attention and play with toys by themselves, as long as their parents sit next to them. But "attention-seeking" babies still like to climb on their parents, even if they play with toys and explore, they should put themselves in their parents' arms. If they can't,

Seeing that the baby is old enough to use the walker and play with toys by himself, parents naturally feel that the baby doesn't have to stick in their arms all the time, and they can't figure out why the baby keeps crying.

Three effective strategies to satisfy the psychology of "seeking attention"

Parents may have to ask when they see this. Babies can't always cling to their parents like this. They always have to learn to walk and go to kindergarten. If they always follow the baby's wishes, when will the baby learn to be independent? In fact, as long as we learn these three strategies, we will know what to do.

1.？ Field "analysis"

Although "attention-seeking" babies are often "unreasonable", their behavior also has its own logic. When babies cry, we should not generally think that they are "doing something" and then pick them up in the old way. This can't solve the fundamental problem. When the baby does the same thing again or faces the same situation, it will still make trouble.

In life, when we find that the baby has been crying, we need to analyze why he is crying according to what he is doing now. The reason why "attention-seeking" babies cry is often because parents don't pay enough attention to them when they play, doodle and walk.

For example, the baby "struggled" for a meter in the walker, while his parents were busy peeling fruit, playing games, making phone calls and talking to others. Even if you are helping him clean the floor, don't let him trip, the baby may cry. After all, "seeking attention" is the "duty" of such babies. Once father,

2.？ Summarize the model and respond positively.

After finding the "cause of crime", you can try to communicate with your baby and gently tell him what he is doing, why he is doing these things, and why he has not paid attention to his baby. In this process, the baby will be very unreasonable, but we can't compromise "surrender" just because we want the baby not to cry, which is not conducive to the baby's bad habit of crying, and it is also very unfavorable for their 3-year-old life when they try to live independently in the future.

The purpose of the baby's "seeking attention" is to hope that mom and dad can look at themselves and their lives. Behind this desire is actually the desire of parents to express their love. "Feeling loved" can bring a great sense of security to your baby.

When we first persuade our baby to calm down and learn to adapt to the occasional "inattention" of parents, we must tell the baby that no matter what mom and dad are doing, what they are watching, whether they are holding and watching the baby all the time, mom and dad must love him the most in the world. "inattention" does not mean not loving, but doing other things to make the baby more and more happy.

3.？ Avoid "seriousness" and "guilt"

When Bao Baba Bao Ma tries to persuade her baby to adapt to being neglected, she must always remind herself that the baby who "seeks attention" is more "blx". They seem to be born more "loveless" than ordinary children, and need a lot of positive expressions of love to make themselves feel safe. There's nothing wrong with that.

Babies who "seek attention" may be born straightforward. When they grow up, they may like to express their love enthusiastically and say "I love you, mom and dad" loudly, or they may always look at you with a pair of delicate and touching eyes, hoping you can express your love to them more. Therefore, we must remind ourselves that in the initial stage of persuading children, we should be patient enough, not too serious and too impatient.

Some parents dote on their children, and feel that it is not a good thing to persuade their children to adapt to "neglect" again and again. Listening to their children crying again and again makes them feel sad and guilty, "crying their eyes out", but please be strong, so that their children feel that their attention is not good, which is not conducive to the cultivation of their independent personality and easy to make their children introverted and willful.