How to evaluate the movie Spring Curse to Save Zhiming?

Chunjiao can't save Zhang Zhiming, and he doesn't need it.

Christopher tells us in his book Intimate Relationships that every intimate relationship goes through four stages: aura, disillusionment, introspection and consciousness. If applied to Zhiming and Chunjiao series, the first part of their acquaintance is the beautiful stage of lunar halo, and the second part is the gradual disillusionment and despair of their feelings. And this song "Spring Curse to Save Zhiming" is not only the continuation of disillusionment, but also the beginning of introspection.

The relationship between Yu Chunjiao and Zhang Zhiming has entered a delicate stage. On the one hand, she enjoys her life with him and buys sexy underwear to increase her fun. On the other hand, she often complains to her friends about his thoughtlessness. She also realized that she was contradictory. When she is with friends, she always protects Zhang Zhiming from her sisters who speak ill of him too much. When she can be alone with him, she also said that she has been particularly suspicious recently.

The director has added many sources to this suspicion. Was his advertisement inspired by Yang Mi's ex-girlfriend being a flight attendant? Is the sudden small hair a threat to your relationship? Will he give up this relationship because he doesn't like children now? ……

However, these are not the point. Compared with the second film, Flora in this film is quite different from Yang Mi in character setting, but it is also the responsibility of an unsafe factor. From this perspective, even if the role is directly removed, it will not have a particularly great impact on the plot and Yu Chunjiao's life. Life is like a gourd and ladle in a water tank. Either this is not satisfactory or that makes you unhappy.

People's problems in intimate relationships often come from their own family background and childhood experiences. From this perspective, Chunjiao's father is the core supporting role of this film. As soon as the old urchin appeared, he went to that romantic place with his beautiful new fiancee and prospective son-in-law, and he bravely put out the fire for others. In the eyes of outsiders, this is a living handsome old man, but not in the eyes of Chun Jiao.

He was not a conscientious father, which left a great shadow on Chunjiao when she was a child-"She was afraid of being abandoned". She is worried about her children's problems and that her age will become a burden. She was afraid that she would be left behind like that. The reason why she cares so much about Zhiming's childish behavior is because she saw her father's shadow in him, which made her nervous and hard to let go.

Emotional depression broke out after the earthquake. To tell the truth, from the perspective of a bystander, I don't think there is anything wrong with Zhang Zhiming's behavior. Such behavior is far from "naive" and "selfish". It's just that Chunjiao was stabbed, and she recalled the scene when she was abandoned. It is too difficult for anyone to admit that he has been hurt in the past. We would rather choose to blame all the mistakes on the other half. Let his so-called "selfishness" and "naivety" bring him pain, and then drag him into the box and slam the door.

Peng Haoxiang is Peng Haoxiang. Finally, he actually took the audience through the psychological course of Chunjiao through the meaningless form of aliens. Fortunately, the film was well prepared at the beginning to make this setting look less abrupt. "Back to the place where the problem started", Chunjiao went to her father and confided her heart. This is her own reconciliation with herself, which has nothing to do with Zhiming. But once this reconciliation can be reached, his problems with Zhiming will be solved.

Cutting through the appearance of the three customs in the film conveys a profound view of love: the sublimation of intimate relationship does not depend on mutual change and control. Instead, go back to your original point, realize your trauma, and accept it with your partner. Love requires two people to run together, but only when you realize that it is your responsibility to maintain the relationship between two people can you get out of disillusionment, enter introspection and enlighten.

There is a saying in psychology: there is no one but you. It applies even in the most intimate relationships. Yu Chunjiao can't save Zhang Zhiming. He doesn't need Chunjiao's rescue. What she needs to save is herself. Interestingly, the man who was labeled as "naive" throughout the film presented an adaptation that people talked about at the end of the film. This is a man's love and compromise, and it is a kind of maturity and great wisdom.