During an avalanche, not a snowflake is innocent-a bystander in bullying.

The film "River of Sorrow" was released in a low-key at the end of September. At present, the douban score has dropped from 6.5 at the beginning to 5.7. I believe many people watched this movie with the same original intention as me, and were attracted by its topic of "focusing on school bullying".

Frankly speaking, if you rely on the selling point of Jing M. Guo, no one except Xiao Sifen will probably buy it. After all, Jing M. Guo's literature of youth pain is famous for its dog blood, pregnancy, abortion and love triangle everywhere. In this film, Jing M. Guo gave up the position of director, and the tone of the dog was weakened a bit.

I think most people should be familiar with the topic of "campus bullying", but everyone's experience or witness is different, so their feelings are different.

As the former central figure of the "Campus 80 Incident", I have many feelings. This article is some of my insights after all this.

Generally speaking, there are three subjects in the school bullying incident, namely the abuser, the humiliated person and the bystander, and the bystander can be divided into four roles, namely the helper, the enhancer, the outsider and the protector. In bullying incidents, different roles have different behaviors.

Helpers often actively participate in bullying incidents. In the movie A Sad River, the main abuser, Tang Xiaomi, never used violence directly, but used bystanders to commit violence. The boy who cooks rice in the canteen and the two girls who spread rumors are both helpers.

Reinforcers generally do not take the initiative to help bullies, but can provide positive feedback. They will watch bullying and cheer loudly. Most people in the film fall into this category.

Outsiders will try to avoid bullying. They are often weak, but they are usually prevented from helping the humiliated object, or they simply choose to ignore it.

Speaking of this, I think of the school bullying incident I experienced. At that time, I was almost isolated by the whole class, but in fact I was not hated by everyone, but most people had little to do with me, so they chose not to get involved in this muddy water. But in the eyes of the bullied, outsiders are not participants in the bullying incident, just like Yi Yao shouted before committing suicide at the end of the film, "You think you are not a murderer, thinking that these things have nothing to do with you." In the film, only one female classmate expressed sympathy for Yi Yao, but under the obstruction of her peers, she did nothing.

There is also a protector who actively supports and helps the bullied, or directly opposes the bully, comforts the bullied or tells the teacher. Gu Senxi is such a role. He is kind, cheerful and optimistic. He was the brightest light in the darkest period of Yi Yao, and he warmed Yi Yao. Perhaps because I have experienced bullying on campus, I have always been grateful for Gu Senxi's existence.

Aid, reinforcement and outsiders aggravate the severity of bullying. These three factors are not caused by herd mentality. Having experienced too many events in school bullying, I feel that such people are a very interesting group.

China has advocated harmony since ancient times. The accumulation of traditional Confucianism for thousands of years has led each of us to try our best to avoid being different from others in the process of growing up. It seems that only what most people can accept is right. In the campus group, most people hate being alone. If you don't hate it, it's heresy, and you are likely to be bullied with people who hate it.

Our country has been unfriendly to pagans since ancient times, just as the first thing feudal scholars did after they came to power was to exclude dissidents. In this social background, many people are keen on conservatism and eventually become insensitive, which is the bad root of China since ancient times.

Not only historical and cultural factors, but also social prejudices and stereotypes will aggravate herd mentality. Here I am reminded of Sun Xiaomei in Public Enemy of Women. Although this drama is also Guan Xiaojie's bad film, we can also see some things, such as prejudice against beautiful women. It seems that the upper position of beauty is inevitably not bright. Adhering to this concept, the beauty executives of the company quietly put a stumbling block on Sun Xiaomei. Of course, when this stumbling block falls on the premise of the workplace, we will no longer call it bullying, but "tempering." In addition to the main sponsors, the company has also emerged a group of onlookers who are not too big, waiting to see Sun Xiaomei's jokes.

In bullying, no one will admit that he is related to bullying. When Yi Yao jumped into the river, her bully said, "We didn't do anything. Her jumping into the river has nothing to do with us. " After all, at that time, so many people were watching Yi Yao's jokes, and everyone's responsibility was slightly divided by others, so everyone didn't feel that they were also participants in the bullying incident. "Every snowflake feels innocent during an avalanche." But is the snowflake really innocent? Every snowflake is part of an avalanche.

Onlookers are also the main part of school bullying, with a large number of onlookers. Adding bullies and bullied people will change the course of events. If the onlookers stopped the bully, or chose to treat both sides fairly instead of joining the bully, the tragedy might not have happened.

In the school bullying incident, I used to be a brave man who stood up and resisted.

When I first came into contact with the school bullying incident, it was in primary school. Because I am thin and have no parents to take care of me, I have become the target of bullying by "bad children" who surround me on the way after school, throw stones at me on the roadside and often call me "a wild child without parents".

At that time, someone in my class nicknamed me "Tiny" and made up a jingle: "Tiny, eating twist, rotten ass ..." Later, my period learned about it and went to the class teacher through the bad boy's ear. The class teacher immediately said that whoever bullies me will bully him in the future.

Since then, my classmates have stopped bothering me, but there are still some bad children in the village who continue to do evil. As Gu Senxi said in the film, "They bully you because they think you are afraid of them. When you learn to fight back, they won't dare to bully you. " One day, I fought back and hit the little boy who bullied me with half a brick, and from then on, my childhood began.

My childhood was safe, but other girls in my class experienced more terrible aggression in the fourth grade of primary school. I don't know where the small group in the class got the yellow video, so I began to learn the appearance of adults, pull the pants of girls, learn the appearance of adults, and press the female classmates.

This kind of scene often appears in the classroom. I copied the questions on the blackboard in front of the podium. Most boys in the class form a circle in the corner, with a boy and a girl at the center. My classmates and I watched it all happen, but there was nothing we could do. After the farce, the messy hair of the female classmate and the tears in the corner of her eyes were deeply imprinted in my mind. It was the first time that I faced a powerful force and was at a loss.

Until one day, those people bullied my best friend at that time. I can't bear it any longer. I wrote this in my diary and told the teacher that I had become a traitor in the group. When I close my eyes, I can still remember the morning after the story was revealed. Two boys near me pointed at me and said, "I didn't expect you to be such a person."

Today, I have no regrets about being a so-called "traitor". I can't stand being a "bystander" of the Baling incident, and I can't do anything about it. Up to now, this matter has been forgotten by most people at that time, but I will never forget it.

I also indirectly became a participant in the school bullying incident.

Undeniably, the definition of the school bullying incident is too vague. It is generally believed that campus violence is often directed at teachers and students in different degrees of violence, and its implementation approaches and forms are various, including physical violence, verbal violence, intentional exclusion of cold violence, and group violence and individual violence.

According to this definition, I thought of the miserable life in junior high school. I am both the undertaker and the participant of campus violence in junior high school. The violence against me this time is mainly the teacher. The violence against me by the teacher is a kind of cold violence, such as verbal ridicule.

Funnily enough, the reason why I was disliked in junior high school was utilitarian. I didn't go to the class teacher to make up lessons, but went to a cram school outside the school. At that time, my minor subjects were math and physics, and the science teacher led by the head teacher's math teacher always taunted me with some harsh words. It can be said that junior high school opened a gloomy period of my life.

And I also indirectly became the leader of campus bullies. At that time, there was a girl in my class who didn't like me for no reason, and the girls in her place didn't like me either. They often do some slight damage to my personal belongings, such as breaking my washbasins one by one and secretly destroying my art class homework.

I was very wronged at that time, so I told a good classmate in my class about being bullied in the dormitory. As a result, several students in my class knew about it and began to be cold to her. In this way, I became the protagonist of bullying. Later, maybe she couldn't stand the ridicule and made up with me. On the day of reconciliation, I asked her, "Why do you hate me so much?" Her answer is that I love to chew on words, and she thinks I procrastinate. If I procrastinate, she can procrastinate more than me.

The causes of bullying on campus are often ridiculous. Just like in A Sad River, the trigger for Yi Yao's bullying is that she came back late from the toilet and interrupted Tang Xiaomi's reading the text. I will never forget all the violence I suffered because of my voice problem. When I was in junior high school, a male classmate turned his head when I was reading the text and said to me, "Can you stop that dead voice!" " I will never forget this moment.

When a person is hated, she can't even breathe correctly, so you never know why she will be hated next time.

In the darkest days of high school, how evil human nature is.

The darkest time in my life was in high school. In the movie, Yi Yao kneels in the corner of the bed and cries. I have experienced such a thing myself. I was young and frivolous at that time. After being called monitor by the teacher, I think I should perform the duties of monitor. Coupled with my temper, I honestly don't know how to be flexible when managing class discipline, so I was used by a willing heart and even isolated by the whole class.

At that time, a girl in the class was jealous of the teacher's "concern" for me, and privately formed a small group with eight sisters, who were divided into the boss and the eighth according to their age. This group of people secretly ruined my reputation, gossiping all day, and even winked at each other when I was about to answer questions.

Because of my "showing off", many people in my class don't like me, but they don't hate me. These people have become "bystanders" of my bullying. At that time, I felt that the sky was gray. Like Yi Yao, I can't tell my parents about it, because it's no use telling them. After all, there were many students in the class at that time because of their parents.

I don't want to talk about the details of their bullying, but it's still funny to recall this past. People don't like you, they just don't like you. I foolishly thought it was because I was too strict with class management. In fact, it is a group of boring and fun people, but unfortunately I have become that kind of fun person. This person is not me, but someone else. There must always be someone they don't like, so that their small group can maintain stability and harmony.

I can't say that I have no responsibility in this bullying incident. It is ridiculous to think that I am young and frivolous, inflexible, too active and too fond of raising my hand to answer questions.

In the film, the bullied Tang Xiaomi turned into a bully again and again. This is the most unacceptable part for me. I can't approve of her behavior, but I respect her choice. It's just that she chose the wrong person for revenge and killed Sen Xiang. It's sad that such a beautiful person died unexpectedly.

In the face of bullying, some people choose to let go, others choose to retaliate, but I still appreciate He Xiaoping's attitude when he was young. The more unloved people are, the more they understand the value of kindness and love. So far, I have forgiven many people who have hurt me, but I still can't let go of everything I have experienced, but I don't want to insult those who have hurt me. I just hope there will be no intersection in this life.

There is no point in complaining and hating. Maybe we can never forgive and let go of the harm, but it is rare to avoid hurting others. Human nature is complex, and it is rare to have no resentment or hatred.

By the way, I forgot where I saw the sentence, "when you are hated by one person, it may be another person's problem." When you are hated by everyone, it is your own problem. " For this point of view, I just want to say, fart! Do the weak deserve to be bullied just because they are weak? Should Yi Yao and He Xiaoping be bullied because they are poor? Why should the weak and the poor be insulted and rejected? No one is more noble than others.