Why don't you want to visit relatives?

I don't know when relatives became an annoying group.

Reader Xiao Zhang once said more than once: "I haven't visited relatives since last year, and I probably won't visit relatives this year, because I really don't want to face all my relatives." They are even worse than strangers. "

In this regard, the author is deeply convinced.

A person's greatest sorrow may be his own misfortune, which has become a joke in the mouths of some relatives.

Just like that sentence: "When you succeed, there are often very few relatives who are really happy for you, even less than friends around you."

Some people say, "I dare not meet my relatives during the New Year because I am introverted."

But in fact, most people who don't want to see their relatives are not really introverted, but really don't want to see some relatives.

Because some relatives compare themselves as soon as they meet, they like to sprinkle salt on other people's wounds and raise themselves by belittling others.

As a result, more and more people are afraid to meet their relatives in the New Year.

In my opinion, it is best not to make friends with some relatives, because they are not worth it at all.

Go home for the New Year and stay away from three kinds of relatives.

Go home for the Spring Festival and stay away from belittling you to show off your loved ones.

Relatives who show off by belittling themselves are never good relatives. Such people had better stay at a respectful distance from others.

Imagine that you have a family reunion dinner, and this relative asks about your income in public. When you say that your monthly income is 3,000 yuan, he will immediately advise you to change your job, saying that your job is worthless, and then his son will earn tens of thousands of dollars a month. He even said that he would introduce you to a good job after the New Year.

As soon as the new year is over, they will disappear and will not be introduced to you again.

In fact, they will say this because they really want to help you, but they want to belittle you and raise themselves.

Such relatives are by no means really good relatives, and have no affection at all.

When you are inferior to him, he will belittle you in various ways. When you are superior to him, he will discredit you in various ways and then prove that he is not inferior to you.

Relatives who are really kind to you, they have empathy, know how to take care of your self-esteem and are willing to help you, so they often don't disclose their real income and money, but ask you about your difficulties and will help you secretly if they can.

A really good relative doesn't just pay lip service. They will do something about it. Those relatives who talk casually are just trying to show off.

When you go home for the New Year, stay away from "fake relatives".

There are always a few relatives around us, which may only be seen during the New Year. They are basically strangers, and I don't know how many generations have passed, but this doesn't prevent them from "meddling" at all.

Obviously unfamiliar, but always like to ask questions.

When you know that you are capable and rich, you will ask for help and borrow money in various ways. If you help once, they will ask for more. If you refuse them, they will slander you everywhere and say that you are a heinous ingrate.

And when they know that you are incompetent, they will simply ignore you, a poor relative, and won't even pretend to be next time they meet.

Reader Xiao Wei once told me his story: "His career was just right that year. When he came home for the New Year, a relative was very enthusiastic about him, so he was embarrassed. During the Spring Festival, he bought a lot of new year's goods for that relative. "

In the second year, because of business losses, the company closed down, so I went home early for the New Year. In order to save money, I decided to stay at that relative's house for one night first, but I didn't know that because of this night, I was gossiped behind my back by that relative.

In this regard, Xiao Wei also expressed his understanding, because they were originally a family and had no feelings at all.

False relatives are often snobbish. No matter how enthusiastic they are, they just talk and do nothing.

They all say: "The world is bustling for profit, and the world is bustling for profit."

Most fake relatives come and go for profit, so stay away.

Answer the Chinese New Year and stay away from nosy relatives.

They all say, "shallow friendship is not deep."

The same applies to some nosy relatives, because those nosy relatives can't control their mouths at all. As long as you say it, the whole village must know.

They are inquisitive, not really worried about some people, but to satisfy their own gossip psychology.

In their minds, the more depressed you are, the more miserable you are, so the more satisfied they are when they say it, because all your misfortunes and valleys will become the biggest jokes in their mouths.

As Mr. Lu Xun said: "People's joys and sorrows are not connected, I just think they are noisy."

And when you are excellent, they will not spread the real you, but spread you in various ways, which will not give you a good reputation.

Of course, the above three kinds of relatives are only a few relatives.

In reality, most relatives are kind. Even if they envy you again, they won't take the initiative to harm you. They are annoying only because they choose the wrong expression.

If relatives are not so advanced, they can only express their concern with unpleasant or even excessive words. Simple and old-fashioned persuasion often turns into meddling.

And in the face of these relatives' "meddling", you should not be flustered and angry.