When her mother-in-law is ill, her daughter-in-law wants a divorce and doesn't want to take care of her. What happened afterwards?

Psychologist bert hellinger said: "The biggest source of family tragedy is the dislocation of family members."

Marriage is a complicated knowledge, especially when the relationship between family members is misplaced and crossed, it becomes a complicated relationship.

After getting married, many couples suddenly find that it is not their emotional love that is waiting for happiness, but also a series of external elements that test couples, such as economy, children and daily chores. And they can't get around the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Many people's understanding of this relationship may be as simple as imagined. The daughter-in-law has something to do, and her mother-in-law refuses to help. What will happen after so many years? Recently, a daughter-in-law chose to divorce because her mother-in-law was ill and didn't want to take care of her. The reason made everyone speechless, which can be said to be the kind of self-inflicted.

Let's first take a look at what this daughter-in-law has experienced and make her so "cruel".

0 1, the girl has a mother-in-law who has every reason to refuse.

Liu Yun never thought that she would meet such a mother-in-law, who was indifferent to the couple's affairs and didn't help at all. She always had good reasons to refuse.

She married her husband through free love. I also secretly inquired about the man's family before marriage, fearing that I would suffer a loss when I got married. After detailed inquiries, many people said that the parents of the man's family were very easy to get along with and had a certain reputation, so she was relieved.

Liu Yun is not narrow-minded. She is worried about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage, and it is also a last resort to stop loss in time. After all, my girlfriends have encountered this kind of problem, because I didn't ask clearly at the beginning and rushed to get married, which led to a difficult life at all.

Liu Yun thinks that he is optimistic about everything. He has entered the marriage hall with ordinary people and thinks that everyone can get happiness by doing so.

At first, my in-laws were very friendly to Liu Yun. They were very polite to each other, but the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was very harmonious. This made Liu Yun believe that this family is still good, and doing homework in advance is still effective.

But after a long time, Liu Yun found that this is not the same thing. Although the mother-in-law seems polite and articulate, once she needs to be disturbed, she will always find various reasons to refuse and refuse other people's requests.

Liu Yun didn't find this problem at first, but after a long time and more times, she realized that her mother-in-law was not as easy to get along with as she thought. But we are all calm, and this is our life.

It was not until the birth of the child that the balance of all this was broken.

02, the child is born, the mother-in-law is the shopkeeper of cutting, and the husband's weakness.

Haruki Murakami's The End of the World and the Cold Wonderland: "Some things are too long to understand; Some things will be too late when they are understood. "

Liu Yun didn't care at first. Since she was married, she had to live a good life. She didn't understand that her mother-in-law refused for various reasons. If I had understood the meaning behind it, I wouldn't have waited until I had a baby to realize it was too late.

But there is no regret medicine in the world. Liu Yun will not passively push into the wrong abyss step by step, and eventually she will be unable to resist. She can only wait for time to give her a chance to get out.

After the marriage, Li Yun was pregnant for a long time. Her mother-in-law put down her previous attitude and actively helped her daughter-in-law stew soup, saying that she wanted a grandson. Liu Yun is just a joke, which is not for you to decide.

The pregnancy in October passed quickly, and Liu Yun successfully gave birth to a daughter, which made her husband very happy. My mother-in-law didn't say much and left directly, which made everyone very embarrassed.

The next day, Liu Yun discovered her mother-in-law's dissatisfaction, and even refused to do it for a month, which kept her in poor health. During this period, the husband didn't say much, and the relationship between husband and wife became worse and worse.

However, giving birth in one place is a trivial matter. Liu Yun suddenly became caught off guard, and her husband seldom helped except to go to work. My mother-in-law has been shirking, which obviously means that she is unwilling to help with the baby.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become very bad since this moment. Liu Yun has a bad temper because of the children. She quarrels with her husband from time to time, and her mother-in-law often helps her son quarrel together. This made Liu Yun very sad. She also saw the true face of her mother-in-law and her husband's weakness.

The couple failed the test and became strangers. Liu Yun is very disappointed. For the sake of her children, she endured all this silently, and even took her children to live in her parents' house, only raising them with peace of mind, and then fled all this.

When the mother-in-law is ill, the daughter-in-law wants a divorce and doesn't want to take care of her. Frankly speaking, that's what I did.

Zang Hongfei also said in "Seven Pa Shuo": "We need marriage, and we hope to have someone who can accompany us against the world."

When the mother-in-law doesn't help and the husband is weak, the meaning of marriage will be lost in the later life. Some people fight against the world together and tell Liu Yun that the world has become very far away and let them bear it alone. Even her mother-in-law and husband say they are indifferent to having another child. At present, he wants another one, even dare not think about it.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting rusty, and Liu Yun's hopes are pinned on her children, just waiting to grow up. However, one thing broke the calm again.

On one occasion, Li Yun received a phone call from her husband, saying that her mother-in-law was ill and asked her to go home to take care of her. When Liu Yun heard that her husband took it for granted, she remembered how she had come over these years. Confucius didn't do a good job of falling into the root cause, and the children brought it by themselves. Now, the shopkeeper is sick and thinks of himself.

Liu Yun was silent for a long time, and then said, "I don't care. Let's get a divorce." Husband thinks she is unreasonable, at least she is also a mother-in-law. Why are you so ignorant? Hearing this weak husband, Liu Yun also felt depressed and disappointed.

At the beginning, the husband knew it was her mother-in-law's fault and was so kind to himself. Is this love? Liu Yun said bluntly, "That's how I came here from the beginning. Who helped me? Now it's her turn. Can I help you? " After that, she hung up the phone directly, leaving her silent husband.

04. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law affects the relationship between husband and wife.

According to relevant statistics, about 47% of divorced families in China are divorced because of the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which shows that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become an important factor affecting family harmony.

The relationship between Li Yun and her husband is passive because of her mother-in-law, while men who are husbands and sons choose to be weak and let their feelings break down step by step.

A woman's mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are really difficult to get along with under one roof;

First of all, my mother-in-law, as an experienced person, always sees things with a generation gap, and there is always a big difference in handling them; Then, if the husband and wife live together and quarrel, the mother-in-law often helps the son instead of the "outsider" daughter-in-law, which will lead to disharmony between the husband and wife and the mother-in-law.

Finally, men who are husbands and sons are the hardest to do. Their attitude determines the relationship between two people and also reflects a man's emotional intelligence.

Unfortunately, many men choose to help one side, which leads to a bad relationship with the other side. Or neutral silence, laissez-faire, etc. In the end, it is passive and quickly breaks a relationship.

But both mother-in-law and man should understand that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law affects the feelings of husband and wife. We all live under the same roof. Whatever we do now, it will be our turn in the future. Who can blame for the indifference of others then?