Have you ever been tempted to see friends around you asking for a second child? Why?

Seeing that many friends around me have given birth to a second child, I am really moved! But I finally came back to reality!

Seeing this problem, as a second-born mother, I want to talk about my thoughts.

The state encourages the birth of a second child because of comprehensive factors. But for a family, whether to have a second child is also considered comprehensively, such as economic problems, child care and so on, which are very realistic in front of us.

My biggest motivation for having a second child may be my own experience. My father, brother and sister are three years old. When I graduated from college, my father had an accident at work. My father was in a coma for half a month. I rely on two aunts to seek medical advice and medicine, and my mother takes turns to take care of my father. Although he saved his life, he still left a disability. Later, if there was anything at home that needed help, the crops in the field could not be harvested, and no one repaired the broken things. My two uncles and aunts came to help solve it. At this time, I feel that having brothers and sisters is different from not having brothers and sisters.

Let's start with me and my sister. She stayed at home and worked while I was away. When I can't catch up with anything at home, my sister helps me. My sister is cautious, and she decides what the old man lacks. At that time, I was thinking that if I was alone, my parents wouldn't expect me to have such a big personality.

In our generation, we have also been entangled with the second child. After all, the cost of raising children is too high But for so many years, father and his sisters supported each other and took care of each other. There's a joke, isn't there? It is said that having a second child helps two children to discuss whether to extubate when you are old. It's a joke, but at least she has someone to discuss. At least children have someone to take care of each other on the road of life. So we asked for a second child. Although sometimes one is bigger than the other, and sometimes it is very tight, I believe that all this is temporary. Watching them grow up day by day, you will feel that everything is worth it.

The above is my experience, I hope it will help you!

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The second child problem, Bao Dad, parents need to be cautious about the second child, and it is dangerous to have children. But now there are some "old people" Always persuade: one more. I'll bring it to you and give birth to a companion for the boss ... Have you heard these words? Hehe, let me share my thoughts on the second child:

First of all, having a second child should consider your own situation. Bao's parents should consider their own situation, their own physical condition, the family's economic situation, and whether there is anyone at home to take care of the children ... Don't let the originally happy and harmonious family escalate family conflicts because of the second child. My friend's idea is too simple, and he is ready to let go of the second child policy immediately. Nothing is clear. She felt that Dabao should be left to a close relative in the world. He thinks children need it. But Bauer was born, not as she imagined. Dabao hates Bauer very much. Bauer always hits him when his parents can't take care of him. It's really scary to think about it. As a result, my friend found that playing Dabao without restraint, and the old people at home disagreed and commented a lot. Family conflicts have intensified since then. Hey, my friends are devastated. My friend confided to me, and I comforted her. Since she gave birth to a second child, she should solve the problem well and complain that she could not solve the problem. Later, my friend reluctantly gave up what he wanted and asked his grandparents to bring Dabao back to his hometown to raise him. She brought her two treasures. Hey ~ do you still want to have a second child like this?

Secondly, every baby is the crystallization of the love of mom and dad. Parents and friends looked at someone else's second child, petite and lovely, and immediately moved to have a baby. But I have to tell you, this idea is very immature. The second child is a fresh life. He not only needs you to give birth to him, but also needs you to be responsible for him and cultivate him into a useful person, at least a person who is harmless to society. You can refer to Dabao's educational capital and your efforts. You are considering whether to have a second child.

Whether you are born or not, you must raise children. Don't take the second child problem too seriously. There are still many things in life that need you to work hard. But if you still have this idea in mind, please look at this problem rationally, make sure that you can solve the problems in life and get ready for life.

Hello, I'm glad to answer your question!

For many parents and friends, they may hesitate to have a second child.

As a sister of a second-child family, my advice is:

First consider the elements of both husband and wife. What is the physical condition of both husband and wife, whether there is a risk of having a second child, whether there is energy to support the second child after birth, and whether the material conditions support this second child;

Secondly, consider family factors. Ask the children's opinions, whether they agree with their parents to have another child, and don't think that children don't respect their opinions when they are young, otherwise it is likely to bury the bane of family conflicts ~

Finally, I hope I can help you. Good luck.

Many friends around me have given birth to a second child, and they have never been tempted. The reason for this is the following：

First, the old man is too old to help the baby, so he has to rely on himself.

Second, the economic pressure is great, and the two babies are two banknote shredders with full horsepower; Physical and mental stress, neither of them is taken care of. Generally speaking, ordinary families mainly rely on mothers to take care of their babies, which will cause the older babies to be unable to take care of them and the younger babies to take care of them badly. In particular, the older baby has to help with homework. The younger baby is sick, and you are physically tired and psychologically collapsed. You have to change from a gentle lady to a Hedong lion, and you are screaming at the baby every day, which is painful.

Third, lose self and freedom. One baby can still have free time to do what he likes, and the two babies have no self at all. There is no time for communication between husband and wife, so it is difficult to have a romantic trip, which affects the quality of marriage!

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I am tempted. I also gave birth to a second child.

The biggest reason in my heart is the arrogance in my bones.

Most of my friends are going to have a second child. What a coincidence! They all have their own wishes. They are all a man and a woman.

In fact, many people want two treasures, just like me, and they are not patriarchal. I want two children. Seeing that all my friends around me have children, I also want to have children, so I ask for a second child.

But as an experienced person, I tell you that the second child should be thoughtful and not impulsive. I am impulsive.

My whole family, including my mother's, advised me not to have a second child. Moreover, I am panda blood, and the risk of having a second child is much greater. However, my vanity, my pride and strong heart, I must.

So now our daughter, although Bauer is a daughter, the whole family likes Dabao more than her. But what you have to face in the future is the education and life of two children, and your economy is worse than one. More importantly, your vanity and arrogance are still there. What is in your heart when you see other people's children are perfect?

That's why I want two treasures. Many people ask me if I want three treasures. I'm sure, I won't make me want four treasures and five treasures because of my vanity. Persuade yourself more and comfort yourself more. Here it comes.

To tell the truth, it is impossible not to think about it. I was born late. At present, my child is less than 2 years old. Although I also want my child to have a companion in the future, the reality does not allow it.

1? My physical condition: I was born in dystocia and my body has never recovered. I often feel backache now. Can I have another one? I dare not think about it.

2? Family reasons: because there is no mother-in-law, I quit my job to take care of my baby. I never thought I would be a full-time wife before. Although I give him the best company, I don't want to be out of touch with society. After he goes to kindergarten, I will ask my father-in-law to pick him up and get ready to find a job.

3? Economic conditions? Nowadays, giving birth to a baby is simply a fried machine. Needless to say, the most basic milk powder diapers, new clothes purchased every quarter, new toys purchased every month, picture books, and various complementary food ingredients. For a simple example, I trained him to eat independently from an early age. Forty or fifty [covering his face] bought three spoons, because I would lose them when I went out. I have to wonder: children's money is really easy to earn [tears]

Ordinary migrant workers, I pay social security myself? Rent, fixed monthly expenses, and daily necessities, it's really Alexander!

4? I will give him all my love: it is said that the first child is raised by books and the second child is raised by pigs. I can't guarantee that another person will have the energy and patience to take care of Bauer. Now I want to give him everything in my power, so this treasure is enough!

I had a heart attack.