Is it normal for children to care about other people's comments and "blx" easily?

Is it normal for children to care about other people's comments and "blx" easily? First of all, children's minds are particularly sensitive. You will find that children not only care about other people's comments, but also care about the feelings of people around them. Many parents around me have said that children sometimes cry when they see story picture books, and they also cry when they hear parents say something touching. Because children's feelings are usually much more detailed than those of adults, it is easier to understand the changes in other people's mentality. For example, I sometimes argue with Tong Tong's father. In order not to make a hot face in front of the children, both of us should keep talking and laughing, but in the morning, we can always capture our mentality carefully and realize that mom and dad have quarreled. Moreover, the child can't tell whether the external evaluation of himself is intentional or joking, so he will feel heartache when he hears negative words.

1. We should constantly tell our children that you are a unique parent in the world, and let them know that there are no exactly two leaves in this world, so don't rely on other people's norms to measure them, and don't be strict with yourself. If the child can't understand, then we can tell the child: "No matter whether you are the best child or not, no matter what others think of you, mom and dad will love you unconditionally."

2. Learn to accept others' comments objectively. We can try to explain the evaluation to children from different angles, such as starting from what I said. When the child says that the clothes in the morning are single, I can stand up and tell the child: "People say that your clothes are ugly, which means that your eyes are different. Clothes are worn on yourself, and it is most important to look good. " We should let children know that evaluation is usually emotional, so we don't need to believe these malicious attacks.

3. Learn to protect yourself and fight back. Many children are depressed after being evaluated by others. The main reason is that they don't know how to protect themselves and how to fight back. Parents can think about it: generally speaking, when others have some bad comments on you, what do you inspire? Maybe I realized irrationality or the ability to attack. At this time, if I don't take any action, I will get hurt easily. Therefore, we can tell our children that when someone always says that you are not good, we should say to him, "It doesn't matter what you say, I don't care if you say that about me." This is stronger than anything.