I won't joke, and I dare not respond to other people's jokes, because I can't judge whether the words are true or not?

Joking is a wetting agent for interpersonal communication. Joking properly, appropriately, humorously and humorously will bring happiness to people around you. However, many people make friends because of their outrageous jokes, and even cause bloodshed and life-threatening incidents. It can be seen that joking should also pay attention to the object, language and method.

Avoid exposing weaknesses. Taking the other person's physical defects, life stains and other little-known shortcomings as jokes seriously hurts the other person's self-esteem.

Second, avoid irony. If the starting point of joking is to belittle each other, criticize others, and achieve self-improvement and goals, it is all wet.

Three bogey pollution. As soon as I speak, I swear and think I'm a hero. In fact, I not only belittled my personality, but also made the other party unhappy, and the surrounding audience avoided it.

Four taboos about privacy. Jokes often inadvertently involve the privacy of the other party's life and work, and coincide with the presence of the other party's girlfriend, relatives, especially the boss. It is easy to cause the speaker to be unintentional and the listener to be intentional, which will ruin the other party's "good thing".

Five bogeys: do it. There is a saying that "a gentleman talks but doesn't do it." If he gets the other side, he will solve it by force, which will lead to the anger of both sides and the tragedy of both sides.

Six bogey "generals". "General" is a term in chess, which means to push an opponent to the wall. For example, you treat what you can't do as a joke, and repeatedly "take the other side's army" to let the other side do it, and the other side is a proud person, so you have to go against the wind, leading to an accident and ending in tragedy.

Seven avoid repetition. As the saying goes, "Say it three times is lighter than water", and always make repeated jokes. The other party thinks it's intentional to have a hard time with you, so they are jealous and become enemies.

Eight don't dig deep. Take some gossip as a joke and press it hard to the end, which makes the other party extremely disgusted.

Nine taboos are vulgar. Taking some obscene or private things as jokes not only shows that you have no quality, but also makes the other party embarrassed.

Ten, no tricks. Play pranks, trick each other into sudden misfortune and surprise, and gloat after seeing the tragic situation of each other being teased.

Stay away from the "ten taboos", friends like it, people around you welcome it, and you will definitely become a happy messenger.

1, the content should be elegant

Joking is the art of skillfully using humorous language to communicate thoughts and feelings, which requires that the language must be pure and elegant. The content of a joke depends on the joker's ideological interest and cultural accomplishment. Jokes with healthy content and elegant style not only give the other party enlightenment and spiritual enjoyment, but also effectively shape their own beautiful image. If you joke and swear, it will not only make the language environment full of foul smell, but also be an insult to the listener, or at least a disrespect. At the same time, it also shows that his level is not high and his taste is vulgar.

2. Be friendly.

Being kind to others is a principle of joking. The process of joking is the process of communicating with each other and conveying feelings, which is the embodiment of goodwill. If you laugh at others in a joking way, vent your inner disgust and dissatisfaction, or even make fun of others, then only fools will know. Maybe some people are not as eloquent as you. On the surface, you have the upper hand, but others will think that you can't respect others, so they don't want to associate with you. In this way, you have lost many friends.

3, should distinguish between objects.

The same joke can be played on A, but not necessarily on B. People have different identities, personalities and moods, and have different tolerance for jokes.

Generally speaking, the younger generation should not joke with the older generation, and the younger generation should not joke with the superiors; Women shouldn't joke with men. When joking between peers, we should master each other's personality characteristics and emotional information.

The other party is extroverted and tolerant, and you can forgive a little joke. The other person is introverted and likes to ponder between the lines. Be careful when joking. Although the other person is usually cheerful, if he happens to meet something unpleasant or sad, you can't just joke with him. On the other hand, the other person is introverted, but it just happens that a happy event is coming. At this time, it would be unexpectedly good to play a joke on him.

4. Distinguish occasions.

When joking, you must look at the occasion clearly and see if you can make such a joke on this occasion. Generally speaking, in serious and quiet occasions, you should speak solemnly and not joke. On festive occasions, we should pay attention to whether jokes can add joy to the festive environment. If jokes disappoint people, it will be bad. Generally speaking, it is not appropriate to joke on serious occasions, otherwise it will easily lead to misunderstanding.

Working hours are generally not suitable for joking. In order to avoid distractions affecting work and even causing accidents.

5. Taboo should be avoided

Usually need to pay attention to the taboo mainly includes the following points:

Don't be frivolous and presumptuous when joking with elders and younger generations, especially when talking about men and women. When several generations are in the same room, jokes should be elegant, witty, humorous and enjoyable. Avoid talking about men and women on this occasion. When peers joke about this, when they are present as elders or complete, it is best not to mix words and pretend that nothing happened;

Don't joke when you are alone with the opposite sex who is not related by blood. Even a serious joke will often arouse the other party's disgust, or it will cause the fat man's speculation and criticism;

Play jokes on disabled people and avoid them. Everyone is afraid of others making fun of their shortcomings, especially the disabled. As the saying goes, don't scold baldies in front of monks, and don't say light bulbs in front of lazarillo DE tormes.

In a word, jokes can make our life more colorful, but we must master the "degree" when joking to enliven the atmosphere and enhance friendship.

Shut your mouth and stay out of trouble.

Su Dongpo once left such a poem: "The mountains are wide and the stones are few in gold and silver, and there are many people and few gentlemen. You don't have to say anything when you meet, you are afraid of falling into the rain and causing trouble. "

It is this truth that "you don't have to say everything when you meet." Many times, we are very Tan Xing, so we talk about everything, gild the lily or tell the whole story about something we shouldn't have said at all. How can this not cause trouble?

Lin li just gave birth to a child not long ago. One day, she met Xiao Yang in another office. Xiao Yang greeted him out of courtesy and said, "Are you here to work? How difficult it is! Is your child still cute? "

After that, Xiao Yang immediately realized that his words were a bit inappropriate, because no one thought his children were unlovable. If we want to emphasize this issue again, it will inevitably cause the other person's unhappiness. Sure enough, lin li said, "Thank you! Have a baby early and you'll know if it's cute or not! ? "And Xiao Yang, in his thirties, has no marriage history. He also said the last sentence, which hurt Xu's self-esteem and deepened more misunderstandings between them. If they can all swallow the last sentence moderately, they won't cause each other unhappiness.

In dealing with people, if you want to swallow what you shouldn't say, you should have such a mentality: even if you are the most self-centered person in the world, you should know how to respect others. Don't think that swallowing the last sentence is not yourself. In fact, that's the person who really knows how to protect himself.

Shut your mouth at the right time, and you will look more lovely. Don't dump your junk information regardless of other people's ideas, and don't get your gossip and personal questions from an unfamiliar person casually.

Beware of those who only listen but don't talk, either because they are shy or because they hide the murder. When asking and manipulating listening, we should learn to distinguish between sympathetic and respectful ears.

Especially in this small office, gossip after gossip is amazing. How to protect yourself in the office is really a university question. Here's what you need to learn:

Be careful not to talk about your private affairs in the office, and don't spread other people's gossip among colleagues, both of which will unconsciously push yourself to a dangerous situation. But you must keep your ears open and your mouth shut. "Having ears but no mouth" is not only taught by adults to children, but also one of the ways to survive in the office jungle.

Gossip has always been the best topic of communication between colleagues, especially the tea room and the bathroom, which are often the biggest distribution center for many rumors and the "secret" for everyone to speak ill of their boss. However, no matter how many grievances you have suffered in the office, you should not complain to your colleagues. There are two reasons: complaining is like body odor, everyone avoids it, and no one has the obligation to be your emotional trash can; Secondly, the office is not the place for you to find a psychiatrist. Some people will think that exchanging thoughts is the guarantee for two people to form an alliance, but what if one day two people are no longer friends! The secrets of the past can be used as a handle on each other.

Therefore, no matter how good your personal relationship with your boss is or how deep your heart is, don't make it public in the office. If you have good conditions, work hard and hand over beautiful results, you don't want your efforts to be attributed to your "special relationship" with your boss! In case there is misunderstanding or friction between you and your boss, and you know it, it is difficult to guarantee that it will not be used as a topic or the object of speculation, and it will not do you any good.

You can listen to gossip more, but you can't talk more. You'd better not go in. The so-called "disaster comes from the mouth", and saliva is a veritable "disaster". Whether exposing one's private affairs or distinguishing right from wrong, one may be in danger of talking too much. What's more, I'm proud to be a gossip center, begging for gossip everywhere, and being careful who I don't use.

Avoid sensitive topics: don't discuss other people's year-end awards and other issues. For such a question, others like to make fun of you, and you don't like to tell others yourself. The so-called "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you" is the truth.

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