The 60-year-old mother-in-law found her daughter-in-law monitoring home improvement, which made her completely cold. what do you think?

For most women, the most leisurely time should be when they are unmarried. You can go shopping and eat with your girlfriends when you have nothing to do.

Once you get married, your personal time will gradually be consumed by trivial life. After you finish what you are doing, there will be another thing waiting for you.

This "full" life only makes women feel tired, especially after having children.

After giving birth to a child, there is usually such a struggle in a woman's heart: whether to resign as a full-time wife and take care of the child at home, or leave the child to her mother-in-law and go to work by herself.

In fact, under normal circumstances, women have this kind of entanglement after marriage, or it is due to a bad relationship with their mother-in-law. You know, when a woman has a good relationship with her mother-in-law, she can entrust her child to her mother-in-law.

On the contrary, when a woman has a bad relationship with her mother-in-law, there will be a kind of resistance in her heart, which will make her uneasy to give her children to her mother-in-law.

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Although Qing Liu didn't want to marry Sun Yang at first, she had to remarry. You know, at that time, Liu Qing was 35 years old. If she didn't get married, no one really wanted her.

In fact, Qing Liu turned herself into an older woman, not because she was in poor condition and asked too much for a mate, but because she didn't want to get married too early.

She wants to go out to play while she is young, and when she has had enough, she can find an honest man with such good conditions to marry.

Therefore, Qing Liu chose to marry Sun Yang, except for his graduate degree, mainly because he took a fancy to his honesty and was the kind of person who could live.

However, married Qing Liu still can't stop playing. She always goes out to play with her best friend and doesn't come back until midnight every time.

Qing Liu's mother-in-law told her about it more than once. Every time I saw her not working, my mother-in-law told her son, and then Sun Yang scolded Liu Qingxun.

Although Qing Liu didn't take Sun Yang's words to heart, every time, Liu Qing was particularly disgusted with her mother-in-law, thinking that she cared too much about herself.

In fact, Qing Liu doesn't want to marry Sun Yang, except that Sun Yang doesn't deserve her and Sun Yang's family conditions are not good (she can't reach her consumption level).

Once, Qing Liu called her best friend, and her mother-in-law overheard her phone call. When she learned that Qing Liu would spend more than 10,000 yuan on a bag, her mother-in-law immediately got angry with her, saying that she took her son's money seriously and only knew how to eat, drink and be merry all day, unlike a woman who lived.

How can Qing Liu stand the foul language in her mother-in-law's mouth? She went back on the spot. After a quarrel, Qing Liu called Sun Yang, who was working outside, back.

When Sun Yang was called back this time, Qing Liu had only one idea, that is, to rent a house again and didn't want to continue living with her in-laws.

Honest Sun Yang, looking tearful and aggrieved, found a rental house without consulting his parents. Only he lives with Qing Liu.

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After living apart from her mother-in-law, Qing Liu's ears became much quieter. After two years of marriage, Qing Liu's playful heart gradually faded, but her relationship with her mother-in-law remained as stiff as ever.

At the age of 38, Qing Liu and Sun Yang had their own children. Because the relationship with her mother-in-law has not been very good, Qing Liu, who is confined to her confinement, didn't bother her mother-in-law to help take care of herself.

Seeing that the child is getting bigger every day, the cost on her is getting higher every day. It is not enough for Sun Yang to work outside alone.

There are only two choices before Qing Liu: one is to stay at home and be a full-time wife, and try to solve the dilemma of "making ends meet". Second, let her mother-in-law come and help her take care of the children and go out to work by herself.

After consulting with her husband Sun Yang, Qing Liu chose the latter, and asked her husband to ask her mother-in-law to help take care of the children and go out to find a job.

Although her mother-in-law promised to move in to help take care of her granddaughter, Qing Liu's past entanglements with her failed to reconcile Qing Liu, and she still had a kind of disgust and disgust for her mother-in-law from the bottom of her heart.

This antipathy and disgust made Qing Liu uneasy that her mother-in-law could take good care of her children, but she had no choice. If she doesn't give the child to her care, her life with Sun Yang can't go on.

But later, Qing Liu thought of a way to solve her anxiety about her mother-in-law, that is, to install monitoring in her home, so that she can see her mother-in-law and children anytime and anywhere through her mobile phone.

However, less than half a year after the monitoring was installed, it was discovered by her mother-in-law.

Although in the past six months, Qing Liu saw how her mother-in-law took care of her children through monitoring, every time Qing Liu let slip, she failed to come up with a valid reason to cover up how she knew her mother-in-law's behavior towards her children.

One to two, let the vigilant mother-in-law find out what she is monitoring in home improvement.

"My mother is not an outsider. What do you do in home improvement? Do you think my mother is a thief? "

"I don't mean to install these monitors, but I don't trust your mother to take care of the children. Who's your mother? You know better than I do. I am really afraid that she will hurt the child if she is not careful. "

It turned out that Qing Liu was monitoring this matter at home, and Sun Yang's mother was particularly angry. Now she said such a thing again, which completely chilled her.

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Although every family has a difficult experience, the most important thing for a family is harmony.

If the mother-in-law is willing to take the initiative to help her son and daughter-in-law take care of the children, then in her heart, she accepts this relationship.

Love me, love my dog, and every mother loves her children dearly. Although there are contradictions between the daughter-in-law and her three views because of different living habits, the kind of love for her son will make it easy for her to ignore these contradictions.

What women in marriage need most is to be reasonable. If the mother-in-law is willing to compromise and tolerate, then the younger generation should compromise rather than continue to disagree.

It can be said that Qing Liu is an unreasonable woman, an unqualified daughter-in-law, who knows that her mother-in-law has admitted her mistake, but also wants to do such an outrageous thing that hurts her mother-in-law's feelings.

Such a woman is hard to be happy in marriage, not because she is strong, but because she is unreasonable, doesn't know how to manage feelings and is too selfish.

It is said that parents are a mirror of children, and their words and deeds will exert a subtle influence on children. Therefore, when parents are young, they fail to treat their old people well, and when they are old, they will suffer.