It is not easy to understand others, which is a person's most precious kindness.

Understanding is a valuable emotion.

understanding others' difficulties is a person's greatest kindness.

Not everyone in this world has what you have.

Colleague Xiao Xia won a bonus and invited her to dinner. In the food city, each person had a bowl of noodles and four small cold dishes, and the meal cost more than 1 yuan.

Afterwards, someone said, "It's too picky to treat us to noodles with thousands of bonuses."

Ye Zhang said, "You can't say Xiao Xiacai. You see, she eats by herself at noon every day, and she always buys the cheapest box lunch. I just bought a house with a loan, and I have to pay back more than 1, loans a month. My parents in my hometown have no job and no income, and my father is still sick and often goes to the hospital. She is too difficult. "

After hearing what Ye Zhang said, the man who said dig bowed his head. We were all silent. We all know Xiao Xia's family situation, but no one has given her the deepest understanding except Ye Zhang.

After this incident, I decided that Ye Zhang was a good person and worth paying. If for nothing else, it is not easy for her to understand others.

yes, more than 1 yuan is not much. Some people may treat hundreds or even thousands of dishes. But for a person who is financially strapped and under great pressure to pay off debts, it is already a luxury to spend more than 1 yuan to invite people to dinner.

There is a line in The Great Gatsby: "Whenever you feel like criticizing someone, you must remember that not everyone in this world has what you have."

I once heard the warmest words from an old man in the subway. After a migrant worker got off at the station, a girl said with disdain, "That dress is so dirty that I don't know how to wear clean clothes when I take public transportation."

At this moment, an old man nearby said, "He doesn't want to wash clean and dress decently for work, but he doesn't have the conditions."

if the migrant worker who got off the bus heard the old man's words, I think he would feel particularly warm in his heart.

There is a saying, "You have never been poor, you don't understand!"

what you can get easily may be beyond others' reach.

What you think is easy may have insurmountable difficulties for others.

if you haven't experienced what others have experienced, how can you know that others are not easy? Because of this, it is valuable to understand others' difficulties. Because of understanding, you will understand.

put yourself in the other's shoes. What would you do?

People who are used to understanding others know how to put themselves in other people's shoes.

A few days ago, Yin Xiaotian held a trophy and danced excitedly on the night of the Golden Rooster Awards in China. There were many negative voices:

"No, a best supporting actor, is it worth getting carried away?"

"It's just a prize. Are you so happy?"

One of the netizens "crooked building": "A young red student was wrongfully beaten by a woman, and was stabbed by friends in the circle for many years, but now she can't turn over, and now she proves herself again. How sad is it? What would you do if it were you?"

yes, what would you do if it were you?

An actor is being wronged, and suddenly falls from the peak of his career to the bottom. What kind of torture and suffering has he experienced? How difficult has it been to get up from underestimation and stand up again? Although we can't understand it, we can imagine it.

It's not easy for him to win this trophy for best man. At the moment of harvest, I can't help but let myself go, which is also reasonable.

When you criticize, question and dislike others, if you can ask yourself "What if it were me?"

Once when I went to the hospital, a patient kept asking questions, and the doctor patiently explained while prescribing medicine. After the prescription was prescribed, the patient was still asking. The doctor said, "There are people waiting in line. If you don't understand, come back when I have time." The patient was unhappy and muttered, "Why don't you doctors have any patience?"

The doctor shook his head and could only smile bitterly. One of the patients said to the patient who complained, "Elder sister, be considerate. With so many patients a day, if everyone has to ask a lot of questions, the doctor will answer them and his voice will not stand it." It is you who estimate that you can't do it. "

The complaining patient went out with a red face.

At this time, a scene that surprised me appeared. The doctor stood up and bowed to the patient, and then said, "Thank you for your understanding!" "

Empathy, putting yourself in others' shoes, is a rare accomplishment. It is not easy to understand others' difficulties and give human understanding, which is a person's greatest kindness.

If patients can look at the problem from the standpoint of doctors, it is understandable that they have to work hard to receive so many patients every day, and there are moments of neglect; If doctors can understand the anxiety and pain of patients from the perspective of patients, how can there be so many contradictions between doctors and patients?

mutual understanding and understanding are the basis for people to live in harmony. If you look at the problem from the other side's standpoint, you will be at peace in your heart and around you.

I've heard a saying: "If you haven't experienced it, naturally you won't feel pain, but you can't treat other people's pain as a joke." Perception of others' difficulties and pains is a kind of ability and kindness. If a person doesn't know how to put himself in the other's shoes, he won't have the ability to feel, and how can he feel warm inside?

A kind-hearted person can always understand the difficulties of others, and it is not easy to understand them. Giving others sunshine also brightens himself.

We should believe that if we treat everyone and everything around us sincerely, love life and try to be kind to others, we will eventually be treated gently by the world.