How to chat with girls on a date?

Silence is a part of any interpersonal communication! Whether you like it or not, silence is part of your dating and socializing. When we are silent, we should wear shoes before going out like you, which is normal. Do you go out to wear shoes?

What about the silence during the date?

Time goes back to four years ago, when I was still a complete little frustrated. One day, with a nervous mood, I asked her out countless times!

The night before, I prepared four topics on A4 paper, from the moment I saw her eyes, I could talk about her lifelong dream. My roommate said I was crazy. I was born a good player, so I can't understand the lucky psychology of our beginner PUA.

I got up early the next day, packed my things and got a cool haircut.

Finally, I met her. At first, I was a little nervous, but I wasn't afraid at all, because I pretended to go to the toilet with a sunflower collection in my hand, took out A4 paper full of words and reviewed it again.

I talked and laughed with her and even controlled her emotions. I can know that she will laugh when I finish writing this paragraph, and she will be lost in thought when I finish writing that paragraph. This feeling is wonderful! Like a manipulator who can predict the future.

But, but anything can be unexpected.

Just when I went to the bathroom for the third time to take out the sunflower collection, I found that four A4 sheets of paper had been used up. I rolled up my sleeves and didn't write any unnecessary topics on my arm. I turned on my cell phone. In those days, it took one minute to open a Baidu on the 2G network, unlike you just need to add my WeChat public platform: oyfk9999! (*^__^*)

But the date is not over yet, so I have to bite the bullet and go.

So as you can imagine, I can't laugh and laugh anymore, and I'm a little confused. What's more frightening is that with the subtle expression change of the goddess, my nervous brain went blank, and then a terrible scene appeared:

-Ice!

When the ice show appeared, my palms were sweating, I didn't know where to put it, I looked around as if I was looking for something, and my eyes swept the girl's face from time to time to see if she had noticed. I was a little embarrassed and my legs moved. The longer I am silent, the more I want to escape, and I want to end it immediately! Hide in the room at once and blame yourself for not preparing more A4 paper. Of course, if you want to date without embarrassment, please prepare a few topics to write on paper and take them out when there are no topics. Of course, if you want to learn faster, you can come to our WeChat dialect (oyfk899).

So the date failed. At that time, I thought, yes, this hateful silence ended my date with the goddess!

After more than half a year's practice, I have an appointment, this time with my childhood dream lover: a girl with short hair, single eyelid, high nose and punk dress. (Just bring it into Kwai Lun Mei)

When I first met her, I thought she was only 16, 7 years old. I rushed into the crowd to ask for her phone number. Sometimes people just can't hesitate for their dreams, so she was forced to give me her number. I use a Nokia that costs more than 200 yuan.

Later, she told me that she wanted to give me the phone number of one of her best friends, but she suddenly collapsed and forgot. She said she was 24, when I was 22.

It's been two weeks since I first asked her out. I invited her to a music bar and ordered a bottle of foreign wine, which cost 900 yuan. It's worth it for my dream.

I still couldn't get rid of the process at that time, but I could get rid of A4 paper. I chatted with her according to the set ideas.

You can never predict what will happen on the spot, and the set ideas have come to an end, so I met a nightmare that has been dragging the couple's back for a long time-freezing!

At that time, I was a little drunk. She and I have said everything we need to say and played enough games. We sat opposite each other.

Going home alone at night, silence is sometimes like a shadow. Some people feel lonely when they see it, and some people feel no longer lonely!

I looked at her like that, with a kind of appreciation and intoxication in my eyes, because I had told her by SMS that in my heart, you looked like a work of art. (monologue)

I listened to the music in the bar, leaned back on the sofa and kept this tense state for a long time without saying a word.

I waved her over (compliance test)

I said, do you know what I'm thinking now?

She laughed: I don't know.

Guess what I said next? It is because of this sentence that she is very shy. Let her finally become my girlfriend.

The later story is that we started a sweet relationship, but it was also a painful one, which made me grow a lot. I have to say, I am grateful to every woman who appeared in my life.

That is beside the point.

In the face of silence, you see, there is no need to fight it. I followed suit and turned silence into a tool to form tension. Finally, it helps me adapt to her body better!

Finally, to sum up:

First of all, how should we look at ice:

After the college entrance examination, your father sent you to college. There are 20 hours on the train. Will we talk endlessly?

You and your girlfriend who have been dating for many years enjoy leisure time at home on weekends. Do you talk endlessly?

Do you have any ice cubes?

Of course, maybe you are watching TV, she is playing iPad, or both of them are sitting on the balcony in the sun, one is playing with a mobile phone, and the other is thinking about singing K yesterday. At this time, this monster is still around you, but you don't feel his existence at all. You'd better go on doing your thing. If you ignore it, it won't make trouble at all, because you think the silence at this time is acceptable and reasonable to you, and you recognize its existence.

Dating a girl you just met, pay attention to it, and don't make trouble. The more you do this, the more she comes out to make trouble, just like a naughty child.

Ok, here I want to say a very important concept, please remember:

Silence is a part of any interpersonal communication!

Whether you like it or not, silence is part of your dating and socializing. Right there. When we are silent, it's like wearing shoes before you go out. It's fucking normal. Do you go out to wear shoes?

Second, ice is useful:

Moreover, silence will make the conversation between you cadence, rhythm and flexibility, and she will feel comfortable chatting with you. Unlike other men she knows, you don't chatter, completely ignore her feelings and don't let her brain rest.

"Do I really have to put up with this chatter all my life?"

This is her inner contradictory idea.

So you can actually call it: chat lubricant.

On the Internet, you often see something like this:

○ Dealing with the topic of silence?

○ Learn 10 tricks to make you never cold?

These are stopgap measures, which will only make you like me in the first story and eventually screw things up.

When you can look at silence from the right angle of thinking, all problems will be solved!

Third, what to do when facing the ice:

When breaking the ice, you should keep a normal and peaceful mind, because you know, this is normal, there is nothing to say, this is part of the whole date, you don't need to try to find some topics, calm down, relax and enjoy a beautiful quiet time. (You are communicating with the aura O(∩_∩)O)

Then, when the ice leaves, it may be that a fat man next to him knocked over his coffee and attracted the ice. I said to her opposite: I used to be a clumsy fat man.

Maybe it's raining, and the sun is shining in the sky, which also attracts ice. You can also say to her: When I was in Yunnan, it often rained in the sun. Every time I finish, I will hang a bright rainbow in the blue sky, which is beautiful.