Is a person who says "delete" and "don't contact" low in emotional intelligence?

In fact, people who do this are not only low in emotional intelligence, but also extreme people.

Because a person with flesh and blood and rich feelings can delete anything, and if he doesn't delete it, he will never contact again. In addition to his low emotional intelligence, he may be more self-centered and overbearing, so he is extreme.

Because according to normal reasoning, no matter what, there must be a surplus.

But some people, he is like this, only consider their own feelings, I am not happy, I will not do it! But is the world yours? You don't have to do anything if you really don't want to do it?

Obviously not, I believe that his attitude towards some people is not like this! Then why do some people do this? The answer is coming, emotional intelligence is not enough!

After all, living in this world, where there are so many good things for you!

Fight back if you disagree. The harder a person tries to keep himself, the more "baby feeling" he has inside.

In the world, meeting is a kind of fate. No matter what kind of misfortune brings two people together, it is fate.

What can you say? Even if there is any conflict of interest, don't make the mistakes that only immature children make. I deleted you as if you hadn't touched it, which was unrealistic.

Everything has the best solution, and you can achieve yourself with wisdom instead of impulsiveness and arbitrariness.

Think about what that child looks like. Hum, I will never talk to you again in my life! Not only in this life, but in the next life, is it similar to deleting when you say delete, and not contacting when you say no contact?

As adults, we should be responsible for our words and deeds. One more friend, one more road. This road needs your energy to protect from time to time, so it will be unimpeded when you need to pass.

Who won't be willful? Selfish. Who wouldn't? Just like a person with normal thoughts and feelings, we don't have to!

I have always thought that those adults who have impulsive behavior will not have high emotional intelligence. In their eyes, he is the sky and he is everything. What's the difference between him and a child?

A person who is always influenced by emotions will inevitably not have much happiness.

Because as a normal person, he should think that not contacting doesn't mean not caring. If he is a fish's memory, there is nothing to say.

In any case, as an adult, we must do something that meets the aesthetic requirements of the public! If you feel your personality is extreme, correct it in time.

Why should I keep it like this?

Whether a person who says "delete" and "don't contact" is low in emotional intelligence can't be generalized, it depends on the situation. Personally, I think there are two situations.

First, they will not be easily deleted, and they will not contact each other, but after careful consideration. So if he never contacts you again, he will never contact you again in his life. They will always be their own masters, and they will never compromise themselves to accommodate others.

I have such a best friend. Our friendship began in the sixth grade. Before that, there were three of us. She belongs to the kind of person who has a soft temper and seldom cares about being angry with others. But once that person touches her bottom line, she has no intersection with that person. Before the three of us got together, the other party had never contacted that person because they doubted their own character. Even after being in the same class, she never said a word to that person.

Such a person can't say that her emotional intelligence is low. She keeps a good relationship with everyone and is very popular, because she won't be angry with you for some trivial things. As long as you don't touch her bottom line, you don't have to be restrained in front of her and be yourself boldly.

Second, this kind of people belong to low emotional intelligence, because they can't control their emotions.

Because of a little unhappiness or contradiction, you can have a cold war for a while, quarrel or even fight, because this is a process. In this process, we are more theoretical, and there will always be a time to sort it out. But if you don't say a word and don't give yourself a chance to explain to others, you will never contact each other again, which is a bit embarrassing.

We can't ignore her just because we have a misunderstanding with this person today, and we can't ignore her just because we have a contradiction with that person tomorrow. If a person has been unable to control his emotions and always feels that he is always right, then you will find that there are few people who really love you, which only shows that your emotional intelligence is too low and you don't know how to get along with others.

I've only hacked two people, one is my husband and the other is my best friend. I hacked my husband because he worked in other places. He is the kind of person who won't coax me when I am angry and then ask me if I will be angry in a few days. Even if I hack him, he won't be angry and anxious. My best friend was hacked because our children were hospitalized together. She asked me for money. There are just a few hundred dollars, so you don't have to pay the hospitalization fee for your child, and then. I went to the city hospital again and chatted with me in the middle of the night and asked me why. I said the child was in hospital, but she didn't say anything. Then I got angry. I said that the child is in hospital, at least ask why, and ask if it is okay. As soon as she heard that the child was in hospital, she fell silent and then came to me angrily. Immediately told me that she had a fever and didn't play with her mobile phone, and then decided to blacken it. Maybe some people will think that I have gone too far.

Yes, my man is such a person. It is impossible for him to keep you. Now the weather is getting cold, but why is his heart cold and he will die alone?

Some time ago, I did not hesitate to delete the last contact information. Personally, why?

First, because he didn't contact me for a month and a half, he didn't take the initiative to say it was over. Then I'm the villain. I'll end this. Deletion is just a ceremony.

Second, the deletion also put an end to the later contact between the two people and any possibility of resurgence. Once you start, you will never look back, even if you regret it, you must bear it.

Third, delete it and tell myself that I have nothing to do with him from now on. I can start over and put an end to this relationship at the same time.

Fourth, I expected him to say what was in my heart, but I didn't give him a chance. As soon as I finished writing, I quietly deleted the work without hesitation. So, I'm not important, and I'm not looking for answers. That's the best!

I think I have respected him!

This question is not a question of emotional intelligence! I think it is necessary to analyze specific problems. Let me cite two things that I have experienced personally.

1: I had a boyfriend before. We have been in a long-distance relationship for five years. During this period, we have a good relationship. He calls me every day, and every time we chat, we can talk for an hour or two. Every day seems endless, small enough to talk about seven or eight versions of an ant.

In this way, we talked year after year and planned our future, and he would tell me as a joke what went wrong in his business, and gradually we got used to it.

One night he called me and suddenly asked me, I am away all the year round, how can you trust me so much? Aren't you afraid that one day I can't stand loneliness and go out to find a lady or find another girlfriend outside? I answered him without thinking, because you made me feel at ease! ! !

In fact, two people who have been in love for so long have a little trouble and both have a hunch. At that time, I also felt that he seemed to be hiding something from me. I always felt that something was wrong, so I secretly bought a train ticket and arrived at him at eleven o'clock in the evening. I hitchhiked directly to his construction site. Seeing that the light in his room was still on, I felt long-lost yearning and anxiety. I went up to him and knocked on the door. Immediately, I heard two voices asking me at the same time, who suddenly, I felt my head sink. They opened the door, and sure enough, there was a woman next to him, .................................... I don't remember how he explained it to me, how he begged me to forgive him, and how he said it. I just felt that my tears could not help flowing downwards, so I turned and headed for the railway station. He caught up with me, but I didn't look at him Bought a ticket and left directly. Then, I sent him a short message saying goodbye, goodbye.

I deleted all his contact information on the train and blacked it out. Up to now, two years have passed, and I haven't given him an apology or a chance to meet him. He asked his friends to inquire about me and ask them to give me gifts, but I ignored them. These gifts were either rejected or thrown away. I think this is an unforgivable mistake in principle.

My second story

With one of my good sisters. We talk about everything and are best friends. We can wear a pair of pants when we are good. When we quarrel, we can't wait to see each other forever Every time we quarreled, we made up, and we quarreled in a few days. The worst time, after the quarrel, she deleted my WeChat, and I threw her directly into the blacklist. In those days, we told our friends our shortcomings. For six days, I have never kept in touch with her for more than so many days. On the sixth day, I happened to meet her in the mall and almost said in unison, yo! Still alive