I love you, so I want to have a baby for you.

These two days have been screened by the article "Why I hate having children" on the Internet.

As a mother's subject, she showed her strategy of "only having children but not raising them" in an extremely chic manner, and under this strategy, her family was driven to be upset and complained.

At first, I was amused by the sentence "It is my husband who suffers from postpartum depression". Recalling the scene of my depression at that time, I felt so strong that I couldn't help patting my legs.

After laughing, it doesn't feel like it. It seems that the hostess slapped those who believed that "she would change her attitude towards fertility" in an extreme way, but what about the children born as a result?

This is what makes my throat ache: if you don't want children at all, why don't you stick to your determination not to? Is it really the right choice to have children in an almost angry way?

This child, who was not born out of love and grew up without being wrapped in love, will be really mentally sound in the future?

I can't help wondering why we have children.

In fact, in the first two years of having a baby, the pain is far greater than happiness.

Studies abroad have pointed out that during this period, the happiness index of families with children is actually much lower than that of families without children.

My cousin's uncle, when I first got married, encouraged me to have children every New Year. When I had children, he encouraged me to have a second child. Until the Spring Festival this year, he never mentioned this topic again.

Because last year, he became a grandfather. His son and daughter-in-law went out to work one hundred days after the birth of the child, and the burden of raising the child fell on his uncles and aunts.

Only half a year's hands-on work has changed his view that "it is difficult to take care of children" and "children are so cute, take more children to play". He complains when he meets people, "Too tired, too tired."

So the decision to have a baby is really not just a question of whether to do it or not.

When you make this decision together, it means that you and your lover are willing to bear the pain and fatigue that follows.

This is also the reason why modern people want children later and later. More and more people are beginning to accept the concept of "Dink".

However, not long ago, our girlfriends discussed the influence of children on a family and found that there are very few families who can really take the initiative to "dink".

My best friend S said that she had paid attention to a lot of attachment to immortals on Weibo before, and gradually found that those childless couples among them had broken up over the years.

It seems to my girlfriend that at some point, children are indeed an indispensable product of an intimate relationship.

I don't approve of having children to solve problems in the relationship between husband and wife.

But at the same time, I began to realize that if two people don't want children for objective reasons, it is very likely that for most couples, at least one of them is dissatisfied with this marriage relationship or has no expectations.

My friend YY, married for several years without children, finally divorced. Chatting with her, she said that there were many unexpected unhappiness in the marriage, and she had been hesitant before deciding to divorce. Therefore, I don't want to have children, and I don't want to fall into a struggling relationship for my children.

This reminds me of Sebrina. Before she and her ex-husband announced their divorce, she had no children, although she seemed to be in harmony. Ironically, after she married her present job, she got pregnant soon and gave birth to two children in succession. It is rumored that Sebrina cheated her in marriage. I don't comment on this matter, only that Sebrina's attitude towards two marriages can be seen from the birth of the child.

I want to say that a woman who has the right to have her own children is willing to bear the pain of pregnancy in October and risk her figure to have children, which means that she has declared her love for her partner and confidence in this relationship.

Why should we have children?

To be fair, in the first two years of my life, I underestimated the difficulties I would encounter after the birth of my child, and as a result, my whole life was on the verge of collapse.

I don't think I love my children enough, because I would rather go to work and travel than stay at home. At the same time, I realized that this was wrong. If I don't love her, why should I bring her into this world?

Such guilt and escapism tormented me repeatedly, and I didn't grow up to be what a good mother should be.

But she has grown up like this. In the parenting style of "equality and love" that I gradually understood and practiced, she gradually grew into a thoughtful, opinionated, polite and slightly sensitive appearance.

My awakening of self-awareness, and even my later self-healing, was accomplished by having children. In a sense, the child gave me a second life.

In my view of marriage and love, I especially disapprove of "marrying a child". Because this is a bit "blackmail": I already have children, are you irresponsible?

How many actresses "Fengzi" failed to marry into a rich family and eventually became a fertility machine. After all, they also lack confidence in this relationship and want to gamble with their children.

Marriage is the result of careful consideration by two adults, and children should not be victims of interests.

Back to the beginning, the topic, from her answer, my friends and I feel that she doesn't love children. Determined to be a dink, and defending their right not to be born in various extreme ways are understandable.

Then, please continue to defend it. Why do you give up your rules easily because you can't stand the intimidation of your family, just because "I let you pay for today's intimidation"?

The subject retaliates against straight male cancer in the form of straight female cancer, which is essentially fighting violence with violence and actually trampling on his own principles. This is not a woman's right. It's blasphemy to get back at your family by watching jokes.

I don't want children, not because I don't love you, but because I have my own principles in bearing children.

By the same token, I only want children because I love you, and you happen to have the same desire, so let's create a little life together and let it feel and continue our love.

Why did the child come? Shouldn't it be that simple?

A pair of loving parents, a good family atmosphere and a child who grew up wrapped in love are the reasons why children should really come into this world.

I love you. We are in love. My child is my truest confession to you.