19 behaviors that make parents angry and funny, have you been recruited?

Today, PaPajun was having lunch in the canteen. A colleague told her child this story:

The colleague's child is 9 years old this year, which happens to be the grade when he began to have a concept of money. Last night, the school returned the balance of the previous autumn outing, and 12 yuan asked the children to give it to their parents.

The child told a lie that failed to be cute, and the parents were angry and funny. Should they be punished?

PaPaPaJun's colleagues have learned about this through the parents. In the evening, she asked the children for the money. However, because the parents have never given money before, the child may want to leave some "small coffers". At the same time, he did not know that the parents knew about this matter, so he said to his mother, "This money teacher stayed and bought us examination papers."

My colleague kept a straight face and pretended to buy his favorite potato chips for the child. Of course, the child was excited. Then my colleague looked at the wallet and said, "Ah, mom still needs 12 yuan. What should I do?"

"nothing, I have it here." The child took the money out of his pocket without thinking ...

Colleagues told this story as a joke, and it was really cute for the child to lie when he was stupid and failed. And when I think back to my childhood, everyone may have told this kind of lies. For example,

"When I was in primary school, my teacher asked me to pay 7 yuan for books, and I told my mother that I had to pay 1 yuan. As a result, my mother called my classmates' parents and grabbed me and scolded me: Did you not listen to the class well, when it was obvious that you had to pay 2 yuan! ! Then for a long time, I lived a very chic life. "

And this one:

"I changed my test score with a ballpoint pen to a red pen, from 5 to 8, and from 1 to 7 ... I told my dad that the red pen ran out of oil when the teacher changed the paper, and I still remember my dad's expression when he looked at every red and blue paper."

Don't forget this one:

"After the exam, I got 24 points in math. When I went home, I told my parents that the highest score in the class was only over 3, and it was difficult to work out this time."

listen, are they all like jokes? But after laughing, perhaps most parents will ponder, is it right for children to lie, and should they be severely punished?

There are voices for and against this issue, but Pa Pajun wants parents to make it clear that lying is also a means for children to grow up and know the world, which is different from the situation that adults lie naturally and have low character.

A research institute in Canada has done research for 2 years, and the results show that 3% of 2-year-old children can lie. By the age of 3, the lying rate reached 5%; After the age of 4, almost all children will lie.

The child told a lie that failed to be cute, and the parents were angry and funny. Should they be punished?

In a classic study conducted by New Jersey Medical University in 1989, the researchers took some 3-year-old children into a separate room and told them that there was a "surprise toy" on the table and asked them not to peek. Later, the researcher left the room and came back to ask if he had peeked. As a result, almost all the children lied.

Then there are several reasons why children lie.

1. Parents are rude in their education. When children make mistakes, they beat and scold blindly, ignoring the reasons. Children want to cover up some things and avoid parents' punishment.

2. deliberately exaggerate things to attract others' attention.

3. children's expressive ability is limited, and some things are unclear, so they are compiled wherever they are.

4. The child began to rebel, and his parents told him not to lie, but he insisted on lying.

The child told a lie that failed to be cute, and the parents were angry and funny. Should they be punished?

To sum up, children's lying is indeed closely related to their age class. Therefore, parents need to guide and correct their children according to their personality when they lie, and don't let them embark on a vicious circle of lying-fear of punishment-lying again.

At different ages, there are different ways to guide children not to lie. When children are two or three years old, children have not protected their consciousness through lies, so parents don't have to worry about their "lies"; In early childhood, parents only need to guide their children when they "make up stories", such as reminding them that "your story is well made up, but it is not true;" After school, if you find that children who have already entered primary school or older frequently lie, you need to pay attention to it. Discover and eliminate the incentives for children to lie, and then guide children to correct them slowly.

The child told a lie that failed to be cute, and the parents were angry and funny. Should they be punished?

In addition, many times parents unconsciously encourage their children to lie. For example, parents should pay attention to lying in front of their children, and letting them lie to avoid their responsibilities.