Ask three women who have been divorced for a month, three years and ten years, "Why do you have to leave?" What is the answer?

Talking about the topic of divorce in a group, the words of three readers caught everyone's attention. They divorced for one month, three years and ten years respectively.

Someone asked what made them decide that this marriage was indispensable. Their answers are exactly the same, surprisingly similar, that is:

They forgot why they divorced in the first place, and divorce was not their decision. On the contrary, in their unhappy marriage, they have been making excuses for each other's marriage and comforting themselves that the day is not over and they can still live.

However, it is a pity that one's efforts are useless and marriage will eventually disintegrate. Instead, I will tell them the truth, and all my efforts are to face the increasingly cold marriage relationship.

Let's take a look at the stories of these three group friends and others, and live a good life:

1, just divorced for a month, but it has been delayed for ten years.

A is 40 years old this year. She married late and gave birth late, so she cherished her family very much before. Husband married for the second time, ten years older than himself, but she never seemed to feel love, only family responsibilities.

For example, a hard-working husband gives himself pocket money every month, but when he gets home, he has almost no communication with her. Sometimes she will ask her husband, do you love me, but the other person's answer is always the truth, "Do you love or not, just to complete the task".

He went out early and returned late, and all he paid in this marriage was money and indifference. At first, she comforted herself that big men are inevitably mature and will not love as much as they did when they were teenagers. Bringing money home is the greatest love, but once by chance, she discovered the way the boss treated his wife. She realized that this make-do marriage was a mistake, because the boss and her husband were the same age, but the wife was very gentle on the phone in many contracts.

When the child was young, she thought her husband was afraid of trouble, so she refused to go home. Later, she found that the child had grown up and didn't like going home. Home is an unattractive place for him. What's the point of getting married?

What is even more ridiculous is that she has been making excuses for him for so many years. It was he who filed for divorce later because he fell in love with someone else.

It turned out that he had never loved her. I stopped loving after waiting.

2. After three years of divorce, all the truth surfaced.

A woman's husband is a gambler through and through. They have been married for three years and have no children. At the time of marriage, the money given by both parents was quickly spent in half a year.

At that time, she felt terrible. She chose a gambler for herself but didn't have the courage to leave. After all, if she gets a divorce certificate, she will get married again, so she has been trying to change him.

Two years later, he owed a credit card of10.5 million, but she still felt that he could recover it, begging grandpa to tell grandma to pay it back. However, the next step is the bottomless pit of online lending.

When a group of debt collectors came to us fiercely, she suddenly became afraid. If she lives in fear, what happiness will there be? Fortunately, she can't afford to have children.

She divorced and decided that her ex-husband would not change. She took a debt of 0.2 million/200 thousand and said that she would divorce anyway. Divorce is not her subjective intention. She must live, only divorce.

Recently, she made a new boyfriend and her life began to stabilize. Although she is still paying her debts, the day of paying them off before is just around the corner.

She said, if it is love rat, such as gambler and domestic violence, don't just admit it and want to create a miracle, just leave one day earlier.

3. After ten years of divorce, the ex-husband has remarried three times.

The man in C is handsome and affectionate. He broke up with all kinds of women before marriage, but she was pregnant and they got married under the pressure of both parents.

After marriage, she was as busy as a flea, beating up and down, and everyone around her advised her that her husband loves you and his heart is still at home, so forgive her again.

At first, she also wondered if she was too neurotic, until once she blocked him and others at home, and life could no longer go on. Every time I think about it, I feel sick to death.

After the divorce, she no longer trusted men and lived alone with her children, but he kept getting married and cheating on her three times. Sometimes she finds it ridiculous to hear the news of her ex-husband. How could she fall in love with such a person who was not binding and irresponsible in the first half of her life?

In the future, she would rather be alone than accept the devastation of derailment. That feeling is like acupuncture.

She said she didn't need a divorce, but the other party had already done it under her nose, and her spirit was close to collapse. Divorce is inevitable.

During marriage, many women like to bear it, but when it comes to divorce, they have to bear it. Some men's scum, straight into the sky, unimaginable.

There are so many lives, I hope your life will not be difficult. Sometimes, the step that fate pushes you is not to hurt you, but to be reborn.