A crying boy is not a "mother". Before the age of 6, children often cry because of these two things!

Zhuang Zhuang is a six-year-old boy. As the name implies, he is tall and strong, much taller than his peers. But Zhuang Zhuang's mother talks about Zhuang Zhuang, but she is very upset: unlike a tall and strong man, she is simply a cry baby-playing hide-and-seek with children and crying when caught! If the English class can't answer the questions, the teacher will knock with a plastic hammer, and the other children will cry if they don't cry! I went to a restaurant and cried without asking him to order. ...

Zhuang Zhuang's mother said that when she was a child, she also loved to cry, maybe it was inherited, and Zhuang Zhuang also loved to cry. But I'm a girl, so I don't have to cry. A strong boy also loves to cry so much that people can't help laughing. For this reason, Zhuang Zhuang's mother broke her brain and told a lot of truth, but Zhuang Zhuang always guaranteed nothing and kept crying when she met something.

In fact, crying is a way for children to express their emotions. Children under the age of 6 are not strong in language expression, and their thoughts and feelings cannot be fully expressed in words. What shall we do? Crying is the most convenient way for them to express their emotions directly and quickly attract the attention of adults.

Before the age of 6, crying at different ages mainly has these two meanings, which parents can distinguish by comparison:

Compared with other children, my son doesn't cry much. When he was a child, he either didn't cry, or he cried because of bumps, bruises, or bruises. He has never cried for no reason.

One day in three months, we carried him to get vaccinated. The injection place is a little far from home, so we will take a taxi when we go out. The weather is very hot. It's only been three months and I seldom go out. According to the old man's instructions, I wrapped a quilt for him. It's called a quilt. It's a small quilt made of two layers of cotton. It is very thin. In the car, changchang, who doesn't like to cry, suddenly began to cry. Dad often keeps adjusting his posture, but he still keeps crying. Fortunately, the driver's eldest brother is experienced and said, is the child hot? Take off the quilt and have a look. As I said, I took off the quilt, and sure enough, I stopped crying and calmed down.

It suddenly dawned on me that my three-month-old son was crying to express his dissatisfaction with the heat. One-year-olds can't talk. For them, crying is a means of healthy and good survival.

Only by crying can we express our feelings, attract the attention of adults, and let adults explore and protect themselves.

I often receive suggestions from some parents:

Children don't fall in love with kindergarten, and they cry for a long time every time, and they can't be coaxed.

Children are disobedient and love to hit people. When their parents stopped them, they cried loudly.

Children are inattentive, don't eat well and so on.

On the surface, children cry for different reasons, but there is often only one psychological need in their hearts: to call their parents' attention and love!

Parents do not have enough high-quality companionship with their children, and the relationship of safe attachment between parents and children has not been formed. Children can't feel love and care in their hearts, but they are too young to realize and say it. So they show some deviant behaviors, such as not falling in love with kindergarten, not eating well, not paying attention, hitting people and crying. In fact, they are looking for the care and warmth of their parents.

Especially for children around 6 years old, as some parents said, the more they grow up, the more sensible they are, and they often cry after adults. In fact, most children want to control the parent-child relationship, cry to the closest people, and seek the approval and attention of their parents.

Parents should reflect on the quality of accompanying their children through the appearance of their crying, and whether it is because of negligence that children feel insecure.

Hug your child more, kiss your child more, and tell your child that mom (dad) loves you, not only in words, but also in actions. Encourage your child to feel allowed and liked, so that he can play and live in peace and happiness.

Take Zhuang Zhuang as an example. From the conversation with Zhuang Zhuang's mother, I know that she is very strict with Zhuang Zhuang and sets rules for him everywhere. If she can't meet the standard, she will be criticized and punished. Sometimes, in order to punish, she will not let Zhuang Zhuang watch her favorite cartoons. At first, Zhuang Zhuang did a good job. His mother listened to everything and cooperated well, and he didn't cry much. But gradually, Zhuang Zhuang not only refused to listen to her mother's arrangement, but also cried even harder.

In fact, forced crying is aggrieved crying, and it is an outlet that cannot compete with mother's strength and anger. In fact, forced crying is a kind of emotional release.

Knowing this reason, my mother was embarrassed to get up. "Everything happens for a reason" is not a cry of the strong, nor a "person", but an expression of natural emotions.

From the perspective of family relations, Zhuang Zhuang loves to cry, and he is also * * * emotional with his mother. He unconsciously imitated and helped release his mother's inner emotions. It is also because my father lacks the guidance of masculinity and wants masculinity in his heart, but severely punishes Zhuang Zhuang's impulse, adventure and recklessness, which puts Zhuang Zhuang in a dilemma. It is not Zhuang Zhuang who loves to cry, but his parents' incomprehension that makes Zhuang Zhuang cry.

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