Why is the sense of ritual a kind of attitude towards life?

In daily life, have you ever complained that your life is unhappy?

Have you ever envied others living a sophisticated life, but when you tried to do it yourself, you found yourself in trouble?

You have to know that happiness slips away from you quietly like this.

There is a classic dialogue in the fairy tale "The Little Prince":

The little prince asked the little fox: "What is the sense of ritual?"

The little fox replied Said: "It is what makes one day different from other days, and one moment different from other moments."

In the long years of life, many of the things we remember firmly are precisely some kind of rituals Feeling experience.

When it comes to New Year’s Day, what everyone thinks of is the countdown or the New Year’s Eve craze.

For the parents-in-law, it is a special holiday--the wedding anniversary.

My father-in-law would book a hotel early, secretly prepare gifts, and secretly gather us all together.

We will shout loudly at the dinner table: Mom and Dad, happy marriage.

The mother-in-law would mutter something to make the children laugh, but the happiness and sweetness on her face would eclipse the flowers in her arms.

In the words of the father-in-law: The law does not stipulate that only young people are allowed to celebrate wedding anniversaries, not the elderly.

The marriage of the father-in-law and mother-in-law over the past twenty years has not been smooth sailing, but the father-in-law has never been stingy with the preparations for the ceremony.

I think even though there were some hard days, they must have had a lot of good memories.

Because of the father-in-law’s sense of ceremony, the hearts of the whole family slowly got closer and were finally closely connected.

What’s more important is that children who grow up in such a loving and ritual environment will inherit their parents’ happiness and attitude toward a happy life.

My husband, who grew up in a ceremonial family atmosphere, indeed knows how to love people better than I do, and he is also better than me at discovering the beauty in the trivial.

He will fry the breakfast eggs into the shape of his love for you, will find a suitable container for each dish, will prepare small thoughts for you on every festival, and will also be there when you need it. hug you tightly.

The sense of ritual will give you the courage and strength to face the unsatisfactory life.

American psychologist William James proposed the "expression principle", which basically means: when we smile, our mood will become happy, and when we frown, our mood will become depressed. Not happy.

This is contrary to our common sense. We do not smile because we feel happy, but because we smile, we feel happy.

We do not love because of rituals, but because of love, there are rituals.