Originally, we didn't have much contact with my mother-in-law when she was here, and after she left, we were even less friends than outsiders. People nowadays are too realistic. If you have a rich mot

Originally, we didn't have much contact with my mother-in-law when she was here, and after she left, we were even less friends than outsiders. People nowadays are too realistic. If you have a rich mother-in-law, everyone will come. The family relationship is no longer like it was when we were children, it has changed. Do you still associate with such sisters? Because everyone grew up together when they were young, if there are many brothers and sisters and the love of parents cannot be balanced, everyone will feel that their parents favor someone. For example, families that favor sons over daughters generally have more brothers and sisters. Except for the favored person, others are unwilling to talk to him. This way, the superficial affection can be maintained when the parents are around, but after the parents leave, there is no If people are willing to associate with the person who has robbed their parents of their love since childhood, the relationship will naturally become estranged.

We are a family when our parents are here. Who wants to see people who have hated them since childhood when their parents are gone?

Nowadays, some family relationships are very complicated. Especially in rural areas, if there is a large family, brothers and sisters will gather at their parents’ homes during holidays. It’s so lively! Douma also liked this kind of atmosphere when she was a child!

However, strangely enough, when their parents were alive, the brothers and sisters had a very harmonious relationship. They often walked around and missed each other!

However, after the death of their parents, the brothers and sisters seem to have lost their "backbone". They rarely interact with each other and rarely contact each other. If it is not a holiday, they may not even make a phone call. Why is this? ?

Brothers and sisters who had not seen each other for seven years reunited after their parents passed away. When they met again, it was "like they knew each other again"

A few days ago, Dou's mother saw this on the Internet The story:

Xiaowan was born in a rural area. She is the youngest in her family, with two brothers and one sister.

Everyone knows that there has always been a concept of "preferring boys over girls" in some areas of our country, and Xiaowan's family is no exception.

My parents loved their two older brothers very much, and looked down upon my sister and Xiaowan. Fortunately, the family's financial conditions were relatively good, and both Xiaowan and her sister were successfully admitted to college, which also made girls in the same village very envious. .

Later, Xiaowan married out of town and had little contact with her family. At most, she would go back during the New Year and holidays for a superficial reunion, say some polite words to her brother and sister, and spend the first day of the new year Go home immediately.

Later, after her parents died of illness, Xiaowan had less contact with her brother and sister. In the past seven years, she only called a few times and never met once.

Until last year’s Tomb-Sweeping Day, Xiaowan went home to worship her ancestors after seven years, and saw her brother and sister again, but she didn’t know what to say. Seeing each other again “felt like we knew each other again.” .

After the two brothers inherited the house left by their parents, they entertained the two sisters warmly, but they only said polite words. The four of them felt very strange and the atmosphere was very awkward.

Xiaowan said bluntly: "Actually, my relationship with my brother is very ordinary. When I was a child, I felt that my parents were unfair and always favored my brother. If it weren't for the spare money at home, I might have been like other girls in the village, working in the fields. Just do farm work and marry any local man."

Of course, Xiaowan only complained about her parents, but had no resentment, otherwise she would not have gone home to reunite with her parents when they were still alive. However, for the sake of her parents, Xiao Wan behaves very friendly with her brothers.

What is the difference between parents who are alive and parents who are dead? The answers given by these three sisters are too realistic

An ordinary family in Xinbin County, Fushun City has five members, parents and three sisters.

Ms. Liu is the second eldest among the sisters and is a "middleman". Once her elder sister and younger sister compete for good things, she will mediate.

话虽如此，三姐妹的关系非常融洽，小妹被班级中的女生欺负时，她和大姐曾经去学校揍了霸凌者一顿；大姐失恋时，她和小妹We also comforted my elder sister together, and we ran to the top of the mountain to watch the stars and relieve our worries.

When they grew up, the three sisters each got married and started their own business. Although the relationship was no longer as close as when they were children, they would always find time to go back to their hometown to get together. During holidays, parents’ birthdays, and when their parents were sick, the three sisters would get together. Fan.

The eldest sister is married to a businessman and often travels around; the younger sister is also married to a man from a wealthy family, and has no worries about food and clothing; only Ms. Liu is married to a son-in-law who comes to her, and she is the one among the three sisters. Life is the most ordinary.

Later, when their parents died suddenly and unexpectedly while traveling abroad, without even leaving a will, the three sisters fell out.

Ms. Liu feels that she is the poorest in life. Her eldest sister and third sister are both married to rich people, so she should inherit most of the property;

The eldest sister feels that since her parents are gone, she is the one in the family. The person in charge should inherit most of the property;

The younger sister feels that the eldest sister is married to a businessman and the second sister is not well off, so she should sell the house in her hometown and divide it into three. This is reasonable.

However, Ms. Liu married a live-in son-in-law. After the house is sold, where will she and her husband live? Therefore, the three sisters were in a stalemate, and they decided not to contact each other again after the matter was resolved.

After the death of parents, brothers and sisters do not contact each other? It may also be related to this factor.

When parents pass away, the relationship between brothers and sisters is broken? This is not surprising.

Rich woman Ms. Ai shared her "secret family history" on social platforms:

To be honest, I met a good husband and he was very rich, so I also lived Enter the life of the rich.

I don’t care if others call me a sugar daddy. What does it matter if a woman is a sugar daddy? However, I have two older brothers and one younger brother, and none of these three brothers has any future!

They have to study but not study, and they have to look good but not good-looking. I wonder if these three brothers were born by the wrong parents, or if I am not the biological child of my parents? The gap is too big.

Even if I don’t like my elder brother and younger brother, I still have to think about my parents. After all, without the upbringing of my parents, I wouldn’t be where I am today.

Therefore, I often lent money to my elder brother and younger brother, and even helped repay the loan. This kind of life lasted for five years, and even my husband couldn't bear it anymore. At this time, my parents fell ill and passed away one after another.

After I made arrangements for my parents’ funeral, I immediately blocked my brother’s and younger brother’s phone numbers. At the same time, I sold the house I was living in and moved to another place.

After I shared my family story with my friend, she said I had no feelings.

I think if you don’t have feelings, then you don’t have feelings. It’s okay if you don’t want such a lazy brother and brother! In fact, when I first lent them money, I wanted them to do some small business. I never thought that they would squander all the money I borrowed.

I no longer want to associate with such unmotivated poor relatives. Do you think I am wrong in doing so?

Why do brothers and sisters become estranged when their parents are gone? These 4 reasons are realistic and heartbreaking

1. Parental favoritism

If parents have the concept of "preferring boys over girls" or are particularly partial to one child, other children will treat that child Hostility arises, which also leads to disharmony between brothers and sisters.

When their parents are alive, brothers and sisters will still have a superficial relationship. After their parents pass away, brothers and sisters will fall apart and never interact with each other until they die.

2. Property distribution

After the death of parents, property distribution is a big issue. Even if parents leave a will, some people will be unconvinced and want to fight for the property.

Before the death of Macau gambling king Stanley Ho, his wife and son staged a "house fight drama" at home. After Mr. Ho's death, I believe that his wife, children and children will stage another "house fight drama" ".

Once parents’ property distribution is unreasonable, even the best relationship between brothers and sisters may turn bad. The reality is so cruel and heartbreaking, right?

3. Don’t want to deal with poor relatives

Soul torture - Which is more important, money or relatives?

In the face of reality, some people may choose money as more important, which is not surprising.

It doesn’t matter if your relatives are poor, but if they are always looking for trouble, it will be very torturous!

Ms. Ai is a typical example. Her elder brother and younger brother are "Adou who cannot be helped," also known as "vampires." Faced with such poor relatives, most people will choose to run away, right?

4. Other reasons

When brothers and sisters grow up, they have their own priorities in life and have to take care of their own families.

When their parents are alive, they may take time to get together. But when their parents are gone, they may shift all their focus to their own family, which also results in them having no time to contact relatives.

Moreover, some people may go to other places when they grow up. Due to geographical reasons, it is very inconvenient to travel far away. Unless it is a wedding or wedding, brothers and sisters will not be reunited.

Message from Dou Ma

Why do brothers and sisters stop interacting with each other after their parents pass away? These three women told the truth!

The old people often say, "One generation is close, the second generation is cousin, the third and fourth generation cannot recognize each other."

Dear mothers and fathers, you and your brothers Are the sisters still in contact? Come and share your story!

The country is everyone, and the family is a small country. One of the core elements of Chinese culture is "harmony". When parents are present, brothers and sisters can get together. Because parents care and tolerate every child, parents who have interests to export can still be treated kindly. If parents have exported interests, they become grass on the wall. Moral character has been neglected by the world to the point where benefit is still the most important thing among relatives. Benevolence and righteousness are no longer reflected among relatives. Social progress is not reflected in family harmony. History records the reality of our current discord in small families and the substitution of benefit for benevolence. .

China has a tradition of respecting elders and ancestors.

If the parents are still alive, no matter how busy the children are, they still have to visit their parents during the holidays, so that the brothers and sisters can get together and keep in touch;

The parents are no longer alive. , the children have no reason to get together, and reuniting will require feelings or interests as an intermediary.

Due to lack of resources, partiality and other reasons, parents of the previous generation did not have a deep relationship between brothers and sisters, and there were even old grievances between each other. Everyone had their own affairs to be busy with, and there was no communication. situation is natural.

There is no such thing as a banquet, and it is not surprising that some parents and brothers and sisters do not interact with each other. One is emotion, the other is economics, and the third is background and environment. It's the same thing when you have feelings since you were a child and you still have feelings when you are old. If you don't have feelings since you were a child, it's the same thing when you grow up to be an adult. In addition, parental education is also related to the eldest child’s words and deeds. If the eldest child behaves well, cares about his younger siblings, and gives in to his younger siblings, the younger siblings will respect the older brother as they do their parents. Respect each other, tolerate and consider each other, and the banquet will be prolonged.

There is a saying that goes well: if parents are alive, there is still a way to go in life; if parents are gone, there is only a way back in life. This sentence reminds us that the kindness of parents is heavier than Mount Tai, and the kindness of parents is as deep as the sea. Without the parents who gave us life, we would be who we are now, and without the upbringing of our parents, we would be who we are now. When my parents were alive, I felt that my home was complete and like a family. During the holidays, brothers and sisters could rush back to their hometowns from all directions from their respective places of work and life, and the whole family would get together and have a reunion dinner. Stay with your parents, chat with them, talk about everyday things, talk about your experiences outside, tell some jokes, make your parents happy, and enjoy family happiness as a family. Talk about things that are not going well at work, and ask your parents to give you some advice. After all, your parents have rich social experience.

My parents have a kind of concern in my heart. No matter where I am, I will always think about it. I still have another concern, that is my parents, my eternal home. Parents are the souls of brothers and sisters, their spiritual sustenance, and their centripetal force. As long as their parents are around, brothers and sisters will always stay together as a family. When the parents enter heaven, the spiritual pillars of the brothers and sisters fall down, and there is no longer any care for the family, and the family has no cohesion. The brothers and sisters have fewer opportunities to meet and have less daily interactions.

Solving this problem is very simple. Try to establish a family foundation and hold regular family meetings. This way your family will have cohesion. Come on [Like] [Like] [Like] [Like] [Like] ]

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