Huang Lei's daughter was praised for wetting the bed by 270 thousand: there is a kind of perfection, which is the imperfection of accepting children

It is common for a child to wet the bed before he is 2 years old, but if the child still wets the bed after he is 5 years old, how will you react? Blame? Cold face? Still beating and cursing?

In Weibo, Huang Lei and her daughter talked about wetting the bed the night before. My sister asked, Dad, do you know how I wet the bed?

Huang Lei weaved a story of "looking for a toilet in a dream", which perfectly accepted the children's "anecdote". After she finished, her sister sighed with surprise: Wow, Dad, how do you know!

This conversation between father and daughter is as warm as a short fairy tale. My sister completely exposed her little world to her father, so intact innocence is precious in this complex world.

Although bed wetting is a trivial matter, the attitude of parents is related to the child's life.

Huang Lei's educational model is worth learning from every parent.

My sister told Huang Lei excitedly as if she had discovered a new continent: "I always thought that six plus six equals four. Do you know now? Six plus six is 12 ".

I don't know how long it took my sister to "correct" her cognition, but I know that a good family education can let her breathe freely, just like Huang Lei, without worrying about her daughter's right or wrong. Give her time to find problems and give her enough room for independent growth.

My sister "questioned" the Monkey King's gender and the details of jumping into the sea without changing her bathing suit when watching "Making a scene in Heaven". Huang Lei didn't give her a popular science lesson from the perspective of an adult, but perfected her innocence.

If a person has unlimited imagination in childhood, then she must be loved. Huang Lei's daughter is probably such a person.

My sister said that she wanted to be an ice cream seller when she grew up. This ideal is not allowed in the eyes of most parents, and she has to accept the education method of "national good father" Huang Lei. He gave her children enough respect and love, gently "cooperated" with her daughter and showed me a child as smart as an angel.

I suddenly remembered watching "Little Joy" some time ago, and there was a scene that left me with a lingering fear. Xueba Yi Ding left a sequela because of the college entrance examination. Although he was admitted to Tsinghua, he had to drop out of school because he couldn't sleep all night, and eventually committed suicide by jumping off a building because of depression. ...

"Education is a slow art, if you walk too fast, your soul will not keep up ..." It is worth thinking for every anxious parent.

I once heard a story about bed wetting, with the same background and different endings.

A 5-year-old girl who used to wet the bed was severely reprimanded by her parents:

You haven't wet the bed since you were two years old. Now that you are five years old, how can it get worse?

It's a shame that such a big child still wets the bed and hangs outside for fear of jokes.

I hope this is the last time, really speechless. ...

Her parents' words let her know what shame is for the first time. She hung her head deeply, as if she had made an unforgivable "big mistake"

The next night, she didn't dare to wet the bed again and didn't dare to sleep until the early hours of the morning. She really couldn't hold on, fell asleep and woke up in the morning to find that she wet the bed again.

Mother said angrily, "Are you angry with us on purpose? There is a limit to patience. This is the second time. If I come again tomorrow, I won't teach you a lesson so simple! "

On the third night, the nightmare came unexpectedly. She seems to have lost control and wet the bed again.

Mother strictly carried out her "warning" and didn't let the girl eat a mouthful of rice and drink a drop of water that night.

This time, I finally didn't wet the bed.

But since then, the girl has been enchanted, and bed wetting has become a common practice. Her parents' abuse, wet sheets and a room full of strange smells became her childhood nightmares.

Later, when the girl grew up, she still came to visit to wet the bed every three to five times. Her parents took her to see many doctors, but to no avail.

She began to escape from the glorious life that should have belonged to her.

In the year of the college entrance examination, her score was much higher than a line, and she could go to a famous school. But she chose a local university silently, for fear that her roommate would find out her "skeleton in my closet" so that she could stay at home at night.

Talking about two feelings ended because the other party found this "problem".

She chose to cut her wrist and commit suicide. After being rescued by his parents, the humiliation accumulated for many years broke out at the moment he woke up.

Unexpectedly, because of this venting, since then, the problem of bed wetting has miraculously begun to improve.

However, those lost times cannot be rebuilt.

Nearly 40 years old, unmarried.

Education is actually like the butterfly effect. If parents solve a small matter in a relaxed and happy way, they can make it smaller. If they interfere too much, they will complicate simple problems and even enlarge more problems.

The most perfect education is to accept the imperfections of children.

Douban 8.6 high-scoring movie Miracle Boy tells the growth story of an "imperfect" little boy.

The little boy Auggie was born with a facial deformity. He used to teach himself at home. Later, in order to integrate him into society, his parents decided to let him go to school for education.

There is no one in the whole family who doesn't like little auggie. They are the bright lights in Auggie's life, which bring him endless warmth and courage when he is lost and sad.

Changing a child may only take a positive look, an encouraging word and a kind insistence.

A little boy often tears things at home, but his parents don't think he is a troublemaker and even help him "tear". Later, he became the father of the universe, and he was Hawking.

A little boy was called "mentally retarded" by his teacher because of his poor grades. He failed in high school and went to a music class. His mother always insists on three noes: no nagging, no accusation and no coercion. This "scum" is Jay Chou.

Every child is a seed, but the flowering period is different. Some bloom brilliantly from the beginning, and some need to be cultivated and wait for flowers to bloom.

Maybe some seeds will not bloom, but become trees or green grass, some are lush, some are persevering and each has its own style.

Whether it is flowers or trees, it can bring vitality to the world.