Dear, don't mistake obsession for love.

1, when I first heard the word obsession, I didn't think about its meaning, just thought it was very pleasant and exciting. There is no praise or criticism in words, and the quality of the result lies in people's control.

The so-called obsession, literally, probably means having too persistent ideas about things or things! There is nothing wrong with persistence, and I am afraid of being too persistent. We all know that if we go too far, if we are too persistent, sometimes we will be confused, but we can't see the truth and true colors of the matter.

I think everyone living in this world has their own obsession! Only if we can grasp the degree and depth of obsession, it is not necessarily a bad thing to have obsession, and we are afraid that we will be too obsessed and hurt ourselves without knowing it.

As a fairy, Bai is so obsessed with the whole world that he doesn't see through his feelings, which leads to so much dissatisfaction. Finally, it was not until Hua died that he let go and felt that his insistence was wrong, but it was too late to regret it. Fortunately, my brother sacrificed himself to fulfill them, but he didn't cling to his own life. He made a decision to fulfill them after realizing it. It's really embarrassing to see it. Mu Rongfu was so obsessed with the throne that he finally went crazy. Taking his place eventually became an indoor game.

Even people like them who should see through everything in the world can't escape obsession, let alone you and me! You and I are both mortal, and it is understandable to have a little obsession. It's just that some people are so stubborn that they can only hurt themselves in the end

Then, why do people have obsession! Think about it carefully, probably because I can't see through it, I can't let it go! Unwilling to feel reluctant! Because I can't get it, I have an obsession. It's just that one day you finally got what you wanted. Is this what you really want? Maybe you have long forgotten the original intention of persistence, all because you refuse to let yourself go.

What kind of people are prone to obsession! I think there are probably two kinds of people who can't escape this grinding spell! One is a person who has been smooth sailing since childhood and has never experienced setbacks and failures. Such people are smart and conceited. Once one day he wants something or meets someone he might like, but he can't get it or is rejected, he is most likely to have an obsession. Only in the end, even if he tries to get it, it may have been unrecognizable and no longer moved. And the whole process of chasing is just unwilling and conquering. The root of obsession is never failing. The frustration caused by sudden failure and rejection is exactly what I can't accept in chaos. I just couldn't understand it, and finally I got tired and suffered others.

On the other hand, people who have been having a bad life. Long-term dissatisfaction and depression will one day easily make these people resentful and blame others, and finally they will either wake up or be doomed. No matter what the result is, if you are too stubborn, you will easily hurt yourself and the people around you.

We often see children in a middle school leave books for their parents to jump off buildings or run away from home because of poor grades. In fact, it may be that parents ask too much of their children, and the children can't achieve it themselves and can't adjust themselves, which eventually leads to tragedy. In fact, to put it bluntly, parents are too obsessed! There is also a well-known university, a high flyers roommate murder case, jealousy or imbalance, to put it bluntly, is the fault of obsession.

Therefore, ordinary people like you and me, if they find that they have been obsessed with something, but they have not made progress, and they have affected the mood of themselves and the people around them, it may be obsession. At this time, you might as well stop to have a rest, or chat with friends, or go out for a trip, and take a vacation for yourself first. Do everything possible to let yourself put it down for a while, let it go first. Maybe when you have a good rest and come back to life with blood, you will suddenly find that what you are chasing is only the obsession in your heart, and even what you are chasing will become blurred.

My college classmate Xiao Jia lives opposite my dormitory. I remember seeing Xiao Jia for the first time at the beginning of school. That is a girl with a warm smile like sunshine. I remember that Jony J had fair skin and a ponytail, and always smiled with neat white teeth. She is so beautiful and lovely.

It is said that the university is the Garden of Eden, where dreams set sail and love germinated. At such a beautiful age and such a warm little girl, the goddess of love will naturally not forget to take care of her. Shortly after the start of school, I heard that Jony J was in love, and I just heard that, after all, everyone just arrived here and didn't know each other so well, and Jony J wouldn't broadcast it on the loudspeaker, just heard a thing or two from others.

Throughout the semester, Xiao Jia was immersed in love. Like all girls in love, she looks like a peach blossom, radiant. It just didn't last long. At the end of the term, we were all busy preparing for the exam. When I came home for the New Year, I heard that Jony J was lovelorn. Actually, I don't need to hear about it. Anyone who lives on our floor and has ears should know about it. Because whenever we work overtime in the middle of the night to study for the exam, we can always hear screams in the corridor, abusive questions and the cries of ghosts and wolves. At this time, people in the dormitory will lean out from the curtains beside the bed and whisper, "Jony J, it's Jony J's voice." "Hey, it's starting again, as for it!" . Ladies and gentlemen, you started the discussion word by word. Besides reading books every day, discussing Jony J has become a compulsory course for us.

I thought that Jony J would stop one day. But before the final exam, Jony J's parents came. I heard that the counselor called "please" and the people in their dormitory told the counselor.

Later, we learned that Jony J's boyfriend was her high school classmate and had stopped going to school. When they were in a different place, her boyfriend found a girlfriend at work and wanted to break up with Jony J, but Jony J didn't agree. In this way, Xiao Jia cried all night and called all night like a madman. The other party kept calling if he didn't answer. Later, when the other party didn't answer the phone, she wanted to jump off the building. The people in the dormitory can't reach her boyfriend's phone with their mobile phones, so try to appease her. Every day, everyone is annoyed and scared, which affects the rest and study of roommates.

In the end, everyone unanimously decided to tell the counselor that the counselor decisively invited the parents. But what can two parents from the countryside do in the face of such a small family? Helpless and desperate, they begged the school to let Jony J stay and take the exam, but for safety reasons, the school suggested that Jony J go home to recuperate.

In this way, Xiao Jia, who had just been in college for half a year, was taken home by his parents, and the school also made a lot of noise. Everyone knows that there is a girl in our major who refuses to break up and wants to jump off a building. Even sitting next to other majors in open classes, they will come and ask: I heard that a girl in your major is going to jump off a building in love. Is it true?/You don't say. The eager tone and expression are simply greater than the interest in professional courses!

Think about Jony J again. It took her years of hard work to get into college. What hardships did the farmer's parents pay to support her out of the countryside? Because of a so-called love and obsession, everything has become a joke and leisure topic for others to kill time. I can't help feeling sorry for her.

Goodbye Xiao Jia, it's been half a year, so naturally I can't go to school with us. Xiao Jia failed. And Xiao Jia is no longer the first time I saw her. She has gained a whole circle of weight and her face is not good. Without the water and romance of her age, she looks like a bloated middle-aged woman. People always avoid her intentionally or unintentionally when they see her. Xiao Jia must have been miserable during the whole university, and became the talk of everyone after dinner.

It was many years later that Xiao Jia mentioned that she got depressed after going home with her parents and couldn't afford to get sick. She will become what she looks like after taking hormonal drugs. I asked her: Do you regret it? She looked at me for a long time and didn't answer.

After a long time, Xiao Jia called me and told me: It used to be very good in his eyes, but now I found out when I got married. In fact, we may not be suitable at all. We have many habits and different ideas. In the past, in order to be together, I always endured it, and I didn't find it hard to endure it. Now that we are really together, many things are becoming clearer and clearer, only to find that we may not be so in love!

Jony J's words, I haven't opened my mouth, and I already heard Jony J's voice trembling on the other end of the phone. It is clear that Xiao Jia has regretted it, but now she knows if it is too late, and I don't know how to comfort her.

What about you, dear? Are you still clinging to someone who doesn't love you? Do you really love ta? How long have you loved ta? Are you sure you've been chasing love instead of obsession? Is it really love that you are infatuated with?

If you can't answer yourself the first time, please slow down, give yourself some time, relax yourself and don't go into a dead end. Take a trip, maybe when you look back, everything will come out. Dear, life is so short, don't take the wrong idea as love, make yourself bitter and tired of others. Never let down your beautiful youth.

May each of us live a quiet life and live up to our beautiful years!