What if the daughter-in-law doesn't respect her mother-in-law? Arguing with my mother, yelling, and making my mother say that you fight like a girl!

I have different views from the two upstairs.

In our country's folk customs, there is a saying that "persuade and not divorce", but I personally think this is not absolute. It should be based on the situation!

It is difficult for parents to support us, especially when we are parents.

Generally speaking, before the age of 40, we may not be able to repay our parents enough in terms of time, money and energy. Some parents may not be able to wait until then-they may get very little from our children all their lives. As the saying goes, "Children want to raise and don't stay close." -I feel this kind of pain and loss, and I believe this kind of torture will accompany me all my life!

My advice to you is:

1. showdown. From your description, I can see that you are a dutiful son, similar to the post-80s generation (I guess you are). It is rare to be so responsible, responsible and dare to adhere to the principle of right and wrong. I admire it. Give your daughter-in-law a showdown and tell her clearly that refusing and not honoring your parents is a question of right and wrong and a typical moral quality problem. Because of this, the lion's roar is even more excessive; Contradictions and conflicts not only do not avoid the elderly, but also quarrel with the elderly and even start work, which is intolerable. It is estimated that even if her parents come out, it will be difficult to change her, and even if she develops like this, her parents will have direct responsibility and may not be able to control her. Think clearly before you fight, and tell her clearly whether she can change and make up for her obsolescence with actions. If not, choose the second one.

2. Divorce.

I'm not afraid of jokes. I've had a similar experience. My ex-wife can't stand my mother. After seeing our quarrel, my mother left my city in the rain and went back to the countryside. Until her death, she never stayed at my home in the city. This is also an irreparable regret in my life!

Fortunately, my present wife is very reasonable!

Therefore, although the language in 1 urges you to show your cards to her, I think from the bottom of my heart that her stubbornness, selfishness, irrationality and fierceness cannot be changed by words, even after divorce. Unless there are a few deep blows!

Brother, we can't choose our parents, we can choose our wives!

Give up and get it! Good luck!