After the second child was born, Dabao always said that there was a younger brother in the corner. What happened after going to the hospital for examination?

Most contemporary parents are only children, because the previous generation did not open the second child policy. It is precisely because of the "bitterness" of the only child that more and more people pursue "pairing" and "children and grandchildren". Especially after the opening of the second child policy, more and more treasure mothers joined the "second child army".

Behind the rise of the "second child" trend, on the surface, it is to find a companion for Dabao, and brothers and sisters can help each other in the future. In fact, some families don't want to see a "second child" and even make some "special moves".

After the second child was born, Dabao always said that there was a younger brother in the corner. After going to the hospital for examination, his mother blamed herself.

Colleague Xiao Wang has a very clever and lovely son who often comes to the office to wait for his mother after school. Everyone likes this lovely little boy very much.

After Xiao Wang gave birth to a second child, a colleague would tease her son, "Your mother is pregnant with her younger brother and won't hurt you in the future." Every time, she can turn her head away from the child's anger. His lovely behavior always makes everyone laugh.

After Xiao Wang gave birth to a second child, he was busy taking care of the second child every day and gradually ignored Dabao. One day Dabao suddenly said to his mother, "Mom, there is a little brother in the corner." This sentence really scared her mother.

Old people often say that children's eyes can see things that adults can't. Do they really have children's souls in their own homes? This is very unfortunate for a newborn child. Although the mother was afraid, she remained calm and comforted the boss and said, "No, don't talk nonsense".

But the child said this sentence almost every day, and the mother began to suspect that the child had vision problems, but it was found to be very healthy after examination. The ophthalmologist suggested going to the psychology department. Unexpectedly, the psychological doctor's explanation made the mother blame herself.

The psychologist said: "The child said that there was a younger brother in the corner after the second child was born, mostly to attract your attention. Every time he says this, his mother can be patient and calm. In order to regain his mother's love, he will use this method repeatedly, fearing that his mother will not like himself if she has a second child. "

After listening to the doctor's words, the child cried unjustly, and the mother understood what the child said.

In real life, many families with two children have similar phenomena. Children deliberately make trouble in order to attract the attention of their parents and win back their mother's love. For example, if you see your mother breast-feeding your penis, you will lose your temper and go on a hunger strike. If you see your mother sleeping with your penis, you will sleep with your mother anyway.

In fact, it is normal for the second child to compete for favor. In the eyes of children, parents are everything to themselves. If they are suddenly separated, they will not make up, but they can also show their love for their mother.

But if parents don't handle it well, the boss's emotions can easily go to extremes and do things that hurt the second child. For example, the sister who broke the news before stabbed the younger brother of the second child.

After giving birth to a second child, how to avoid the boss's mood? Do these two things well and the parent-child relationship will go further.

1) Give the boss an "explanation"

"He is still young. As a sister, you have to cut him some slack." This sentence is often said by many second-child families, but it is also a sentence that intensifies children's emotions.

In the eyes of my mother, the eldest brother has grown up compared with the newborn second child, but in fact, the eldest brother is just a child. In the face of the contradiction of the second child, don't always say "my brother is still young, let him go", but give the boss an explanation.

For example, the boss wants to sleep with his mother, but her mother has to take care of the second child. He can tell the boss, "Mom will change his brother's diaper at night, and getting up with the light on will crush you to death. If you hurt your mother, you will feel distressed. You can sleep by yourself first, and my brother and grandmother will come back after sleeping another day. "

2) The promise to the boss should be "as promised"

In the face of the boss's crying, the most common way for parents is to persuade and temporarily calm down their emotions. Just think that the child is derailed, or wait until the child asks questions before repenting, which leads to the escalation of parent-child conflicts.

The best way to solve the contradiction of the second child is not to be eccentric. For example, I told the boss that sleeping with her for a few days must be realized, otherwise the child will not only be sad, but also lose trust when he finds out that his mother is lying.