Why can't a really good person's EQ be too high?

I have always felt that the really powerful human merchants are not too high. There are reasons for saying this, but first of all, what is emotional intelligence?

For example, a person takes a bucket with a hole in the middle to fetch water, and he can only pump half a bucket of water every time he goes back and forth. People with low emotional intelligence will say: huh? Why did you only draw half a bucket of water? A person with high emotional intelligence will tell him that he has at least half a bucket of water in order to comfort him.

Although the latter is more comfortable than the former, it does not clearly let him know where his problem is. Just follow each other's ideas and make each other happy, but it is still him who works hard.

On the other hand, if you directly point out that he only drinks half a bucket of water at a time, it will make him think about the reasons and then improve.

High emotional intelligence, to put it bluntly, is an act that always makes others feel comfortable, that is, following other people's ideas, but all the results are to please others and lose themselves.

Xi Murong, a writer, said: In retrospect, all my efforts in my life were just to satisfy the people around me. In order to win others' praise and smile, I threw myself into all the patterns and all the shackles with trepidation. Halfway through, I suddenly found that there was only a vague face and a road that I couldn't turn back.

People live all their lives, and once they die, there is nothing wrong with sticking to themselves. Going with the flow has become his style again.

The importance of IQ crushes EQ.

Some people may say that there are many powerful people with high EQ, such as He Jiong, and Lin Chi-ling, Zhao and other women.

However, these people's EQ is not high, but after they become strong, their EQ gradually rises. This order is very important. For example, when Zhao Gang made his debut, he was always regarded as a black spot because of his improper remarks. Later, after much experience, emotional intelligence gradually rose and was liked by more and more people.

Brain is a good thing, but if it is used in different places, it will have a completely different impact on your life.

If you only practice emotional intelligence, not IQ, and don't think independently when things happen, others will follow suit. Although you can get the praise of most people, it will only make you farther and farther away from success.

What if the idea is contrary to people? Persistence is the most important thing.

Mention? Heliocentrism? , it is said that Copernicus was burned to death. At that time, everyone believed that geocentric theory was the truth, but their emotional intelligence was not high, but they kept shouting? The sun is the center of the world? Copernicus was burned to death because he was contrary to everyone's idea. This is nonsense.

Although Heliocentrism was not correct, he brought mankind closer to the truth, which also made Copernicus' name immortal.

Now people's thoughts are contrary to the public. Although he won't be burned to death, he can't talk. People with low emotional intelligence are always easy to be isolated. Their eyes are like an invisible knife. It is easier to kill than to set fire.

But even so, unique ideas should not be buried. Even in the face of death, you should be the person with low emotional intelligence and stick to your own ideas. People live all their lives, and before they are 100 years old, they should be truly thoughtful. Even if this view is wrong, so what, at the moment of persistence, you have won? Name before and after death? .

Shakespeare said: To be or not to be is a question.

But this is not a problem. I think it is more important to stick to yourself than to survive.

Terry is as lonely as a person is, as long as he lives comfortably.

Life is not given by others. There is no need to hurt yourself and make others happy. Many people with high emotional intelligence are actually wasting other people's time, making everyone happy and thinking that they are very capable, but they are actually wasting their time.

Powerful people always have the opposite idea to most people. Why do many people think that Wang Jianlin's sentence: Set yourself a small goal and earn a hundred million first? Like a joke.

I once heard a joke: people with a monthly salary of 50 thousand want to talk to customers again tomorrow night; People with a monthly salary of 30 thousand want to go to a group building with the team tomorrow night; I want to change a comfortable house the next night, with a monthly salary of 1000, and I want to sit comfortably in Ferrari or GTR at night, with a monthly salary of 3000. Monthly salary 1000 in the evening, thinking about the oil problems in Russia and the Middle East, where can I earn money?

A person's thoughts determine a person's future. Without thought, there is no future. Too much flattery can only make you live as another person and lose yourself, but there is no need for a second him in the world, so it can only be a tragedy.

Down-to-earth, think more about yourself, worry less about others, and work less for interpersonal relationships. In fact, powerful people are not bad friends, even if they say that their emotional intelligence is not high every day, they can be forgiven.

On the contrary, if your ability is not good, even if your emotional intelligence is high, you will eventually be the first person to be easily abandoned.