Do you think you can still be friends after a failed confession?

Hello. My answer is that we can be friends. Failure in confession means that you can't be a lover, but it doesn't prevent you from being a friend.

First, figure out what it feels like to admit defeat. Failure in confession means that the other person doesn't like you now, which will increase the difficulty of pursuing, because the other person will be wary of you, and whatever you do has a purpose. But it doesn't mean that there is no hope at all, because people's attitudes will change. Just because they don't like you now doesn't mean they won't in the future, just like many people swear to break up and finally make up. People's attitude will be influenced by many factors. Therefore, it is not recommended that blind confession is true, but if it is true, it will not be so desperate.

Then, being friends after confession is not a requirement, but a manifestation of oneself. Some people will ask each other if they can still be friends after their confession fails, and the other party agrees. As a result, after a few days, he felt that the other person's attitude was relatively cold, so he asked: Didn't you say that you can be friends? Embarrassed with each other, I don't know how to get along with you, and finally I get more and more stiff. In fact, you wouldn't say such inexplicable things to your real friends. Cold is cold. You will contact them later. However, you are so sensitive, but you expose your thoughts and put pressure on the other side. Naturally, it is difficult to get along normally.

Therefore, if you want to be friends with others, the most sad thing is yourself. You should adjust your mentality, convince yourself to accept this relationship with your friends, and be prepared for a protracted war. You can reduce the frequency of contact in the early stage, especially when you are in a sensitive period after being rejected and the other party is embarrassed. Don't make unnecessary contact and temptation, let alone deliberately talk about topics such as being friends. Then after a period of time, find a topic that the other party may be interested in, talk briefly and convey your relaxed attitude. After that, don't keep in touch too often, wait for the other party to intervene, and then increase the contact frequency appropriately. When the contact between two people can be stable, they can become happy friends.

Personal experience.

Confess to a girl, the girl says she already has someone she likes, and the girl says thank you for my liking, but we are not suitable, and personality and other aspects are not suitable. Then advised me not to have psychological pressure and burden, saying that we can still be close colleagues and friends, but boyfriend and girlfriend are impossible. I thought I could be friends and face her calmly, but I felt embarrassed to death when I went to work the next day. I was very unhappy to see her talking and laughing with other men. Her attitude towards me is still the same as before, talking and laughing (in fact, she is like this to everyone). Then I slowly adjusted my role. Get along with her in another way. Now the relationship with each other is also quite good.

Confession can ruin a friendship, but if it is mastered well, it will make it more pure. You know, the highest realm of love life is tolerance, and the highest realm of getting along is respect. Anyway, we should be grateful for this experience.