The work was squeezed out by colleagues.

The work was squeezed out by colleagues.

No one is perfect, because it is impossible to be liked by everyone. Even if you are strong, but hated by most people, it is really on your own "strength." It is normal to be excluded and isolated in the workplace. So how can we not be squeezed out by colleagues at work?

Work is crowded out by colleagues 1 1: adjust your mind, relax your mind and don't care too much. If an old employee often bullies you and asks you to do some of his work, you can refuse him directly. In the workplace, learn to say no, otherwise others will think you are willing and misunderstand you. At the same time, after a long time, he will think that this is what you should do. At work, you should show your work attitude and your bottom line, and you can't always be told what to do.

Two: Correct attitude and make yourself tough. It's normal to be bullied when you first arrive at the company, but at the same time, you should have a correct attitude and don't look bullied. If you are bullied by others all the time, others will think you are easy to bully, so if you want to make yourself stronger, improve your work ability and let your work performance speak for itself, no one will dare to bully you.

Three: If the job is too small for you, quit. So jump out of this environment, it makes you feel uncomfortable, so you should jump quickly and let yourself go back to other good places. At the same time, we should also pay attention to why we are bullied and excluded by others and adjust ourselves. What problems may we have ourselves? Right? You should be brave, too. It may be better to change the working environment.

First of all, I want to say that if you are excluded from your job, it means that you are jealous of others, so what you have to do at this time is to leave it alone. Patience is the best way.

In addition, it is normal for newcomers to be bullied by colleagues in the early stage. Old people always bully new people. But it changes when you get familiar with it.

Another point is that when others are jealous of you, you should not only be patient, but also learn to fight for it and do your job well, which has been recognized by the leaders. If you get promoted, you can directly get rid of those who give you hard shoes.

Finally, if you are from blx and can't stand the pressure, just quit and leave. Choose a company with a good corporate culture that suits you.

Work is crowded out by colleagues. There is a particularly interesting sentence on the Internet. It says, "What unites two women is the common enemy."

This is especially true in the workplace. Faced with heavy workload, the authority of leaders, the competition of colleagues and numerous tests, their sense of self-efficacy may be deprived for countless reasons, which may be the work that they can never finish, the performance that they can never meet the standards, the work that they can always satisfy their leaders, or the bonus that others get more than themselves at the end of the year. ...

All this will make them feel "I am not good enough", which is often contradictory to self-knowledge.

In fact, everyone will have a sense of "protagonist" in self-cognition. Even those who look humble or even inferior at ordinary times have an instinct to pursue Excellence.

That's why it is so hard for people to accept when they find that they are not good enough to face and admit that this is their own problem.

That's why they need an enemy and a goal, so that they can project this bad mood on others and tell themselves that it's not my fault, but someone else's fault.

So who will they project these bad emotions to?

Must be a better person? Not necessarily.

You can recall that when you were at school, there must be some good-looking students in your class, but they were very popular.

Not to mention being excluded, many people often become the center of the crowd and the man of the hour in the school.

In fact, it will be rejected by the group, which is not wrong or excellent, but different from them.

Because only in this way can we maintain the legitimacy of their inner self-evaluation, let them warm up, make themselves the majority and increase their sense of security.

In most jobs, interpersonal relationship handling is an important core competence, and the quality of interpersonal relationship handling even directly affects promotion and salary increase. Even if the business is done well, interpersonal relationship will still become a hurdle in our upward channel.

Excellence is not your fault. Don't let other people's mistakes hinder your growth.

Being isolated means they can't do anything about you. They are poor people, snuggling up to each other.

So don't stop yourself from getting better. There is actually a tipping point on the way to getting better. Before that, you were a little stronger than them. After that, you are the "resource body" that they can't wait to get close to.

As Bo Huang said, "I used to meet all kinds of people and all kinds of careful machines, but when you are strong enough, you will find that you are surrounded by good people, and everyone is smiling."

Let's go back to the beginning of the story. In fact, this classmate's present situation seems to be passive, but it is not completely helpless. After all, the relationship between colleagues is dynamic, and the people who crowd you out are actually plastic friendships.

Today, Sister V will teach you a strategy that can help you get rid of this passive situation, that is, "Sunshine Rabbit, dress up as a pig and eat a tiger".

First, we want sunshine. High cold will only further widen the distance between you and everyone and aggravate the hostility in others' hearts.

The reason why others think you are different is probably because they don't know you well enough, so they unilaterally "label" you.

In the recent popular variety show "Wife's Travel", Miriam Yeung's husband Ding Zigao talked about how he likes Miriam Yeung.

He said that he actually hated Miriam Yeung at first, because when they first met, Miriam Yeung was already a big star, and he was not famous yet, so he felt that Miriam Yeung didn't even look at himself when he walked in front of him, and he felt that this person was so annoying and dragging.

But then he had a chance to talk with Miriam Yeung for a long time, and he found that Miriam Yeung was not what he imagined at all, but very approachable and charming.

So try to be sunny and kind, and give others more opportunities to know themselves. The more we keep our distance, the more groundless speculation there will be.

The second is to learn to play the harmless white rabbit.

You should make your colleagues think that you are not only harmless, but also cute.

How to make others feel harmless?

If the situation of being excluded really makes you uncomfortable, and your leader is a reasonable person, you might as well take advantage of his strength.

You can talk to the leader privately about your current predicament and say that you feel that you have not only failed to form an effective incentive for everyone, but have become a common enemy.

Tell the leader that I really need the approval and encouragement of the leader, so that I can know what kind of efforts are right, but if possible, I will increase the frequency of reporting to the leader in private, hoping that the leader can give more encouragement in private and even criticize it in public several times.

If you want to be more black-bellied, you can also suggest that leaders praise KOL more in bullying groups, which will be very effective in disintegrating small groups.

What makes people feel cute next?

Not by selling cute, but by actively suggesting that you are similar to them, because people love themselves the most and have the most common ground.

You can pay more attention to their circle of friends, take the initiative to talk about some common topics, find some points that they are very interested in as the starting point of conversation, and even provide them with some information they need in life.

For example, if there are children going to school at home, you can say what the district school where one of your sister's children goes to school is like. The procedure seems complicated. Ask your sister in detail later.

For example, if you like to follow the drama, you can talk about what drama you have seen recently. There is a star who plays it very well. Of course, this star is her idol that you saw from her circle of friends before.

Pay attention not to try to join the "group chat" directly at first, but to break it one by one and establish personal relationships one by one, so that the chances of success will be greater.

Finally, to give you a brief summary, the reason why we are excluded from the workplace and encounter cold violence is not because we are excellent, but because people in the workplace naturally need to keep warm and find an imaginary enemy who feels different from themselves as the target of emotional projection.

To reverse this situation, we must learn the strategy of "sunshine rabbit, pretending to be a pig and eating a tiger", take the initiative to break each other, narrow the distance, hint at common ground and show harmlessness.

Work is crowded out by colleagues. 3. Do your own work well, and don't worry about others.

Often, the important reason why newcomers in the workplace suffer is that they are too curious and curious about things other than work. Obviously, things that they shouldn't be responsible for have to be taken care of in the past, and even harm the interests of the old employees, so the old employees will crowd you out and target you. Therefore, we must be "independent" in our work.

Be careful what you say to your colleagues, and don't talk about others behind their backs.

Another important reason why newcomers make mistakes is that they don't know what to say and what not to say. Especially some little girls, like to speak ill of the old employees of the company behind their backs. You know, there is no windtight wall in the world, and the company is so big. If you slander your colleague behind his back, he will know sooner or later.

Don't let your ambition be too obvious and easily marginalized.

Many people show their ambitions when they first enter the company. Maybe the boss will appreciate you, but as for your colleagues, quite a few of them are in competition with you. If you are too obvious and want to get ahead, it's hard not to let your colleagues crowd you out.

Don't put emotions on your face, smile at people.

What should I do if I am bullied at work? There must be colleagues you hate in the company. At this time, you must not put your emotions on your face, or you will tell others that you are a straightforward person and easy to deal with. You must learn theft well in the workplace, otherwise you will be a great colleague in the workplace.

Don't let people lead you, do things seriously.

Another situation of being bullied at work is that you are caught by someone. In this way, you must make way for your colleagues either explicitly or implicitly. Even if he bullied me, I dare not get angry. Therefore, we must be serious in doing things at ordinary times, be aboveboard in dealing with people, and don't let the villain take advantage of it.

If you feel that forbearance is not worth it, then leave smartly.

Sometimes our forbearance is worthwhile, except that our colleagues are not strong, the company's treatment and the boss's way of treating employees are OK, so we can choose to be patient at this time. But if the company is not so good, there is no need to suppress yourself. You must be happy in your work, or you will break down even if you can get a few dollars to support your family. So what?