Why do men "cheat"? Is it because of freshness? You will know after listening to a man's heart.

After years of marriage, men betray their families. Why?

There are many reasons. It doesn't mean that a man can love a woman for life as long as he chooses to marry her.

After all, everything is changing, not to mention the relationship between husband and wife When passion fades, men's boredom with women will also appear.

"Cheating" is not so much an unexpected thing as the result of men liking the new and hating the old.

A male reader backstage left me a message and told his story:

My wife and I have been married for six years, and my son is three years old.

At that time, my wife and I didn't have any feelings, but we felt that we were old and should find someone to live with.

Life after marriage is neither salty nor light, but there are also many contradictions and problems.

For example, the wife is too thrifty, always wordy, does not like to do housework, and it is difficult for the family to communicate. ...

In the days when we were arguing endlessly, I met Xiaofeng.

At first, I just "adjusted my life" with a playful attitude.

Then, after a long-term contact and close relationship with Xiaofeng, I found that we "hit it off". Only by staying together can there be many languages.

I think Xiaofeng is my true love. Although she divorced because of domestic violence or even miscarriage, I didn't mind at all, just felt sorry for her and didn't find anything to protect her.

I'm afraid I want to be with Xiaofeng urgently, but considering the children under three years old at home, I dare not divorce.

In this regard, I am very contradictory and painful now.

For this reader's letter, firstly, don't criticize him morally.

Imagine: the reader hasn't thought about what he wants yet.

Since there is no love with my wife, why did you come together in the first place? Since I can't bear to part with my children, why betray my family?

This should not be a mature man's practice. Because such behavior has no sense of responsibility at all, let alone what love is.

Is this reader's behavior an example?

I don't think so.

Today, marital infidelity is very common. Although he made a promise when he got married, a man could not resist the temptation of the outside world and betrayed his family.

In reality, there are far more derailed and out-of-control love than we think.

However, it is ridiculous that many men feel that they cheated because of true love.

An extramarital affair happened because the two were inseparable and their souls were in harmony.

But the question is: will "cheating" really meet true love?

Let's have a serious discussion with you today.

First of all, let me express my personal opinion: betrayal is not love.

Because marriage is legally recognized, extramarital affairs are a breakthrough in morality and law.

There are always men who will find various excuses to excuse themselves: they have no feelings for their wives, just want to get rid of loneliness, but they are impulsive. ...

These excuses are just the "promiscuity" of the man shattered glass. Betrayal is betrayal, there is no need to take it for granted.

A female reader once described her husband's "deeds" like this:

My husband and I were married for a year, and he betrayed me. After I knew it, he said that that woman was his true love, and he wanted to marry me and be with that woman.

I agreed.

After all, I have my own ideas, and I can't stand a man saying he loves another woman in front of me.

After the divorce, he complained to the woman, but after he had nothing, the woman left him without nostalgia.

He was very sad.

In this regard, I feel that true love is a joke.

Love when you say it, and turn your face when you say it.

Perhaps this is the attribution of "derailment".

As adults, we should have distinguished the relationship between interests and feelings long ago, and we should also draw a clear line between them, not confuse them.

The trivial things behind the derailment are not much more noble than the trivial things in marriage.

Cheating and meeting true love is the most humorous "cold joke".

In psychology, true love consists of three factors: passion, intimacy and commitment.

Both are indispensable. Therefore, whenever a man thinks he has met true love, consider whether these three factors exist in your relationship.

Never take physical impulse as a combination of love.

Before, I saw a post:

I am 28 years old and have two children. I fell in love with my colleagues in the company.

The client and his wife have been married for many years, and after giving birth to the child, his wife is somewhat indifferent.

As a normal man, he has normal needs and will inevitably find opportunities for himself to satisfy his own selfish desires.

When he was extremely loveless, he fell in love with a beautiful young female colleague.

With his female colleagues, he can find his long-lost passion in marriage.

To this end, he feels that his female colleague is his true love and wants to divorce his wife.

Do you think this will make people angry?

This is not love at all, but desire.

Of course, the most appropriate statement is that the desire for a young body is regarded as true love.

This will be a misleading fallacy. Men talk about true love and think that extramarital affairs are the destination.

But how long can this passion last? A married wife can't bind a man, let alone a passionate third party.

There is never a shortage of beautiful young women in this society. If a man falls in love at first sight, then he will have countless thoughts and behaviors to pursue "true love".

In the final analysis, this is the nature of men: always making excuses for their mistakes, but never reflecting on their contempt for morality.

Cheating can't save men's hearts, because they are always divorced and always looking for a feeling that makes them feel comfortable.

Fantasy is fantasy after all. When everything is fine, men will find that extramarital affairs are poison and marriage is the ruins of mistakes.

The reason why extramarital affairs look beautiful is not because they love each other passionately.

But because men and women only want what they want, they disguise their feelings, try their best to hide the bad side and show only the good side to each other. Such as young body, burning desire.

These are all illusions of our moths.

Even so, men will risk their lives and put themselves in hot water.

In fact, when the passion dissipates, extramarital affairs will not bring us happiness in the end.

Because a man loses his family and the trust of his relatives, and even, in the end, a third party will abandon him because of his predicament.

In this world, beauty is always just, not against morality.

Therefore, the derailed "love" will not have a good end. Because marriage is never equal to love, the essence of marriage is responsibility, and "derailment" is just desire.

If you can, I hope you don't fall into the whirlpool of extramarital affairs. Okay, then.

Xiao Yuan's message: Extramarital affairs are not true love.

When you betray your family and try to cheat, you are doomed to have deviated from the right direction.

Don't treat people's hearts too simply, and don't treat true love too cheaply. Do you think that men and women without any emotional foundation can be together only by impulsive passion?

This is just a joke.

Whether in the past or now. There have always been cases of betraying families, but there are few happy endings.

Don't try anything that will make you happy in the short term. After all, happiness needs to be cultivated, especially in marriage.

In the rest of your life, I wish you love, expect and find your true love in this troubled world. * * * Encourage!

Topic: Do you think "cheating" will meet true love?