The strong are too lazy to be proud, and ordinary people are not qualified to be modest.

Some people think that proud people are not easy to learn, and only modest people are eager to learn, so modesty makes people progress. But the reality is that most people around us are modest, but they have not seen much progress. And proud people are definitely not easy to learn? Why are there so many proud and successful people in history?

In fact, pride can be divided into external form and internal drive. Many successful people don't look proud, but they all have a proud heart.

When Bill Gates modestly tells others that he still has a lot to learn, they will think that he is noble and great. When Andy Lau smiles and says "You are better than me" to the young actor, the other person will think that he is really modest.

However, if it has not reached the level of audience affirmation, modesty is worthless.

Most of the strong are too lazy to be proud. But what happens when they are proud? Generally, there are two camps: some people will admire them and some people will hate them. But some powerful people don't care, because they know there is no need to please everyone.

Soju is a hero. When Cao Cao invited Liu Bei to drink, he asked Liu Bei who was his contemporary hero. Liu Bei is the first hero in the world. Cao Cao thought it was worse. Finally, Cao Cao said, "As far as heroes in the world are concerned, there are only Shi Juner and me." Call yourself a hero. Is Cao Cao modest or proud?

Li Ao, a famous writer and historian in Taiwan Province, is a controversial figure. He opposes "Taiwan independence" and supports cross-strait reunification. He had a charming life and called himself "the first person in China vernacular". What impressed me most was his arrogant quotations, such as "I have two great regrets in my life: First, I can't find such an excellent person as Li Ao as my friend; Second, I can't sit under the stage and listen to Li Ao's wonderful speech. " "I never worship idols. If I really want to worship idols ... I will look in the mirror! " It is said that he was never modest from middle school until his death.

Trump is a unique landscape in the United States. He often makes wonderful decisions and often makes shocking remarks. Regardless of his merits and demerits, success or failure, as far as his character is concerned, his greatest feature is pride. Before, during and after he became president, he always boasted about his ideas. It is such a person who does not know how to be modest, but constantly demands progress, reaching a height that many people can't reach. Although many people don't like him, he also has many die-hard fans.

When Xiao He introduced Han Xin to Liu Bang, Liu Bang arranged chores for Han Xin. But Han Xin didn't. He explained to Liu Bang: "If he wants to do it, he should be the commander-in-chief of the three armed forces, otherwise he is not interested." Liu bang thought he was reliable and agreed. After all, Han Xin used to be a soldier under Xiang Yu and had actual combat experience. But another person is more arrogant than him.

In Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Liu Bei went to recruit a farmer. The farmer was only in his twenties. He has never fought a war and has no work experience, but he compares himself to Guan Zhong and Le Yi. Guan Zhong is known as "the first phase of China". Why did he dare to compare himself with Guan Zhong? Because he knows that modesty is equal to missing the opportunity to be a strategist.

In enterprises competing for jobs, proud people often take the upper position, while modest people foolishly give way.

Proud people are mainly divided into two factions: the ostentatious and expressionism. Show off more directly, pay attention to praise yourself directly: I or my things are very good (excellent, powerful, advanced, etc.) ). Expressionism is indirect, generally does not praise himself directly, but focuses on proving his ability through specific actions or things, so that others can evaluate the effect and level of what he does.

Generally speaking, if someone tells you that he is humorous, you will think that he is showing off and choose not to believe it. If someone tells you a humorous joke directly and makes you lean forward and lean back, you will naturally find him humorous. When you say to him, "You are so funny!" He might smile and answer, "Thank you." You won't think he is modest, let alone arrogant, but you will vaguely feel the confidence and charm of the other party, which actually stems from his pride in his bones.

Powerful people are essentially arrogant people, but the external performance is often modest in words and deeds and positive in action, which belongs to expressionism. Of course, they can also show off directly, but they may lose some fans.

If ordinary people have a proud heart, they will make rapid progress and become stronger easily. But before you become a strong man, if you choose the wrong expression of pride, someone may remind him: "Pride makes people fall behind."