A joke about giving a bride price to my father-in-law before marriage.

Those who are stunned by the ceremony must be consistent with their second surnames. The upper one is a temple, and the lower one is a successor, so the gentleman values it. Therefore, the host feasts in the temple, but obeys the door, enters, lets go, rises, and obeys the orders of the temple, so it is unconscious to be respectful and cautious. ? Book of rites A chaotic ceremony

Bridal price is one of the traditional wedding customs in China. When the marriage agreement was first reached, it was a custom to exchange betrothal money and bride price. The bride price and bride price here are what we commonly call? Bridal gift? .

The bride price culture is a traditional culture in China, and it also shows a strong national tradition. However, due to the increasingly distorted form of bride price, bride price has been criticized by the society, especially the situation of sky-high bride price, which not only caused a lot of disputes but also disrupted the order in rural areas, and the comparison of high bride price seriously damaged the social atmosphere.

? A sky-high bride price? It is a courtesy and a folk custom to scare away the bride price of the proposed son-in-law. Because of the inheritance from ancient times to the present, we can continue to inherit, but the bride price needs to be measured. If you overdo it, it will become? A sky-high bride price? . There is a variety show now. One? A sky-high bride price? The topic triggered a hot discussion among netizens.

Jin Sheng, the hero of the story, and his girlfriend Xiao Bai are in free love. They get along very well, and each thinks the other is the right person in his heart. With the deepening of feelings, it has reached the point of talking about marriage. Jinsheng is going to propose to his girlfriend and marry his beloved girl home. Originally, they all came together naturally. Unexpectedly, Jinsheng suffered a blow.

When Jinsheng went to his girlfriend's house to propose marriage, he talked about their marriage, but his mother-in-law's request surprised him.

When the mother-in-law opened her mouth, she actually asked for 6.5438+0 million bride price money. In an instant, Jinsheng almost collapsed.

Jin Shengsheng was born in an ordinary family. He is an office worker himself. He only has a limited salary a month, and his personal savings are not much. One million is almost an astronomical figure for him, and his heart even begins to retreat. Recalling the scene at that time, Jinsheng's voice choked.

Jinsheng also tried to bargain with his girlfriend's mother, but the future mother-in-law didn't give in at all. Considering the feelings with his girlfriend, Jinsheng can only fight all this by himself.

Jinsheng went home to discuss with his parents and relatives and tried to borrow money to make up the bride price, but after all, 654.38+00,000 was not a small sum, and the family only made up 300,000. Jinsheng had no choice but to talk to his mother-in-law with this 300,000 yuan. Seeing the young man's efforts, considering that 654.38+00,000 yuan may be really difficult to get together in a short time, she let go and agreed to hold the wedding first, but it didn't end.

On the wedding day, her mother-in-law asked Jinsheng to slowly pay off the remaining 700,000 after marriage. Faced with such a request, Jinsheng completely collapsed. At this point, Jinsheng has neglected his feelings with his girlfriend. He told his mother-in-law directly and frankly that he had no money to get married and didn't want to get married. It was a good wedding, but it got nothing in the end.

Seeing that the conversation between Jinsheng and his mother failed, Xiaobai began to beg his mother not to be so aggressive and begged her to agree to marry Jinsheng. But even though Xiaobai cried for her mother, her mother still refused to compromise.

Finally, in the face of the husband and wife's pleading, it was also seen that Jinsheng could only come up with 300,000 bride price, and there was nothing he could do. Xiaobai's mother softened her attitude and agreed to their marriage. The two were also engaged and began to prepare for the wedding.

However, this episode before marriage will undoubtedly be a direct gap between Jinsheng and his girlfriend and mother-in-law. What will be the relationship between the two families in the future? There is no doubt that a big question mark will be drawn.

A sky-high bride price? Leftover man? I can't afford the bride price, which represents a man's sincere attitude of seeking a wife like a treasure, and is also a thank-you to his parents-in-law for raising a good daughter. However, with the development of social economy, the bride price is not limited to the form, and the bride price money is rising, which not only makes many wedding banquets become bulk meals, but also makes many? Leftover man? I have no money to get married.

Some people say that the bride price reflects the importance that the man's family attaches to the woman. High bride price, high status eyebrow? . The bride price is considered as a yardstick to measure the bride, and the high bride price shows that the bride's position in the eyes of her husband's family is extraordinary. Moreover, it also brought great satisfaction to the vanity of her family.

In the early years, the bride price in our mind was:

Unique ... it takes ten thousand years to find.

San Jia yi fa

Sound-headed

Shun shun fa fa

make a fortune

Perfect in every respect/aspect.

The bride price is more about getting a good bride price and how much to give according to the situation of the two families.

But now:

Colorful green

Three catties and three Liang

Don't move.

Faced with this figure, as an ordinary working class? Leftover man? Son, I really don't have the courage to get married.

Marriage is not a transaction. In marriage, it is dignity to strive for and enjoy due rights and interests.

The sky-high bride price is the product of the comparison of luxury goods in recent years, and many families are facing the situation of swallowing their teeth. No matter what family, it's all about getting married. Gold and silver jewelry can only be regarded as an ornament now. New houses and new cars are also a standard, and millions of bride price money is really amazing.

Sky-high bride price is very common now, especially in poor rural areas. On the contrary, the bride price has risen, making the already poor people worse.

From a national perspective, there are also great differences in different regions. In Gansu, the bride price generally ranges from 50,000 to 200,000 yuan, and in Shandong and Hunan, it is about 654.38+10,000 yuan. In some rural areas of Henan, the starting price of engagement has reached 300,000.

After decades of hard work, I got married and returned to the poverty line.

Many families get married alone and the whole family is in debt. A wedding in the countryside has made many families? Look at it and sigh? . ? A sky-high bride price? Become an obstacle to marriage between men and women in rural areas.

For the sky-high bride price, it is essentially beyond the scope of marriage, more like buying and selling marriage. This is undoubtedly a bad habit, and it also defiles the sanctity and tranquility of marriage.

In view of this situation, in May 2020, the Ministry of Civil Affairs issued "Guiding Opinions on Piloting the Reform of Marriage Customs", demanding that unhealthy practices such as exorbitant bride price, extravagance and waste, vulgar marriage customs and comparing gifts be rectified, and a long-term mechanism to help the poor be established and improved, so as to promote the improvement of social atmosphere.

Help each other in the same boat, take responsibility, respect each other and care for each other.

This is the concept of marriage that we should advocate.