Speaking skills between husband and wife: cleverly criticize your lover

Speech skills between husband and wife: clever criticism of lover. People in love always see their lover perfectly, but when they enter the marriage hall, they find that some shortcomings of the other party are unacceptable to them. At this time, if you point it out directly, it is easy to hurt your lover's feelings, but if you endure not to say it, it is easy for dissatisfaction to accumulate day by day and eventually lead to bitter fruit.

Marriage is an art, and it needs wisdom to run it well. Smart people should learn to criticize in an appropriate way, which will not hurt each other's feelings, but also make them accept it and take the initiative to correct their shortcomings.

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A couple lived together for several years, and the husband found that his wife was careless in housework. On the contrary, my wife is more and more interested in watching TV, dancing and reading popular novels, and often spends a lot of time on her career.

One day, after dinner, the husband asked his wife, What are you going to do in the evening?

Watching TV, didn't you notice? The recent TV series is wonderful, and the ratings are quite high.

Really! So what do you do after watching TV?

Read novels. I haven't finished reading Zhang Xiaoxian's latest novel, but I want to write some recent thoughts.

Zhang Xiaoxian's books are very popular and sell well. Honey, after these things are done, can you do something for me?

Sure, what is it?

Honey, I'm going to a party tonight. Please prepare me a pair of socks without holes and a coat without buttons. Besides, don't forget to prepare a matching tie for me.

Hearing this, the wife smiled and ran to hold her husband and said, I'm sorry, husband. I will prepare it for you now.

This husband can be said to have mastered the speaking skills and used them very skillfully. He put out the embarrassing facts that happened in husband and wife's life in a euphemistic tone, and listed them vividly, which produced a comedy effect of humor and a little blame, which made his wife not feel harsh. She realized her usual omissions in family life and her husband's daily life and made up her mind to change herself.

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The wife asked her husband: Does my hairstyle look good?

The husband said coldly, I think that's it It can't get any worse. I've never seen anything worse.

The wife was a little unhappy, but she held back and didn't break out.

After a while, the wife asked her husband again, honey, do you think the clothes I just bought today are beautiful?

Why buy such tacky clothes? The price is still so expensive. Don't you know how to save some money?

The wife was angry and thought: you didn't earn the money to buy clothes. Now I don't spend money on clothes. Do you want to buy it when I am old? Angry outside, spill it on me when you go home. You can distribute it to anyone who annoys you.

My husband is watching TV in the living room with a loud volume. The wife came over and whispered to her husband, go to bed early, because I have to work tomorrow. Otherwise, you can turn down the volume and let the children go to bed early.

The husband raised his voice and said savagely, sleeping late for a while won't kill you!

The pent-up anger of his wife finally broke out. Even if you have the ability to point out that other people's views are wrong, you should choose euphemistic ways to express them gracefully. You have no right to ignore anyone's opinion, or even to be sentenced to death, even those closest to you. Doing so will only lead to disharmony in your family and hurt the feelings of husband and wife.

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Everyone has shortcomings, and everyone is bound to make mistakes. In daily life, in the face of the shortcomings or mistakes of a husband or wife, well-meaning satire is more likely to get good results than direct criticism. Being criticized is a very painful thing. If we don't pay attention to the method of criticism, the consequences will be less optimistic.

How can I criticize my lover and make him (her) accept it willingly? As a critic, you should try to avoid anger or other emotional reactions and express your views in a calm, relaxed and friendly tone.

Your criticism should point to his or her specific behavior, not his or her personality characteristics. More importantly, when you criticize each other, let them know that you love him (her) rather than hate him (her). You point out each other's shortcomings and urge them to correct them in time, which may destroy the sweet atmosphere for a while, but in the end, it is to make the future life more tacit, mature and happy.

No matter what facts or evidence you have to support your condemnation, the right thing to do is to give you a chance to state your views. If your views are very different from each other in some respects, you should know more about it.

Both husband and wife hope to adopt an open dialogue when criticizing, and both critics and criticized hope to put aside control and create an equal communication atmosphere between the two sides; However, the critic should have a little control over the whole process of the dialogue, otherwise the ideal effect will not be achieved. Once you break the rules, critics will seize every opportunity to put you on the defensive. In other words, if you don't control it, he or she will control you.

Criticism is different from praise, so it is not easy to be accepted, because it involves a person's psychology, self-esteem, mentality and many other aspects, and there are many things that lead to misunderstanding and even disgust because of not paying attention to strategies when speaking. However, expressing your criticism with well-meaning irony and clever words can not only make your husband or wife easy to accept, but also make him or her love you more after smiling.

Try this: in the process of criticism, add some vivid metaphors, exaggerated expressions and close puns. This can alleviate the tension and rigidity brought by criticism to a certain extent, on the one hand, it can inspire the criticized to think; Secondly, it can also enhance the emotional blending of both sides invisibly and create a relaxed and happy atmosphere.

Husband and wife communication skills: often praise your lover.

Husband and wife communication skills: often praise your lover. Marriage needs praise. You can say: honey, your new hairstyle today is really handsome! Or: Wife, you are so beautiful today! As long as you often praise each other sincerely, I believe you will soon find out how happy a marriage is to be full of praise all the time! How happy I am!

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Lily and Zhou Zhou went to the suburbs to celebrate their seventh wedding anniversary. Lily, who has been crazy for a long time, is very happy. She suggested that Da Zhou stay in the suburbs for one night and continue playing the next day. Zhou said: The weather forecast says it will snow at night. If we stay here, we can't go back in case the road is blocked by heavy snow.

Lily looked at the cloudless sky in Wan Li and said with a smile, How can the weather forecast be so accurate? Look, isn't the weather very good now? But Da Zhou insisted on going back, so Lily had to agree. It really began to snow when they got home.

Lily said admiringly to Zhou: My husband is still far-sighted! But for the snow, we would have difficulty coming back.

Da Zhou listened, with a very comfortable smile on his face.

Praise is the best preservative for marriage, which can keep your marriage and love unchanged for ten, twenty or even a lifetime.

If the husband's performance is 100, then a smart wife will be regarded as 120; If the husband's performance in individual cases is only 80 points or barely qualified, the wife should try her best to comfort or avoid talking about it. So you don't have to worry that your husband doesn't have time to accompany you, because you make him want to be with you.

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When the wife came home, she complained to her husband: You see that Zhang Wen next door has been promoted to deputy director. What about you?

Why are you so timid?

Yes, I admit that I am an incompetent person. The husband said a little angrily.

You are so disappointing that you will never develop. It's bad luck to follow you, coward! The wife got angry and stopped fighting.

You are so unreasonable! It's unbearable to pester my husband, clap the table and scold loudly.

Praise your husband's advantages, praise his advantages, and don't compare his shortcomings with those of other men. Everyone has his own advantages and disadvantages. No one is perfect. We must realize this and learn to accept the reality.

If you want your husband to change in some places, then give up complaining, learn to change him with praise, let him feel your love for him from praise, and he will make progress to repay your love.

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Both husband and wife are very concerned about their lover's evaluation. Praise from the lover will make them happy and confident, because it means that the lover appreciates and affirms himself.

Women believe in their feelings, and they are used to confirming their position in their lover's mind in the form that they can feel with their eyes and ears. Therefore, praising your wife often produces special effects, which is also a manifestation of love.

A woman will regard her husband's praise for herself as the embodiment of her inner value and charm. If a man doesn't praise her, she thinks that the other person doesn't care about himself. In that case, is it necessary to continue living?

Of course, praise can't be false flattery, it must be relaxed and relaxed. The key is to enlarge the advantages and minimize the disadvantages of the lover, so that it can be justified and there will be no exaggeration. For example, my wife's skin is really good, so I praise it. My wife's ability to handle affairs is very strong, and she can also spend more saliva to praise.

The following are 8 sentences summarized by netizens that women love to listen to men. Although it looks simple, it will be a very effective weapon if used properly.

You look so charming! After listening to such praise, there is no woman who will not be tempted, because the praise of her lover proves her charm. This will also convince the wife that she is still deeply loved by her husband.

You are my best friend. This sentence conveys a message to her that she is not only an ideal partner in your heart, but also a good friend who can share joys and sorrows and tell each other what she wants. This will make her feel very proud.

You made my life complete. This sentence clearly tells your wife that she is the only one in your life, which is what all women want to hear from the people who love her. It means that she is very important and her husband needs her very much. After listening, she will be happy for several days in a row.

(4) You did a good job! A simple sentence will help your wife get rid of the feeling of shyness and depression and play a suggestive role: how excellent she is in your eyes. For her contribution, you see it in your eyes and love it in your heart.

(5) You are more beautiful than your girl friends. Comparing his wife with her peers in private and thinking that she is better is a kind of praise, which can greatly enhance her self-confidence. Besides making her feel good about herself, you can also make her realize how highly you think of her. When she gets along with the female companions around her, she will also reduce her sense of threat, perhaps to gain your further appreciation with better words and deeds.

(6) You are so clever! By acknowledging her cleverness, you send her a message that you not only recognize her appearance, but also her thoughts. This will make a woman feel extremely proud of the capital she has.

I want to spend my life with you. This is a very important sentence. Once a man speaks, his wife will be secretly happy.

You will be a good mother. Or you are a good mother. Most women have the trouble of being a good mother. What you said convinced her that she could successfully play the role of a good mother.

Someone once put forward a rule of successful love: women are always spoiled by men, and men are always praised by women!

This standard is very reasonable. Many people know that women like to hear compliments. In fact, men also like to be praised by women. However, when a man hears a compliment, he looks calmer and more serious than a woman, although his heart is full of joy. This reaction gives many women the illusion that men don't need to be praised. Therefore, a woman must not be stingy with her husband's praise. If you can say a few words of praise to your husband every day, it will be of great benefit to stabilize your relationship.

The following are 8 sentences summarized by netizens that men prefer to listen to women, which are worth learning by their wives: (1) You are so humorous! Men with a sense of humor are always welcome.

(2) You are really like a child! Children need to be spoiled. The wife's words let her husband know that she still loves her even if she makes some small mistakes occasionally. How can you be unhappy?

(3) Your nose is really beautiful! Picking out a beautiful part of a man to praise will make him feel very proud. In addition, there are some ambiguous hints about praising a certain part of his body, which adds a lot of interest to life.

(4) You are so smart! Men tend to be proud of their cleverness for a long time.

I like your hair. The luster (feel, color and taste) of your hair depends on the characteristics of your husband's hair. He has white hair, so you can say he looks sexy. Even if his hair is not much, you can say it's clean and fragrant!

(6) Your voice is really nice! Voice is a by-product of men's secondary sexual characteristics and a secret weapon of attractive women, so it is an enduring compliment to men.

Your breasts are really thick! Men don't have a, b, c and d standards, but after hearing your words, his hormone index must rise rapidly.

You are really capable! People often say: indomitable spirit is either human or demon. Men seem to be born excellent. Hearing your words, he will feel full of strength, so he has the responsibility to take care of you.

Speaking skills between husband and wife: it is better to speak correctly than to speak beautifully.

Speaking skills between husband and wife: it is better to speak correctly than to speak beautifully. From love to marriage, there will be much more trivial matters between two people. It takes a lot of energy and time to deal with these things. Only when husband and wife learn from each other and cooperate with each other can they do better.

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A couple have been married for more than ten years, and they have to send their parents living expenses every month. This matter has always been borne by the wife. But the wife sends 100 yuan to her parents and 50 yuan to her husband's family every month.

The husband has been very angry about this, but he doesn't want to be unhappy with his wife.

In the past, my husband got off work every day and did nothing. He always hugs his little son first and kisses him for a long time. But when he came home this day, he saw his youngest son crying in the rocking car, but pretended not to see or hear anything. He uncharacteristically walked up to his five-year-old daughter and picked her up.

The wife who was cooking turned and saw it. She quickly shouted, why don't you coax her son when he is crying like that?

The husband said unhurriedly, you'd better take this money from 50 yuan! I want to hold 100 yuan. My wife turned red when she heard this, and she sent 100 to her husband's family every month.

The clever husband humorously invited his wife into his preset translocation trap, without losing his principle. Instead of complaining at length, he implicitly hinted at the nature of the matter and his dissatisfaction, thus skillfully achieving the purpose of speaking.

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There is a young couple. One day, both parents came and everyone sat down to eat in a luxury hotel. During the dinner, the parents-in-law who are businessmen offered to buy a big house for their daughter and son-in-law, and each family offered100000. The man's family is a little embarrassed because it is an intellectual family with limited income.

The woman's father was dissatisfied with her in-laws, so he said to his son-in-law, Look at you, what's your future as a doctor? Why don't you go into business with me and earn hundreds of thousands of dollars a year?

After seeing off their parents, the young couple began to talk.

Husband said: tell your dad, don't tell me about studying business in the future, I don't want to hear it!

The wife said: My father is doing it for your own good. It's better for the old man to give you100000 to buy a house than your father.

Hearing this, the husband became even more unhappy and said, What's the big deal about your dad? He is just a nouveau riche!

So what if you have money? Without culture, you can only be a nouveau riche!

When his wife heard that he was attacking his parents, she was also very angry. She said, your family is good, you are so poor that you want to break a penny into two pieces.

When two people talk, the more they talk, the more they talk. The relationship between husband and wife is getting stiff.

Husband and wife come from different families and each family has a certain cultural background. People who grow up in an environment will be proud of this environment and instinctively resent the criticism of their families. In this case, the mistake of husband and wife lies in not respecting each other's family.

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Everyone has self-esteem and longs for others to respect him. So, don't hurt others' self-esteem at any time, even your closest lover.

Some people are very straightforward, especially when dealing with lovers. They always feel close and are used to saying whatever they want. When they say these hurtful words, they may not have any malice in many cases, sometimes even out of kindness, but it will inevitably make their lover sound a little poisonous, thus hurting each other's self-esteem.

Almost everyone has a fortress in his heart, and you need to hide your true self in it to feel safe, even if your lover is in front of you. However, your outspoken words have broken through this fortress and pulled out the place of life hidden inside. Being naked certainly makes people feel uncomfortable. How can I make the other person like you?

In most cases, the outspoken party only considers its own feelings, regardless of the other party's position, concept and personality. It's not good if your words are just a harmless joke, poking a sore spot on your lover, or putting him in an awkward position. You may be outspoken and careless, or you may get stuck in your throat and not spit. If it is the former, the lover knows that you are unintentional, so it is not easy to attack and can only be stuffy in your heart; If it is the latter, because you really hit the core, your lover has to activate the self-defense system, or fight back or hold a grudge. Therefore, no matter what kind of situation you call a spade a spade, it will make people unbearable, hinder your husband and wife relationship, and keep your lover away from you so as not to be accidentally hit by you.

Therefore, it is not necessary to speak correctly between husband and wife, but it must be said beautifully, because telling the truth may hurt the self-esteem of the lover, and speaking beautifully can make people willingly accept it.

The art of communication between husband and wife: husband and wife move people with emotion

The art of communication between husband and wife: couples are the most ruthless since ancient times. Facing the seven-year itch, aesthetic fatigue and the temptation of the world of flowers and flowers, it is a matter to discuss with Zicheng whether he can live and die. Holding your hand and growing old with your son test everyone's wisdom and feelings.

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At the beginning of the Yuan Dynasty, there was a female painter named Guan Daosheng, who was very talented and almost equal to her husband Zhao Mengfu. Zhao Meng employed a prosperous career, from an official to a bachelor's degree in the Imperial Academy. But once he succeeded, he became proud. He thought that his colleagues were not three wives and four concubines, only he was still guarding a flower. So he wanted to marry a concubine, but he was worried about Guan Daosheng's dissatisfaction. He wrote a song to test Guan Daosheng and see what she thought of his concubinage.

I am a bachelor and you are a wife. Don't you see that Wang has a peach leaf and a peach root, and Su has a cloud? It's not too much for me to marry more Wu Ji and Yue Nv. You are over forty years old, so occupy Yutangchun! It means that now that I have a bachelor's degree, you can see that neither Wang nor Su had one or two concubines. You are my first wife now, but you are over 40 years old and I am in the prime of life. Is it too much to take a few concubines?

Guan Daosheng felt sad when he saw it. He thought you said I wouldn't get married. Now that my years are gone, you like the new and hate the old. But Guan Daosheng is not an ordinary woman. She loves her husband and she doesn't want to share his love with other women. In order to save her husband's heart, she decided to impress him with her deep affection. So she also wrote a song to express her opinion: you are affectionate, affectionate and hot! Twist a piece of mud, be a you, be a me, break the two of us together, reconcile with water, twist another you, be another me, there is you in the mud and me in the mud; Born like you, died like you.

This song is gentle and euphemistic, comparing herself and her husband to clay figurines. You have me and I have you. The mutual affection between husband and wife for so many years has gone deep into the bone marrow and is inseparable, vividly expressing Guan Daosheng's loyalty to love. There is neither resentment nor begging for mercy in the song, but she touched her husband's heart with her deep affection. After reading this song, Zhao Mengpin was deeply moved and remembered the deep friendship between husband and wife, and never mentioned concubinage again.

Guan Daosheng is a brilliant and intelligent woman. She knows very well that if she makes a scene and doesn't allow her husband to take concubinage, even if her husband gives up concubinage, there will always be bad feelings in her heart, and the feelings between husband and wife can't be restored to their original sweetness. Therefore, she used this word to write her loyalty and affection for her husband, and saved her husband's heart with her wisdom.

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On the weekend night, the wife cooked a meal and waited for her husband to come back, and there was a burst of lively laughter from the neighbors. The wife feels more lonely. It's late at night, and she still hasn't seen her husband come back. It suddenly occurred to her what a good sister told her the other day. She said to her: Last weekend night, I saw your husband shopping with a young woman. You should watch your husband!

So she immediately called her husband, and no one answered! Call again. It's turned off. The wife is very unhappy. She couldn't stand her husband's infidelity any longer, so she left a few words for her husband who came home late or didn't: I knew you were itchy again tonight. Dead mice don't feel cold. You're hopeless. You can't live like this. You are relaxed and happy outside, leaving me alone. If I had known, I might as well go back to my parents' house and stay in this stupid house. I solemnly warn you: if you do this again, I will tell your parents that I don't believe it. I can't cure your problem, and neither can others. Then, I went to bed with tears on my sleeping wife's face.

The husband came back very late and found his wife asleep and tears on his face. He felt guilty and sorry for his wife, and secretly decided not to entangle with women outside. When he wanted to sleep, he saw the message left by his wife. He thought that his wife must have missed his sweet words, so he quickly took it and read it. Slowly, my husband's face became more and more ugly. He left the room, went to the living room, dialed the phone number of the woman, put on his coat and walked out of the house.

There was a rift in the relationship between husband and wife, and the husband came home late. His wife hoped that he would go home early, and even more hoped that he would change his mind. However, the wife's message is full of resentment and blame. Such sharp words will not only fail to achieve the expected effect, but will make her husband even more disgusted and make her go further and further on the road of betrayal.

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The softest things are often the sharpest, such as feelings in the world. When there is a crisis in the relationship between husband and wife, what can best resolve the crisis is emotion, and of course wisdom.

When there is a crisis in feelings, whether you can face it calmly and put yourself in the other's shoes has become the most critical issue. Smart people will take the following measures: (1) Wait and see. Whenever there is an emotional crisis, the most important thing is to calm down. Breaking the sand pot will lead to more serious situation. To give each other room to think, we should treat them with a generous attitude: husband and wife do not mean that they will break up. If they keep fighting or fighting because of something, it will only lead to a result that neither side wants.

(2) Throw a brick to attract jade. It is common for couples to quarrel in life, which is often caused by external factors, including stress, work mood, money and so on. And examples of successfully resolving contradictions are not uncommon. We might as well learn from other people's experience, list other people's good ideas and some bad examples, and let them know themselves again.

(3) Knock and drum. When you really find out what's wrong with the other party, it's even more important to deal with it coldly, because there are many complicated factors to consider. Maybe it's just a big misunderstanding, or it may be the other party's impulse. If handled well, we can not only save each other's dignity, but also save a complete home. At this time, you can't make a scene with each other. You can choose to have a serious talk with each other's parents and friends with good feelings, so as to achieve the best results and the other party can truly appreciate your tolerance and generosity.