How to educate a 9-year-old child at home

The education of 9-year-old children is often a big problem that puzzles parents at this age. Because children of this age are in a rebellious period, many children begin to disobey adults and like to do things. So what are the general family education for nine-year-old children? "Children change so much when they are 5 to 6 years old.

First of all, parents should know that the education of 9-year-old children includes physical, intellectual, moral and aesthetic aspects:

Physical education is the primary task of early education. Cultivate children's good living habits and independent living ability, and develop their basic movements, such as walking, running, jumping, crawling and crawling.

Wisdom: It is not important to impart profound scientific knowledge in early intellectual education. The key point is to develop children's intelligence, that is, to develop children's attention, observation, memory, thinking and imagination, as well as oral expression ability.

Morality: refers to the moral education for children. There are three factors in the formation of people's moral character, namely, their understanding of moral character, emotion and behavior. Preschool children's understanding of things is relatively low, and many abstract truths are incomprehensible. They can only understand relatively straightforward and simple standards of right and wrong, and can cultivate some initial behavior habits of treating people, such as politeness, kindness and honesty.

Beauty: refers to the aesthetic education of children. There are many natural phenomena and social phenomena in life that can make people feel beauty, and some art forms are the result of refining and sublimating these beautiful contents. Aesthetic education for children is to cultivate them to consciously experience the beauty in life, teach them the skills to express their feelings about beauty initially, and even create something. Things you don't know about children's growth

Secondly, how to educate a 9-year-old child?

(A) to cultivate children's excellent quality in the first place.

We believe that ideological quality education should be put in the first place, and the development of ideological morality should drive the development of other aspects. Cultivating children's ideological and moral character is mainly the education and cultivation of politeness, love and self-discipline.

1, the cultivation of civilized etiquette

2. Cultivation of love

3. The cultivation of self-discipline.

(B) seize the opportunity to do a good job in children's intellectual development.

According to scientists' research, a person's intelligence has developed to 90% ~ 90% before primary school, and then to 30% ~ 40% after 9 years old. In preschool children, 3 to 4 years old is the accelerated period of brain wave development and an important period of developing computing ability; 5 to 9 years old is the accelerated period of the development of logical thinking ability. Grasping the accelerated period of intellectual development and giving correct and timely education can effectively develop children's intelligence and improve IQ.

(3) Pay attention to the cultivation of children's self-care ability.

The cultivation of children's self-care ability is as important as children's intellectual development and moral education, which complement each other. Generally speaking, children with strong self-care ability have better ideological and moral quality and stronger learning ability.

Finally, Bian Xiao reminded parents that the environment around us, as well as people's behavior and language, have a profound impact on cultivating children's aesthetic feeling. Therefore, it is very important to beautify the kindergarten and family environment, and the manners, behaviors and clothes of adults are very important. ""Know some points that parents should pay attention to in the early stage of baby growth.

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With the development of gender awareness, the pride of children and their parents in this period has a sexual concept. Usually, boys prefer their mothers and girls prefer their fathers. In extreme cases, they will be hostile to each other because they want to monopolize their mother (father), showing "father-loving emotion" or "Oedipus emotion". "Children change so much when they are 5 to 6 years old.

Love for parents; Love for opposite sex parents; When a boy grows up to 4 years old, his feelings for his mother are no longer dependent on babies in the past, but romantic ideas like his father. He usually believes that he will marry his mother when he grows up. Because he knows that mom is the most important, caring and attractive woman in the world, although he doesn't understand what marriage is all about. At this stage, girls will also show their affection for their fathers.

In the development of children's gender identity, this kind of love for parents helps children to correctly understand their own gender and form normal feelings for the opposite sex. Children's understanding and attitude towards feelings and marriage will also be formed in this fantasy emotion in the future, which will affect their future marriage life. Things you don't know about children's growth

Complex feelings for same-sex parents; Children at this stage often have nightmares. It is hard to believe that this situation is probably caused by children's complex feelings for same-sex parents. For same-sex parents, they have love, envy and even fear. The child's love for the opposite sex parents makes him have such complicated feelings for the same sex parents.

Usually a boy loves his mother more than any little girl of the same age, but for his father, he is usually full of competition and awe. A boy can realize that his mother belongs to his father, so no matter how much he likes his father, he secretly hopes that his father will not go home one day. He envied his father very much, so he was jealous and resentful. After these terrible ideas flash, children will feel guilty about their own ideas.

Similarly, a girl's feelings for her mother are complicated. Sometimes she wants to monopolize her father, and the children will want her mother not to go home early. If she thinks that her mother has read her mind, she will feel scared.

The decline of possessiveness; Children's affection for their parents will not last long, nor will it be strong. By the time the child is 6 or 7 years old, he already knows that his father or mother can't be monopolized by himself. Sometimes the thought that his little thoughts were discovered by his same-sex parents will make him feel scared, and this fear will make him learn to avoid the close contact of his opposite-sex parents. When the father wants to kiss his daughter, the daughter will not accept it as readily as before, but push away the father, and the child will no longer have possessiveness to the opposite sex parents.

As time goes on, children begin to turn their interests to things that are not affected by personal feelings. Such as games, sports, reading, etc. They no longer regard their parents as the objects of imitation, but replace them with other children of the same sex.

What parents should do; If parents realize that their children are subconsciously disgusted and afraid of themselves, they don't have to show deliberate gentleness to their children, which may make your children even more disgusted. Don't deliberately alienate your spouse for the sake of your child's feelings, which will affect your child's judgment of the great image of your parents, and at the same time, you will feel more guilty and afraid because of your possessiveness of the opposite sex parents. ""Know some points that parents should pay attention to in the early stage of baby growth.

During this period, children's love for heterosexual parents is very strong, and every move of heterosexual parents will have great emotional fluctuations for children. Therefore, don't expose your body in front of your child, and don't take a bath with your child. Also prevent children from seeing you making out with your spouse in bed, which will cause great stimulation to children.

Parents should let their children know that it is not surprising that children have this idea, but parents are both sides and cannot be monopolized by children. If a child is rude to his parents because of jealousy, parents must insist on reasoning with the child, and at the same time, they must find ways to alleviate the child's anger and guilt.

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In the early stage, I paid more attention to the education of my baby as a child, but how should I educate my child at home when he is 5 to 6 years old? "Children change so much when they are 5 to 6 years old.

First of all, we must cultivate children's stable and optimistic mood. Because the emotions of children aged 4-5 years old have greatly developed compared with those before the age of 3, they still have the characteristics of changeability, infection, impulsiveness and exposure.

In view of these characteristics, parents should not only pay attention to cultivating children's stable and optimistic emotions, but also prevent and eliminate all kinds of bad emotions. Things you don't know about children's growth

(1) Meeting children's normal needs is the basis for keeping children in a good mood.

(2) Guide and control children's emotions. Children's emotions are easily infected by them, especially those of adults, which change rapidly. Therefore, parents should try to be cheerful, happy and optimistic at ordinary times. If the child is infected for a long time, it is easy to form a happy and optimistic mood. On the contrary, if parents are moping and sighing all day, children may have negative emotions such as pessimism and depression. If the child's mood fluctuates greatly and cries loudly, parents can use attractive toys or other beloved things to divert his attention and calm him down as soon as possible. However, this method should not be abused, otherwise it will not help children learn to control their emotional impulses. As parents, we should always educate our children and ask them to gradually learn to control their emotions.

(3) Prevent and overcome bad emotions. In the process of children's emotional development, there are often bad emotions such as fear, timidity and crying. These negative emotions should attract the attention of parents and help children overcome them.

Secondly, we should guide children in both directions and cultivate their kindness and kindness. As parents love their children, they should also educate their children to love their parents, let them know their parents' hard work in raising them, educate their children to think for their parents, take the initiative to help adults do what they can, and don't harm the interests of other family members in order to meet personal requirements. It is necessary to overcome the idea and practice of treating the only child as a "little sun" and let him know that people should understand each other, respect each other, love each other and help each other. We should make use of children's real life, combine education with love, and educate children randomly. For example, educate children to care for flowers, trees, birds and animals, and care for groups weaker than themselves. This not only cultivates children's awareness of environmental protection, but also helps to cultivate children's kindness and kindness of sympathy, care and consideration for others. Finally, we should sow the seeds of loving the motherland and hometown in children's hearts from an early age. Loving the motherland and hometown is one of the contents of children's emotional education. Only by passing on the deep feelings of our people to our children from generation to generation can we ensure that they will not worship foreign things and become the pillars of national construction when they grow up. First of all, the cultivation of children's patriotism should start from the side, teach children to love their parents, parents and kindergartens, and turn the abstract "motherland" into a concrete concept. Secondly, children's perceptual knowledge can be enriched in lively forms. For example, children can be educated by telling stories, watching TV, visiting memorial halls and using festivals (such as May Day and October 1st) to avoid empty preaching divorced from reality.