What should the daughter-in-law do if her mother-in-law doesn't help with the children?

I think the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will directly affect family harmony. In my family, mother and mother-in-law have a good relationship. Even if there are some differences, my mother-in-law will take the initiative to admit her mistake, and her mother-in-law will understand that we will get along well. Therefore, I think the most important thing to make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law harmonious is to do the following. First, don't complain to your mother-in-law that her husband is "useless". You may feel that some words are very painful in your heart, and you are very painful, but do you think your mother-in-law complains that her husband is "useless" and you will resonate? Then I can only say that you are really a stupid woman. You know, the man you keep saying "useless" is your mother-in-law's omnipotent son. She raised the child with a handful of shit and urine. Can she be happy that you speak ill of her son so openly? Put yourself in the other's shoes. If your husband keeps complaining about your shortcomings in front of your mother, your mother will definitely be unhappy. Even if this man is really useless, since he is so disdainful, why did you marry him? You chose it yourself at the beginning, but now it's cooked with uncooked rice. Do you think it's still useful to complain?

Second, don't talk about my mother and you. No one wants to be compared, especially her bad. What's more, you compare your mother to your mother-in-law. There is no comparability at all. Your mother is the one who gave birth to you, raised you and gave you life. Her blood runs through your body. You are a feeling that blood is thicker than water. In your mother's heart, you are her darling, and she will always spoil you unconditionally. And you and your mother-in-law, you have nothing to do, just because an ordinary person, your husband and her son, have changed from a stranger to a person living under the same roof. You are just a junior and a senior. Don't expect your mother-in-law to love you as much as her own mother. It is a blessing that she can be polite to you.

Third, don't always say, my child, it's none of your business. You can only say that your IQ is low and you are confused. You are the mother of the child, and you love him. But the mother-in-law is also his grandmother, and she has the right to discipline her grandchildren if she wants. As the saying goes, I am old and people are old; Young people, young people, young people. Parents are the best teachers for children. Your children will treat you like this when they see that you don't respect the elderly. Therefore, this strong sense of belonging with emotions, although longing for her son, has deeply hurt her mother-in-law like a sharp knife. The grandson who has brought up with hardships doesn't even have the educational ability, which makes her mother-in-law feel lost and in crisis from the bottom of her heart. Indirectly, I also added points to myself, and my mother-in-law and I stood on the opposite side.