What do you do when you are not understood?

Someone asked me, "When you do something you like, but others don't understand you and think it's a waste of time, what will you do?"

I thought about it and said, "I'll just tell him five words, which is none of your business."

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Beckham came to me that day and said that he almost died when he came home yesterday. I asked her what was wrong, and she told me what was wrong when she got home.

It turned out that on the day Beckham came home, their neighbors happened to be at her house. Seeing her back, I asked her some daily things. It was fine, but the neighbor asked her what she planned to do after graduation, and Beckham said she wanted to find it at school.

Hearing this, the neighbor seemed to hear a big joke and said, "Girls will come back after graduation and find a stable job. It is unnecessary to work so hard in a big city. Don't you have to get married and have children in the future? "

After that, he said to Beckham's mother, "You can't let your daughter stay there. It's good to be back. You said that these children are willing to go to big cities now. It's really incomprehensible. Isn't it good in our small place? There is no pressure ... "

Beckham was unhappy. He has told his parents that he wants to find a job at school, and both parents have agreed. Before the neighbor finished speaking, Beckham said coldly, "Aunt, it is my freedom to find a job where I want. Moreover, I have already told my parents that you don't have to worry. "

The neighbor wanted to say something, but Beckham ignored her and went into the bedroom and closed the door.

Some people are like this. If they don't like it, they won't let others do it. I always feel that what I think is right and I don't care what others think.

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In fact, she is not the only one who is not understood. I have experienced such a thing.

I started to learn writing some time ago. Usually there are few classes and more free time, so I just want to find something to do. Usually read some articles and the like, and collect them if you like.

One day, while reading a book, I don't know why, an idea suddenly came to my mind: what would happen if I wrote my own article? The idea lingered in my mind for a long time, but I couldn't get rid of it.

However, I loved writing except in junior high school and high school, and I never took a pen when I was in college. I dare not write for a long time. Even if I want to write, I can't type a few lines after sitting on the computer all afternoon.

At first, I wrote down the contents of a book and added a little bit of my own feelings. Later, I gradually got better and was able to write a little, so that I wouldn't be unable to hold back a few words all afternoon.

One afternoon, because there was no class, I stayed in the dormitory to write an article. A roommate saw me typing on the computer and thought I had homework. He came over and asked me what I was writing. I said I was writing an article. That friend just breathed a sigh of relief: "I thought I had homework. What article should I write? No matter how well I write, I can't be a writer. Don't waste time. "

I watched her apply lipstick to the mirror, ready to go shopping, and didn't say anything. I continued to write my things. She didn't answer when she saw me, so she didn't say anything.

I thought it was over, but since she knew I was writing, she saw me sitting in front of the computer and said I was wasting my time, wasting my time on useless things. Once I couldn't stand it anymore, so I said to her, "It's none of your business. It is better than shopping every day. "

After that, I stopped writing in the dormitory and went to the library as soon as there was no class. She never mentioned me again after that.

Doing what you like and getting the understanding and support of others is of course a great encouragement to yourself. But if others don't understand you, ignore you and do your own thing, it has nothing to do with others.

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I believe that many people do something by themselves but are not understood. You do one thing, she says there is no future, you do another thing, she says it's a waste of time. But if someone has made achievements, it is good luck and completely ignores the efforts made by others. In her eyes, anything she doesn't like or won't do will be considered a waste of time.

Most of these people have two characteristics:

1. Leisure. Most of such people are idle people. Because he is free, he is willing to mind other people's business to kill time. As "Everything about Human Nature" said: "Idle people do more evil and make much ado about nothing".

If you run over and argue with them, they will be more energetic because they have plenty of time to waste with you. When you argue with them, you waste not only your time, but also your patience and willpower.

When you continue to compete with them, your attention and concentration will decrease, and as a result, you two will accomplish nothing. This result has a great influence on you, and there is no loss for them.

Usually you won't get good grades. People who always say that they don't understand are not only idle, but also have no patience and perseverance. When they do something, if they encounter any difficulties, the first thing they think of is not how to solve it, but how to escape.

They will feel that it is not suitable for them, and it is a waste of time to do it. It's better not to do it, let it go. For example, writing, when no one looked at it at first, felt that he was not suitable for writing and was suitable for doing something else. Another example is learning English. We agreed to recite the words, but we never finished reciting the words starting with A. ..

You can imagine the result of giving up one by one. And seeing the result of their failure being hit, they are even more reluctant to do things, thus forming a vicious circle.

Everyone has a different understanding of things, which is understandable. When others give you reasonable advice in good faith, of course you should listen. But if others are moaning, it doesn't matter to deny what you have done, then ignore it and continue to do your own thing.

Arthur Schopenhauer said in Schopenhauer's Wisdom of Life with a pessimistic attitude and an optimistic life: "It is painful to live in other people's opinions. I always pay attention to what others think of me, and constantly face it with the golden mean. Over time, my thoughts and personality have disappeared, because I have no time to take care of myself. In life, we don't need to judge others, because your opinion is meaningless to others. "

Paying too much attention to others' opinions will only make you live in others' eyes and lose yourself. When others don't understand you, you can tell him in front of him: "It's none of your business". Go your own way, others' opinions will always be others' opinions.