Is sex education important?

Is sex education important?

The long-awaited topic finally appeared. ?

Sex education is urgent and particularly important in our country. (Sex is originally a human thing that everyone should understand) Regarding whether a country is developed or backward. Where are the developed countries? Which places are advanced and developed?

Why are so many people willing to go to Japan? Japan is indeed a developed country worthy of its name. My current experience is that Japan has almost everything we think about and need in our daily lives.

There are many things in our country that should be under the sun and that everyone should understand. But it is hidden very deeply. There are many things that ordinary people should be aware of. No discussion allowed. Can't get on the table.

Let me tell you something that is both funny and scary. An old man wanted to have sex with his wife because her vagina was not moist due to her age. Something extremely ridiculous happened. Think about it, what did this old man put into the woman's vagina to lubricate it?

Actually put soybean oil. It turned out to be soybean oil.

Aren’t the people of our country pitiful? Is it scary? Sex education needs to be done as soon as possible. (People need to care.)

Come on, my college classmate was a girl. Her boyfriend had sex with her and he didn’t know what he was doing. He came back and asked the girls in the dormitory what the boys had done to him... At that time, the whole dormitory was shocked... If it were not the boyfriend, it can be said that the man was raped and seduced... Therefore, I think proper knowledge is still necessary...

Tell a story, It was once reported in the news that a young couple had been married for many years without children, but an examination revealed that the woman was still a virgin.

In Wuhan, Hubei Province, a couple born in the 1980s have not had a child for several years, and there is not even a sign of pregnancy. The parents of the two families are anxious to death and have been urging the couple, but they have been I thought there was nothing wrong with me, but I couldn't bear the nagging of the old people later, so I went for a check-up.

The doctor was a little confused when he got the examination report. His wife was still a virgin after several years of marriage. Could it be that the man had a sexual problem? So the doctor separated the two people and asked them alone. The answer was a bit dumbfounding. The two of them had never slept together in so many years. They both thought that they could get pregnant as long as they held hands and kissed.

Behind this matter is the lack of sex education on both sides of the parents. Both parents are high-level intellectuals and have always been very strict with their children's education. However, they are very conservative about sex, so they never let their children get involved in this aspect. They always think that the children will naturally understand when they grow up.

The two people who grew up in such an environment were indeed very pure. They knew nothing about this aspect. After watching them holding hands and kissing on TV and having children soon after, they thought that the same was true in reality. After understanding the situation, the doctor had to educate them on how to prepare for pregnancy, and naturally they became pregnant soon after.

From this aspect, everyone can see the importance of sex education. Of course, there are not many such things, and many people will not understand it. Are there really such "pure" people? The answer is of course yes, but with the development of information today, such things will definitely become less and less.

But on the other hand, the importance of sex education is also reflected in teenagers. Nowadays, some hospitals can be seen everywhere advertising "painless abortion" and "low-price abortion", which shows that the market is very large. This is actually a manifestation of the lack of sex education.

Nowadays, premarital sex is nothing new, but many teenagers only do it for the pleasure of the moment without taking safety measures, resulting in the woman becoming pregnant and having to undergo an abortion. If there is correct sex education, they should know that if they do not plan to get married and have children, they must take safety measures to avoid causing harm to the woman.

Furthermore, good sex education from an early age is also a very good way to protect children. Let children know from an early age which parts of their bodies no one can touch, why "bad guys" like to do some "strange" behaviors, how to avoid such situations, etc.

However, judging from the current situation, there are still quite a few parents who are very conservative. They are unwilling to carry out sex education and oppose sex education in schools. This is really harmful to people and children.

Being able to inspire your children based on the path you have taken is a father’s greatest joy. "Is sex education important?" I found my father had something to say!

"Talk about sexual perversion" is the most regrettable inaction of parents. Two recent incidents have sounded the alarm for sex education!

A video of "a father molesting his daughter on the high-speed train" has been circulated on the Internet. In the video, the man lifted up the clothes of his four or five-year-old daughter and kept touching and kissing her. However, the little girl has been resisting and trying to break free. Although the girl's mother and grandmother were sitting on both sides, they showed no reaction.

Two problems can be seen from the reactions of family members: one is the lack of sense of physical boundaries in the family, and the other is the insufficient popularization of scientific sex education in traditional Chinese society.

Indecency in "intimate relationships" is more subtle and more frequent than indecency in "strange relationships". Judging from the trend of public opinion, it is basically "one-sided" and believes that the girl's father has "marks of obscenity."

From the perspective of maintaining "body awareness", this seems to be a kind of social progress.

The STD and AIDS Prevention and Control Center of the China Centers for Disease Control and Prevention revealed that from 2011 to 2015, the net annual growth rate of HIV infection among 15 to 24-year-old college and middle school students in my country reached 35%, and 65% of students were infected. During college between the ages of 18 and 22.

From these data, what we see is not human desires, but children’s suppressed and delayed understanding of the sexes.

Many parents are ashamed to talk about sex, and even "discoloration" when talking about sex. They think: After all, we have not received sex education before, haven't we grown up anyway? Why give children sex education? When you grow up, won’t it be natural for you to understand?

As everyone knows, sex education is of great significance in helping children understand their own bodies, establish healthy gender awareness, and learn to protect themselves and respect others.

The consequence of the lack of sex education while growing up is that children will be hurt in ignorance, or hurt others.

"How to tell these common sense to children in the right language and at the right time" should be something that parents spend time thinking about and learning.

※ After the age of 3, children's neurophysiology gradually develops and matures, and sexual exploration activities naturally begin to appear. This is the instinct of life. During this period, parents and kindergarten teachers can tell children the scientific name and function of each organ through children's body picture books, human organ wall charts, puzzles, videos or mannequins, etc., so that they can understand and love their bodies from an early age.

※ Children between the ages of 6 and 9 have seen more explicit sexual interactions on television and in movies than their ancestors could have imagined in their lifetimes. Therefore, children at this stage need parents to popularize physiological knowledge, improve children's awareness of self-protection, teach children to recognize the signs of obscenity and sexual assault, and minimize the chance that children may be violated.

※ For children aged 9-12, parents should prepare for their children’s upcoming puberty and teach them reproductive health knowledge such as menstruation, fertilization, sexual intercourse, pregnancy, and contraception, both for boys and girls. Understand and take responsibility for contraception.

※ The significance of a father’s involvement in his children’s education is like the weight of carving to marble. Find out that your father adds bricks and tiles to your think tank every day. For more parenting strategies, please refer to the public account: Discover Dad.

Taiwanese 26-year-old writer Lin Yihan hanged himself at home in Songshan District. Before committing suicide, she sent a message to her college friend, "I wish so much that I was killed the first time I got raped." "How I wish I had died when I was raped for the first time." Later, people read about her experience in the just-published "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise", which was adapted from real events. The novel is a story about a girl falling in love with a seducer. This story tortured and destroyed her life.

When Lin Yihan was seduced by her teacher, she did not understand that she was being violated. She let herself fall in love with her teacher, so that she would not feel uncomfortable.

But in the end, she still couldn't get out of the shadows and ended her life. But she kept the book.

After the Lin Yihan incident, it caused a great stir in Taiwan and caused some judicial discussions. Because of the disclosure of this incident, many bullied girls came to the stage and no longer shouldered the responsibility silently.

Why did these girls resist and report the bullying the first time? Because although they feel uncomfortable being treated in this way, they don't know that it is wrong for teachers or coaches to do so. Their parents and their schools are lacking in sex education.

The "me too" campaign that became popular overseas a while ago also talks about this kind of incident. Many girls only wake up to it after many years.

Sex education is really necessary!

Very important.

I would like to talk about my personal experience as to why sex education is very important.

Our family is generally a conservative family. There is no mention of sex in my family. When I was a child, I liked reading and was a bit precocious in my thinking. I knew a little about it, but I always felt a sense of shame. Now Thinking about how I put sex and morality together when I was a child, I always felt that it was immoral to go beyond the limit. When watching TV with adults, I would shy away from intimate scenes in embarrassment. I would never ask my parents how I did it. When a question like this came, no one told me how girls should protect themselves.

When I was in junior high school, I came back late from playing. There were no street lights and it was very dark. I was picked up from behind by a man and dragged into the alley. I was afraid that I was in a hurry and couldn’t even speak. Screaming, fortunately, he was saved. The man ran away, and he was saved in time before anything more terrible happened.

My mother ran out wearing slippers when she heard about it. She and my father cried when they saw the injuries on my body, but they didn’t dare to ask anything for fear of irritating me. They kept comforting me and saying it was okay. , I didn’t dare to tell them in detail because I was ignorant and didn’t understand, but I was so scared that I had nightmares every night.

My mother was afraid that people would know what happened to me and people would spread rumors about it, so she didn’t report the crime, so she bought me a tube of shock medicine. I still remember the name of the medicine clearly: Amber Baolong Pill. This is the first time I know that there are medicines for panic. It may have a psychological effect, but I didn’t find it useful after taking them.

Our family members all have the trait of self-deception. My parents thought that not mentioning this matter would be a waste of time, because there was no real harm in the first place, and I didn’t dare to tell them that I was actually scared, so The matter settled down.

But this incident caused a deep shadow in my heart, like a knot in my heart. In front of them, I would pretend that nothing was wrong, but behind the scenes, this incident always appeared in front of me.

I am a person who is not sensitive to numbers. I especially remember dates. I have known my best friend for ten years and I can’t remember her birthday, but I remember that dark night. I have been afraid to walk at night for a long time, and until now I have never walked through that alley again. I am very repulsive to strange men. When I go to a barber shop, I only let female barbers wash and cut my hair. Sometimes he would touch me accidentally and I would be frightened.

In fact, my family is a very happy family, and I am very satisfied. However, when I grew up, I realized that the lack of sex education was a regret for my growth. If my parents not only bought me medicine but stayed with me when something nasty happened to me, it would give me a greater sense of security and tell me that there are bad people in the world but more good people and that I should still trust others. Would it be better to teach me how to protect myself better, not to avoid problems but to solve them?

I am glad that I have come out on my own now. Knowledge has given me the ability to distinguish between good and evil. When people are in trouble, they have the instinct to save themselves. That dark and closed time has become a thing of the past. .

So sex education is really important, because not every injured person will save himself, and prevention is better than cure.

Finally, I use Zhang Beichuan’s words to summarize our country’s sex education: “In our sexual culture, reproduction is regarded as the purpose of sex, ignorance is regarded as purity, ignorance is regarded as virtue, and prejudice is regarded as principle.”

Is sex education important? The answer is yes, sex education is very important.

In our era, parents talked about sexual perversion. Even if their children were sexually assaulted, parents did not dare to speak out because they felt it was too embarrassing.

As everyone knows, this attitude of the parents gives the offenders the right. They know that even if they hurt the girl, they will not be punished.

Parents avoid talking about sex knowledge, resulting in many children not knowing which places are their private parts and others cannot touch or see them. Because I don’t know, I don’t know how to say no when faced with someone else’s aggression.

Therefore, sex education is urgent. Providing sex education to children from an early age is to protect them, because children only know what to do if they know what it is and why.

1. Parents help their children understand the various parts of the body

When many parents teach their children to understand the parts of the body, some parents deliberately avoid private parts, and some parents tell a Wrong name. This will mislead children into thinking that this part cannot be talked about.

Parents should tell their children that boys have a penis and scrotum, and girls have a vulva, vagina, and clitoris. Don't say anything about small penis, little sister or anything like that. Tell the child the correct name simply and clearly, and tell the child the functions of each part of the body, so the child will have a correct understanding of his body.

Second, let children take care of their own bodies

Many people like children, like to hold and kiss children. In the child's mind, he does not know what kind of intimate behavior is normal. Yes, parents need to tell their children what kind of hugs are normal, what kind of kisses are reasonable, and which places others cannot see or touch, so that children can learn to protect their own bodies.

3. Tell your children that sexual behavior is an adult’s behavior from an early age

During adolescence, parents can properly tell their children that sexual behavior is an adult’s behavior. .

If you cannot control your behavior, you will pay an unexpected price.

Usually buy more sex education books for your children to talk about the dangers of underage sexual behavior.

Letting children understand sexual knowledge is the best care parents can give their children.

It’s very important. Nowadays, the Internet is developed and smart phones are popular, but sex education for children is still not popular. Especially when some children reach adolescence, they no longer like to communicate with their family members, and they are worried that they will be harmed. . As far as people around me are concerned, sex education for children is still not open to the public. It is very necessary to teach it from an early age.

Is sex education important?

Most children can already recognize facial features when they are one year old. When the mother asks the baby where the ears are, the baby will touch his little ears with his little hands and tell the mother that these are ears. . When the mother asks the baby where his nose is, the baby can accurately point out where the nose is with his little finger. A few days ago, my best friend called me and told me something that made her very helpless and funny.

My daughter, who was three and a half weeks old, cried and said: Mom, my dad’s intestines came out. I was scared to death. Is dad sick? I was also confused when my best friend told her about it. , later, I found out that my best friend’s husband was caught by his daughter while he was urinating, which caused an embarrassing scene. Parents with children at home should pay attention. When the children reach a certain age, they will have to avoid certain things.

I believe the helplessness of my best friend is not an isolated case. There may be many such embarrassing scenes in our daily lives. So how do we deal with this embarrassing situation?

When a girl turns three years old or nearly three years old, she already has an ignorant sexual consciousness. At this time, the father should pay special attention to his words, deeds and behavior, and pay attention to what he wears in daily life to avoid the above behaviors. Awkward situation.

1. Face the concept of sex education

1. Don’t avoid it

When children under 2 years old encounter their parents having sex When fighting hand-to-hand, there is no need to explain, because the children are too young and they really don’t understand anything. Just try to avoid the children next time. When dealing with children over 3 years old, it depends on the situation. If the child is not interested in your physical fighting behavior at all, is indifferent, and is very indifferent, there is no need to chase the child to explain. If your child is caught red-handed and has some awareness, and asks you a very difficult question, you should explain it to your child patiently and softly without avoiding or hiding.

2. Sex education in daily life

Not long ago, I saw a story about sex education on Professor Li Meijin’s public account. The story goes something like this. There was a pet dog at home. One day, the child called the pet hospital anxiously and asked, "Auntie, my dog ??is sick." The aunt asked, what happened to the dog? The child said that there was something strange growing under the dog’s belly. The aunt smiled and said it was okay, don't worry about it.

After returning home, the child told his father about the situation again. After hearing this, his father was worried about how to explain it. At this time, the professor said that the dog was indeed not sick. Those were the dog’s genitals. Just like us humans, we have genitals so that we humans can have babies. Professor Li’s approach sets a good example for us parents!

3. Let children understand sexual knowledge through TV and books

When I was a child, the whole family was watching TV, and suddenly a scene about intimacy appeared on the TV. Parents will suddenly change the channel, or ask an adult to get a glass of water, and use this method to send the child away. Obviously, this is not a good idea and will arouse children's curiosity. It is better to simply take this opportunity to guide the children correctly and tell them that this is a normal physiological need of people and a sign of people's love for each other. Only two people in love can do this.

For primary school students, parents can buy some books on body structure. While understanding the human body structure, they can explain sexual issues to their children. In this way, children will not be curious about sexual issues all the time, and can face them naturally.

2. Establish privacy awareness 1. Promote certain physiological knowledge to girls

Today’s schools are also very important for children’s sex education safety issues. A few days ago, Dabao, who is in the third grade of elementary school, said that her mother had a fifth-grade female teacher at school this morning. She took the girls in our class to another classroom and told us some knowledge about sexual safety and girls. Knowledge about menstrual periods. When Dabao told me, his expression was very calm and natural, which made me feel very relieved.

Because, I remember that when I was Dabao's age, I was like a fool and knew nothing. At that time, teachers and schools were also ashamed to tell children about sexual knowledge. I still remember that when I got my period for the first time when I was sixteen, I was so frightened that I had no idea what was happening. Therefore, when our children reach a certain age, we as parents must help our children establish their own sense of privacy.

For example, when girls become teenagers, they should be told some knowledge and precautions about menstrual periods.

2. Pay attention to the child’s personal privacy

When the child reaches the age of kindergarten, it is necessary to tell the child that no one other than immediate family members such as parents, grandparents, etc. is allowed to touch them. When changing clothes, you should go to your room, close the door and draw the curtains. When the child reaches one year old, do not wear crotchless pants when going out. Even if you wear crotchless pants, you should wear diapers to cover the child's private parts.

After the little girl has passed the age of wearing diapers, she needs to buy some comfortable and well-fitting underwear for her child. Especially in summer, some mothers are afraid that their children will be hot, so they only wear a small skirt for their children. He even let the little girl go out naked. This approach is very incorrect. Parents should cultivate their children's awareness of personal privacy from an early age.

3. Sleep in separate beds and rooms. When children reach a certain age, they should sleep in separate beds and rooms. This is more beneficial. Provide sex education to children. When your child is three years old, you can sleep in a separate bed with your child. When your child is six to seven years old, you can let your child sleep in his or her own room independently. This can effectively prevent children from encountering intimate scenes with their parents, and prevent children from developing premature puberty and curiosity about sex.

4. Parents should dress appropriately in front of their children.

Since summer is relatively hot and they are at home, some mothers will wear less. , some only wear a backless dress and no underwear. It is recommended that mothers should not appear in this kind of clothing in front of boys over five years old, as it will trigger precocious puberty in the child.

In addition, many fathers wear less clothes in the summer, go shirtless, and some even only wear a pair of underwear at home. Fathers who have girls at home need to pay attention. When the girl turns three years old, the father will have to pay attention to his home clothes. Similarly, when dad is changing or getting dressed, he should go to his room and close the door to avoid the embarrassment of being bumped into by his daughter.

Today’s society is developing too fast in all aspects, far beyond the scope of our cognition. Faced with the complex social environment and the current phenomenon of precocious puberty among teenagers, it is very necessary for us as parents to let our children understand certain age-appropriate sexual knowledge when they are of the appropriate age. At the same time, children’s awareness of personal privacy should be cultivated from an early age, so that children can learn to protect their privacy and personal safety.

"Sister, let's take off our clothes in a competition to see who can take off their clothes faster?" Uncle Wang said

So Xiaoli competed with her uncle to take off their clothes.

Fortunately, my mother came back later

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Now, with the transparency of information, " "Child molestation" is a topic. Every time I see such a topic, I always think of "Sowon", and I feel heavy while watching the movie. So much so that I dare not think or see what will happen to a family or a child after encountering such a thing? But it is often because we dare not think, dare not see, dare not speak, that this topic becomes taboo and everyone talks about "sex". However, I think the best way to break down the barriers is to confront him head on about sex. This is what everyone should do, especially parents. Children’s sex education is an integral part of children’s growth. Parents should take the correct approach to sexual enlightenment and sex education for their children.

If Xiaoli’s mother had given Xiaoli sex education and told her that these parts could not be shown to others, I believe Xiaoli would not agree to her uncle’s request. Therefore, sex education is crucial.

The best time for sexual enlightenment is around 3 years old. At this time, children can speak and imitate their parents’ behaviors. At this stage, to help children develop their sexual development, we need to follow the following principles:

First, parents should understand the basic knowledge of the laws of sexual development of their children.

According to Freud’s personality development theory, children’s sexual and psychological development is divided into five stages: oral stage (0-1 years old), anal stage (1-3 years old), genital stage stage (Oedipal stage 3-6 years old), latent stage (6-12 years old), reproductive stage (12-20 years old). Children's physical and mental development is different at different ages. Parents should have sufficient knowledge reserves to identify and provide correct guidance for different performances.

Second, take your children’s questions seriously.

Children are always full of curiosity. Maybe one day, the child will ask you: "Mom, where do I come from?"

Some mothers will say: "You are the mother." Some mothers even scolded their children. The correct answer is to clearly tell the child that you were born by your mother. Although this answer may cause a new round of questions from the children, we should take the children's questions seriously. We have no reason to refuse to let the children know the truth.

Third, discover problems in time and provide guidance.

During adolescence, children's physiological aspects have begun to mature, and they are both eager and afraid of sexual knowledge, which is often difficult to talk about. At this time, parents or schools should explain relevant physiological knowledge to eliminate children's fear. I once read a story about a little girl who saw herself bleeding so much during her first menstruation and thought she had a terminal illness and was about to die. She even left a suicide note. I thought it was funny when I read it, but when I think about it, it turns out that the parents didn’t educate them well enough.

Everyone does not want bad luck to happen to them. Everyone has the awareness of seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages. Therefore, before harm comes, take precautions and master knowledge, not only about sex, but also about other things.