How do older unmarried young men who work outside the home feel when they return to the countryside?

I am such an example.

I haven't been home for four years. I miss home, too. But now the countryside has changed. Everyone becomes strong. Going home is extremely stressful.

For example, everyone has bought a car, regardless of whether they have money or not.

I don't have a car, so I need to walk back to the village. There was a lot of people on every side. They stand in the street in winter and don't know whether it is cold or not.

Walking behind is bound to have a discussion.

When relatives meet, three words are inseparable from three things. Did you buy a house? Do you have a girlfriend? How much is the monthly salary?

Then the students who played well as children either had children or played mahjong.

Topics cannot be said together. We can't play together

Especially I don't smoke or drink. More embarrassing.

What I fear most is the first day of New Year's Day.

Almost all the villagers are relatives. When you go to buy a house, you will be asked once: Have you bought a house? Do you have a girlfriend? How much is a month's salary?

What's more, just ask me how old my child is.

I'm particularly embarrassed!

Does it really take a lot of courage for a man in his thirties who has no house, car and girlfriend to return to the village?

I dare to sleep in the cemetery alone and ride hundreds of kilometers alone. On the mountain, the bridge was opened all night.

But I still don't have the courage to go home for the New Year!

I wonder when the countryside will change.

Become a warm harbor for people outside!

Go back and be laughed at by relatives and friends

Life is like an oil tanker without beacon lights, you never know where it will go next!

Many older men don't want to go home for the New Year because relatives, friends and parents will mention your emotional convenience from time to time. When are you getting married? Why don't you find someone?

I think life should be a happy life, just be happy. For example, there is a colleague from a Fortune 500 company who works overtime every day. The company also has a bottom elimination system. Although the salary is high, it is similar to a corpse. Parents actually want their children to be safe, have their own families and take better care of their parents when they return home. It's only a matter of time before they can be together.

I should have the most say in this question: I am a typical older unmarried young man from the countryside. I am 37 years old and come from a small village in a remote area of Henan Province. I graduated from college and joined the work. I seldom go home, but for a few days at most during the New Year. This state has lasted for more than ten years.

I met my cousin when I was playing live on my mobile phone the other day. He grew up with me. He has been married for ten years this year. The father of two children asked me if I would go home for the Spring Festival this year. I said I probably won't go back. There is nothing special now, so I won't go back. Because I haven't adapted to the living conditions at home. In the words of Luo Yun in the TV series "Win or Lose" I watched these two days, going home is a guest.

Although I have worked in the city for many years, I have not become a real city person, but there is no denying that it is difficult to adapt to life in my hometown. There are many factors in every aspect.

First, the living environment.

I am in Dongguan now, and my hometown is in Henan. It's winter when I go home several times during the Spring Festival, and I obviously feel uncomfortable. It's cold here in winter, but it's acceptable. All the standing clothes are in the cupboard, and it's all over when you put them on. Winter is simple. If you want to go home for the Spring Festival and winter, you have to buy clothes again. I bought it for a few days, and I have to do it again. So buying it is also a waste.

A few days after I went back for the New Year, my hands and feet were frostbitten, and all my memories about the cold were awakened when I was a child.

And the dirt at home is unbearable. A little dust in this room feels dirty. But when I got home, I felt dirty everywhere. Our hometown is still in the countryside, and the yard is full of chicken excrement and pig excrement, and we often can't finish sweeping the ground. This is the home environment.

Don't brush your shoes once every six months. I want to brush it less than a week after I go home, but what should I do if I brush it clean? It will soon get dirty again. It's inconvenient to take a shower. I usually wash it once a day here and once a week when I go back. My mother thinks I wash too much and waste water and electricity. There is no hot water at home for several years, so it's ok.

Second, ideologically and emotionally.

I think one of the main reasons why most young people don't want to go back to their hometown in the countryside is their thoughts and feelings!

Slowly, the more people grow up, the more lonely they will feel. Don't think that you can get rid of this loneliness by being your relatives and friends and being the closest person who watched you grow up. No, walking beside them and living with them have nothing to say, but when we can't talk together, it will aggravate this loneliness.

Mom and dad are old and urging you to get married; My brothers and sisters all ask what you have been doing all these years. Do you want to go to Qian Qian? I haven't dated yet. I'm too old to get married. what do you want to do? People of the same age and others have their own children and wives, and they are all married with their children's lives. It is difficult to find the feeling of happiness and intimacy as a child. These people rarely meet once in a few years, and there is nothing to talk about when they meet. Everyone is busy playing mahjong and has no time to really sit down and chat.

Living in the city, it is difficult to really integrate; Back to my hometown in the countryside, I found that this kind of life is not what I want. This is probably the embarrassment of the living conditions of older unmarried young men!

Whose fault is it that time flies?

Brother, I have a say in this question! Little brother, I am an older unmarried young man who works outside the home!

The taste of going back to the village is so fucking unforgettable that I will never forget it in my life! Keep your head up!

I dare not go out when I get home! I'm afraid to meet my peers, because they are all people with wives and children! I'm afraid to meet my uncles and aunts, and I always think they will laugh at me.

I was inexplicably anxious when I returned to the village.

20 19! God bless me, let me take off the bill quickly!

There is a kind of pressure in my heart that makes me uncomfortable.

Everyone has different feelings. Some people tend to be rational, and will not consider getting married until they have laid a solid material foundation for marriage and married life. Others will be anxious to see others get married, but no girl likes it or has only been in love for a while, so she accepts the blind date arrangement of her parents. This is the result.

Most of the feelings come from two aspects. 1, neighbors will talk about it and poke their spine. In the eyes of those people, the sign of a person's success is that he has money, a house, a car and a wife, so it is difficult to get these through work. They will say what you are like. Some people don't want to face it, so they don't go back to the countryside and save trouble.

Personally, I feel that when I see someone else going out to work and bringing his wife back, I will also long for someone to accompany me and look for it. But if you can't find the other half because of your material conditions or personality, you will yearn for more, so most people will make different choices at this time, either struggling to start a business or sinking down, blaming themselves, their parents and God.

If you have any feelings, you can also talk about it below. Of course, if you have different opinions, you can also say so.

When it comes to feelings, I think it's still a matter of my own conditions. Everyone is different. People in my hometown may say that I am you if I don't get married, but in my hometown, when I reach a certain age, I have to make a difference. If I don't get married at the right age, they will think there is something wrong with me.

If you are particularly outstanding outside, your hometown people are not clear, and you look at you differently, you don't have to care. After all, you don't live for them. I think you should strengthen yourself and repay your parents, so that fewer people will talk.

In fact, it is also very difficult to work outside. Tell the truth, just came out to work. Because many students study straight, I study hard. After learning, always learn not to buy more. Back home, children of the same age have grown up, but they don't know the taste. Usually, they are as good as others. They are all married and live a small family life. Villa after villa has taken on a new look.