There is a saying in the countryside that "visiting at home is worthless". What does it mean?

For a long time, especially in the rural areas in the past, although the children's in-laws are relatives, they usually don't see each other when there is no major event. Of course, objectively speaking, everyone is busy with farm work and has no free time. At the same time, the in-laws relationship is quite special. They are relatives, not close relatives, so they do little action and pay little attention. So, what does the rural phrase "in-laws are not worth half a penny" mean?

It should be pointed out that the "in-laws" here mainly refer to the parents of the woman's family. Judging from the marriage customs of men and women in ancient China, especially in feudal society, there are very serious traditional concepts and bad habits such as male superiority, obedience and four virtues. As the saying goes, "marry a woman, splash water", "marry a chicken, marry a dog and have a dog" and so on are the best proof. It can be seen that in the past marriage activities, the status of women was generally low. In addition, due to poverty, some women work less and less at home, and sometimes they need the help of their son-in-law to borrow some food or money, which also shows that their in-laws are still a little uneasy in front of their husbands.

In-laws should be equal in the past and now, and should not be influenced by any social status, economic conditions and other factors. Because everyone is the parents of their children, it is a rare fate for two families to form their children's in-laws, and they should respect each other. However, in the past, perhaps it was because men were superior to women, so the woman's family felt worse than the man's. So she felt that her speech was not very important and didn't play much role. Since it is "worthless", why did she come? Today's situation is completely different. The social status of the two in-laws is the same. For the sake of children's happiness, we should respect each other, get along well, go home often and strengthen family ties. This is especially true at this stage when there are more and more only children. Occasionally, these two families will become a family, sharing the next generation and family happiness.

Of course, whether in the past or now, it is generally believed that it is better to keep a little distance between in-laws and avoid alienation, which is more conducive to the stability of each other's families. Because in-laws still have different positions, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very traditional and difficult problem. Mistakes in housework can easily lead to misunderstandings. If in-laws often meet, there is a gap in understanding due to different angles, which is easy to create barriers and affect children's lives. The so-called "honest officials can't break families." Therefore, for the sake of children's happiness and stability, in-laws will occasionally come to the door to drink and chat. According to the principle of "Don't ask too many questions when you are old", it is best not to ask too many questions about children.

In fact, for in-laws whose parents are children, "in-laws come to the door" is not "worthless". Exaggerated, it is "priceless." Because both families have only one child, whether it is a son or a daughter, it is marriage that binds the two in-laws, and because of the third generation of children, they are more intimate and intimate. Both families often come to the door because of their grandchildren. Even sons, daughters-in-law, daughters and sons-in-law all love the same, and the third generation loves them more anyway.