What should I do if I have a mentally retarded child? 83-year-old man: This implies parents' love and helplessness for their children.

Have you ever seen a mentally retarded child?

Do you sympathize with them? Are you glad they are not your own children?

But think about it from another angle. What should we do if this is our own child?

Motherly love in this world is selfless. As long as it is her own child, a mother will give it all to her, even if the child is mentally handicapped.

A few decades ago, at about 197 1, Aunt Huang gave birth to her second son after more than five years of marriage. Seeing the chubby child come back safely, the whole family was very happy, and the whole family revolved around the child.

Children in normal families can say some simple words as long as they are seven months old, and they can learn to walk around 1 year old, but Aunt Huang's son does not have the symptoms of these normal children. Aunt Huang encouraged herself: she may develop late, and so on.

Wait, wait until the child is 5 years old, and then slowly learn to walk on the table. As for speaking, my son has never learned to speak here.

In order to treat her son and know what's wrong with her son, Aunt Huang's family went everywhere for medical treatment. However, as we all know, many hospitals can't directly find out what the disease is. After searching for a long time, they found the result in a hospital: Down syndrome.

I believe many people who have had prenatal check-ups now know that there is such a check-up called Down's Screening, which is used to detect Down's syndrome.

Unfortunately, in the 1970s, there was no such detection method.

At that time, the doctor in the hospital directly explained to Aunt Huang and his wife that if the child has this situation, his intelligence will only stay in childhood forever, and someone needs to take care of his illness and life at all times.

Aunt Huang and her wife suddenly fell to the bottom, when Aunt Huang was 40 years old.

40 years old, with the current medical technology, it is not a big problem to have a baby. At that time, Aunt Huang's friends advised Aunt Huang to have another one. After all, at the age of 40, there is still a chance.

Aunt Huang thought for a long time and refused. In the final analysis, the reason is that I have devoted myself to my son for so many years, and I can't let go of this child. Although children will live on their own in the future, they will always be their own children; If you want another one, it is still a question whether you can have it smoothly. You know, Aunt Huang got married for more than five years before she got pregnant with this child.

And even if you are pregnant, it is hard to say whether this will happen. When I met a person with great psychological pressure, this family collapsed directly; Even if the child is normal, young children should take care of their younger brothers as family members from an early age, which is totally unfair to the second child.

So Aunt Huang and his wife are determined to take good care of the child.

Fortunately, when the child 15 years old, he began to learn to speak slowly and was able to walk slowly by himself, which was a spiritual encouragement for Aunt Huang.

At this time, Aunt Huang, who is 50 years old, is actually thinking about her future life. She and her wife will eventually grow old. Who will take care of her son when she is old?

Therefore, since my son 15 began to learn to speak slowly, he kept looking for a matchmaker to tell his son about his daughter-in-law. Not demanding. The woman can take care of herself and her son. In addition, she prepared a lot of bride price for her daughter-in-law, just to give her son a support.

Seemingly low conditions, attractive requirements, until the son is in his twenties, no one wants to marry him, and everyone says that he will not marry a fool.

Therefore, the plan to find a daughter-in-law to take care of her son's lower body fell through, and Aunt Huang had to raise it herself.

It rained when I didn't find my daughter-in-law. My 30-year-old son suddenly lost his brain and his intelligence became lower and lower. Finally, I couldn't even walk, and I was paralyzed in bed. Everything has to be taken care of by his parents, and he can't get out of bed for the rest of his life.

For Aunt Huang, since then, it has become a must to turn over, change diapers and exercise children's bones and muscles every day.

It was not until 20 13 that his wife died. In the days that followed, the responsibility of taking care of my son was handed over to 79-year-old Aunt Huang.

Aunt Huang will be 83 years old by 20 17. Can you imagine an 83-year-old man turning over his son every day?

At this time, my son was 46 years old. Although he was mentally retarded and paralyzed, he finally grew up and was no longer a child.

The 83-year-old aunt Huang's physical function is declining day by day. Until one day, she found that she had no strength to turn over her son. If she doesn't turn over, she will get bedsores easily. If she doesn't exercise the child's muscles, the child's hand muscles will shrink. But considering her own situation, it is impossible to continue to take care of her son.

Aunt Huang accidentally fell down while cooking and was in a coma for two hours. Aunt Huang's first thought was not why she fainted, but what her son should do in the future.

The first time I fainted, the second time I fainted. After all, I am 83 years old. I can't afford to sleep. What should my son do?

Desperate heart, suddenly filled with aunt Huang's heart.

Finally, I made up my mind, bought some sleeping pills and personally fed my son more than 60 tablets. Aunt Huang sat quietly beside her son, watching him fall asleep, and then quietly left herself.

At this time, Aunt Huang felt relieved and followed her eldest son to the police station to surrender.

Finally, I left a sentence: I am 83 years old, and I really can't afford to support him. I hope he leaves before me, so that I can die with peace of mind and see that his life is worse than death. I really can't bear to take him out of his miserable life with sleeping pills.

Everyone is saying that tiger poison does not eat children, but for Aunt Huang, it is more helpless.

My wife and I have given their greatest love to their children. Even if children are just children's intelligence level, it doesn't affect their love for their sons. On the contrary, they have taken care of their son all their lives.

For decades, Aunt Huang has been thinking about a question: Who will take care of her son when she is gone?

This is a problem that Aunt Huang has failed to solve for decades, and it is a woman's problem.

Of course, some relatives said that they can send their children to welfare homes, at least they don't have to take care of themselves, but maybe Aunt Huang has put too much effort into the care of welfare homes, so she has been taking care of herself.

And for the 46-year-old son, because of poor blood circulation, every day is very hard and painful. Life is worse than death, and Aunt Huang is exhausted. Finally, she had no choice but to make such a decision.

Perhaps for Aunt Huang, for years of selfless care for her son, his son is the only one in her heart. When she found herself less and less able to take care of her son, she finally made a choice, and she could also liberate her son.

How desperate and hopeless did she end her son's life? This is a helpless move.

Explain your love for your children with your life, then hate yourself for not taking good care of your children, and finally watch your children walk in front of you, that is, let go of this responsibility in your heart.

In fact, no matter where the family is, it is not easy to give birth to a child safely under the circumstances at that time. As for other birth check-ups, it can't be compared with now.

Especially in rural areas, how many families have given birth to children, and how many years have passed before they know that their children are mentally retarded? What should they do at this time?

There is no solution. Watching this child live under his own care for so many years, now he tells me that this child is mentally defective and needs someone to take care of him all his life, which will bring considerable pressure to every rural family and other families.

How to deal with it later is different from family to family.

But no matter how the other family handles it, people in rural areas can understand that there is a sigh behind it.

I still remember Turgenev had a book called Sparrow. In fact, when I first read it, it was just a fairy tale. But when you have experienced all kinds of life, read it again, and every page inside is filled with two words: maternal love.

Motherly love is the nature of living things. Animals have their own maternal love, and so do humans.

I still remember a few years ago, there was a picture of a female swallow protecting her cubs with her own side because of the hail, and finally she exchanged her life for the safety of her cubs.

At the same time, I still remember that in 20 19, a big fire swallowed up a family, mother and father. In order to keep the child alive, I used my body and my life to resist the flame and save the child.

This is maternal love. Who wouldn't want their children to be healthy if possible?