# Life is farewell again and again # How should we treat parting?

About eight or nine years ago, I worked in a real estate advertising company in Hefei. At that time, the post-80s dominated the workplace, the post-80s were middle-level cadres of the company, and the post-90s were department heads of the company. We were just kids interns who knew nothing. That year, W, who was also an intern, we became good colleagues and friends who talked about everything.

W told me that the only purpose of my coming out to work is to make money. He hopes that he can save enough100000 in two years to travel. The place to travel has been chosen. The first stop was Russia, followed by Finland, Sweden and Norway ... one after another, from north to west, trying to visit the whole of Europe.

He works really hard. He travels on business four days a week, and gets drunk in the hotel for three and a half days without exception. Drinking with customers is a hidden rule that all account managers cannot escape. The customer is willing to come out to drink with you, indicating that the project is not a big problem, but it is not yet time to hand over the contract. Let's discuss it on the wine table, exchange business experience and exchange the goods we need. If the customer doesn't come out to drink with you, it means that the contract is likely to be ruined, or the project docking person is not found right, so take a detour strategy and skip this person to find the next opportunity. This is the sales experience that W taught me.

In this way, W accumulated his dreams bit by bit on the dining table after table. The following summer, W submitted his resignation letter. Before leaving, the department manager left him in the office for a whole afternoon. I can imagine the expression on the face of the department manager. It must be a face of regret and pain. After all, no one in the company does better than W.

W said to me when he left: people must know what they want.

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When she met CC, she was radiant and smelled of perfume. She is Chinese-English, and her parents go to the west to open stores and live on Chinese food. We met in the transparent compartment of the adult English training school. I am a student and she is a teacher.

CC's class is wonderful. Many students like to book her courses at the front desk. In the English corner, she often shares her love life in English. She said, I am an unmarried person. I enjoy the freedom of single life, leaving England and returning to my motherland is the most correct decision she made. Here, she wants to achieve her small goal, save money to buy a house and die alone.

I was naive at that time. I said, what about your parents? Will you go back to see them? Who will take care of you when you are old?

CC suggested that I go out for a walk when I was young. Every country has different values, and we respect everyone's different ideas.

After about half a year at school, I haven't seen CC again. The front desk staff told me that CC went home and got married. She was pregnant and her parents forgave her.

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If you don't learn a musical instrument to cultivate your sentiment in this life, you will really regret it all your life when you are old.

I fell in love with the guitar when I was twenty. Although a little later than their peers, girls still like boys who can play guitar. The main reason why I learn guitar is, of course, to please girls, and the second reason is that guitar is simple.

Mr. Wang is my guitar teacher. I found a guitar teaching post on the Internet with his contact information. Because of the fate of this phone call, Mr. Wang decided to accept me as an introductory guitar disciple, which made me pay 500 yuan tuition without blushing. Now that I think about it, this 500 yuan tuition is really not expensive compared with learning piano.

A must-read book for beginners of guitar is called "March Pass", which means that you will naturally master it after reading for three months. Teacher Wang spent seven lessons and taught me four chords, CDEF.

He said: Four strings go all over the world.

All the songs in the world can be played blindly with these four chords, which is more than enough to deceive the people who eat melons and girls. Then for the rest of the 13 class, we lived on the PS2 game machine in his living room and played all summer.

The day I graduated from guitar was just two days before school started. I bowed to Mr. Wang. I said, we may never meet again. Miss Wang told me with tears in her eyes that you are the worst guitar player I have ever taught, but you are also my best friend. Be sure to go home and play games with me when you have time.

I never learned piano from him again.

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I always liked a girl when I was working in a TV station. She is the external host of our program group and is responsible for hosting a large TV talent show. Because I wanted to be with this girl, I bribed the department head with two packs of cigarettes. With a stroke of his pen, I was transferred to the program group and became the girl's program assistant.

On the first day backstage in the studio, I saw her faint. It turned out to be to stay in shape, go on a diet, and get dizzy with hunger.

I gave her two chocolates, and she smiled and said, did you eat them? I shook my head and ran away in a hurry.

The talent show was held for four weeks. Every week, I have one day to contact her. At noon, we sometimes chat. She said that she studied as a radio host in Zhejiang and wanted to stay in Hangzhou. I didn't expect no connections, it doesn't matter, no background, I can't stay outside. I finally returned to my hometown.

I said, why don't you work harder, or go to Beishangguang to make a living again. She just smiled. She said she really didn't have any dreams. She just wanted to live a simple life, find an ordinary boyfriend, have a vigorous love, and then get married and have children for the rest of her life according to her parents' wishes.

I said: What is insipid?

She said: She looks like Louis Koo.

I'm relieved: your requirements are not high at all. ...

The filming cycle ended, and the last time I saw her was when she came to Taiwan Province to save her salary. I lit a cigarette in the corner of 14 floor, because there, I knew she could see me and I could see her.

Sure enough, she stopped me when she left, and we waited for the elevator together. From 14 floor to the hall, from the hall to the outside of the iron gate, we looked after each other silently, just like backstage in the studio, and no one spoke.

She still couldn't hold back and asked me a question: if you don't stay in the TV station, where are you going to go in the future?

I said: I might leave this city and go outside to have a look.

Aren't you scared? She asked.

I said: if you don't leave when you are young, it will be too late to go out again.

Here you are.

She held out her hand. It's two chocolates.

We each ate a piece, but I didn't expect it to be farewell.

In May the year before last, I learned that she committed suicide by jumping off a building because of depression and stayed in this city forever.

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On September 5th, 20 15, Qi Mei's circle of friends on WeChat, Weibo and Zhihu stopped here forever and never updated. She is a small celebrity on the Internet somewhere in Henan, and has her own fan community. She makes a living from self-media marketing and builds a self-media platform for SMEs.

When I met her, she was doing two things. One is her own talk show about women's feelings, which will be on the platform soon. I gave her many ideas. Another thing, she is the initiator of community public welfare, giving a speech for patients with depression, telling her own illness experience and popular science knowledge of depression, trying to arouse the public's concern and tolerance for patients.

Because she was tired and didn't eat for three meals, she got stomach trouble and often asked for help in a circle of friends at night. She also has asthma, which is congenital and there is no rule of law. This is an ill-fated strange girl, and I have always believed that she can succeed.

Not long after I got married at that time, I always asked her some emotional questions and tried to find answers. She was 37 years old and unmarried, but she helped many people online.

The last entry in her Weibo reads: My passport was frozen in the refrigerator for a year, and I found it yesterday after I packed my things. Finally, I forwarded Weibo's joke about self-healing of depression in ten years. Many people left messages under her Weibo, wondering where she went and why she suddenly disappeared out of thin air. ...

If she were still alive, I think I would be glad to know the news.

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Life is full of stations, airports and docks. Every day, on different occasions, there are parties, meetings and farewells. It's just that we are all too self-centered and live in our own world, and no one has ever thought about it. Maybe this goodbye will be a real farewell.

Going home is full of mourning, and the joy of reunion is full of caution.

Meeting is the beginning of parting.

These people will live in my memory forever, and every time they leave, they will live forever.