Stop distracting and belittling children! Children are unprepared and easy to believe your jokes!

Author \ editorial department

Do you know? Children actually love face more than adults. The writer Tong Hua once said, "Because children's world is small, everything that happens to children is not small.

(Case ㄧ)

A few days ago, in Sichuan, a little boy dressed in a small white floral skirt went on a hot search, and it was not difficult to see that the little boy deliberately hunched over and smiled bitterly. It turned out that the little boy's sister had just finished the injection, and her sister wore sleeveless clothes. Her mother was worried that the place where her sister had the injection was cold, so she asked her brother and sister to change clothes.

(Case 2)

During the epidemic, a mainland girl gained 3 kilograms at home and started school, only to find that the uniform could not be worn. Her mother found it interesting, so she secretly recorded the girl's appearance in the back. After the girl found out, she kept hiding, but her mother forced her to follow suit and even posted it online.

The next day, the students at school watched the video and laughed at the girl. The girl felt very humiliated. She went home and cried and begged her mother to delete it. Not only did her mother not delete it, but she also sent it to the teacher and said to the helpless girl, "Do you know how much praise you got? No, I think it's quite fun.

(Case 3)

In an online class, the mainland teacher repeatedly ridiculed the little boy for gaining weight in front of the whole class. The child felt extremely wronged. He turned off the video and squatted in the corner alone, crying while exercising, holding his legs high, doing sit-ups, running in place to manage his emotions, holding his head in his hands and continuing to cry like a storm.

(Case 4)

A mainland netizen recalled one thing that hurt you the most: when you were a child, you made mistakes, and your mother stripped you naked and drove you out of the house. Mother's behavior may be that she wants her children to remember the consequences of doing something wrong and not to do it again in the future, but what her mother doesn't know is that what the child remembers most is actually the eyes of a passing female classmate. That "contemptuous" eyes are always imprinted in the child's heart and become a shadow that he can't get rid of all his life.

When he grows up, no matter how hot the weather is, he always wears trousers and long sleeves, never showing his skin. He is very afraid of being watched by girls, and he will unconsciously sweat when communicating with girls. (The source of the above case: the original creation group of wisdom)

The younger a child is, the less psychologically prepared he is.

The easier it is for a child to believe the jokes of adults, the easier it is for him to be hurt by what adults say. Maybe you think it's just a joke. How can a child be so blx? What should I do after I can't afford such a thing? However, what adults have never thought of is that when these little things fall on children, they are fateful.

children don't have too much self-awareness before they are two years old, but they shouldn't be teased just because they have no self-esteem. If the child is made angry and unhappy, many adults will even think, "Why is this child so stingy?" "or" why is the child disobedient?

save some face for your child, and the child will live a decent life when he grows up

When someone says that your child is as fat as a Pepe pig, he is so cute. "or" is your son fat? Is it better to eat recently?

If the child's face sinks and silently lowers his head, it means that he is distracted. Parents should immediately stand up and protect their children's face: "He is not fat, but baby fat. At this time, nutrition is the most important. We need enough nutrients to have enough strength to run faster than others.

Only when children believe that they are the best can they have strength and become better.

When children are still young, they don't know how to protect themselves and are unable to speak for themselves and defend themselves, so they are arbitrarily evaluated by others. Zhou Fan, a happiness psychologist, said: "People always think that shame can make a person reflect, but in fact, self-change requires strength.

The less parents publicize their children's faults, the more children value their reputation and will do their best to safeguard their own values. When children believe in their own values, they will create greater values for themselves.