The child stepped on someone else's foot, and the mother's actions made people give a thumbs up. She said that she really knows how to teach!

What would you do if your child was made crying when he went out to play?

If your child goes out and makes someone else’s child cry, what do you not know how to do?

If handled well, big things will become trivial;

If handled poorly, trivial things will turn into big things.

Over the weekend, when the mother below took her son to an amusement park, something like this happened. Her son made someone else’s child cry!

When playing in the ocean ball pool, it is indeed easier to step on and bump into other children, especially since adults generally don’t go in and let the children play by themselves!

Seeing the child who was stepped on cry, the mother said to her son: "Hurry up and say sorry to the child. You didn't mean it, right?"

Son I saw the child crying a lot and his mother's expression was stern. I was afraid that my mother would criticize him, refused to apologize, and even threw the ball at him!

The mother said to the child: "Auntie, can you say sorry to you on behalf of that child? Can you forgive him? He didn't step on you on purpose."

See The next friend nodded, and the mother continued: "How about you two become good friends and play together?" The child nodded again

The mother said to her son: "You can tell the child Are you sorry?"

The son was still unhappy but refused to say anything.

Mom was thinking: Could it be that I handled it the wrong way? Although I was angry inside, I still promptly proposed how to deal with the matter. Deal with the emotions first, and then deal with the matter!

At this time, the mother was holding her son in the rest area nearby, waiting for her son to calm down!

While waiting for her son to calm down, the mother was also thinking: "Why didn't my son refuse to apologize? Why was he still unhappy and throwing the ball at me?"

Mom: "That was just now. Aren't you a little scared?"

The son nodded.

Mom: "Are you afraid that your mother will criticize you?"

The son nodded.

Mom: "Mom won't criticize you. Mom knows you didn't step on the children on purpose, right?"

The son nodded.

Mom: "The kid just cried, are you scared too and don't know what to do, right?"

Son: "Yes, Mom"

Mom: "You stepped on the child, just say sorry to him and it will be fine. He will forgive you. Mom was a little harsh just now, so I want to say sorry to you."

Hear At this sentence, the son fell into his mother's arms and started crying. The mother said, "Are you feeling better now?"

The mother said to her son, "Then let's go play for a while, okay?" ?"

After walking into the ocean ball pool, my son ran to the child whose foot he stepped on just now and said sorry, I didn't mean it.

The child also said to him: It doesn’t matter.

The two of them were happily playing together again!

In the process of dealing with this incident, this mother’s reflections:

1. Why the child refused to apologize and was unhappy. The child was frightened by the child's loud crying, and the mother's stern expression increased the child's negative emotions.

2. Mothers do not understand the reasons for their children’s negative emotions. You should first understand the reasons for children's emotions and guide them on how to express their emotions: you should first accept and identify with your children's emotions.

Crying is a way for children to release their emotions. When the child cries, things will go away!

Why do children in the age group of 3-5 refuse to say sorry?

Children at this stage are self-centered and will only think of themselves when something happens.

In the eyes of children, being sorry means that I am at fault. Children who are self-centered will not think that they are at fault, so it is difficult to ask children to say that they are at fault at this time

Children's thinking is different from that of adults. It is difficult for a child to say sorry when he feels that he has not made a mistake, and it is even more impossible for you to ask him to apologize. So the only way is to communicate more and let the children discover their own mistakes.